Need Advice from the old dogs

[Hobbihorse2]

Sardyop,

Answer to the question about "how much info" depends solely on your risk preferences. I joined ASPD a few years ago because I did not want to take a risk of being busted by ellie or my SO. I also did not want to risk seeing a subpar provider. I wish we had access to all the discussions about screening info that we were willing to give vs. the ladies needed (Juan2fork and I had a lot of posts trying to help newbies on this issue)

The bottom line is, you can give all your personal information and make the reputable providers comfortable enough to see you anytime. That is one end of the spectrum but it always leaves you open to being discovered, busted or in some crazies' cases (please ladies, no offense is intended) even blackmail. Yes 99% of the providers have at least as much as you to lose but do you really want to take the risk of running into that 1% provider? I don't and never have.

If you don't mind spending a little bit more for your security, my suggestion is to do a public meet (coffee or a dinner date) where you pay for the providers time without any play time. If she gets comfortable with you, you'll meet for a rendez-vous and you have your first reference. You can either use that reference or the same way to see another provider and "BAM!" now you have two references that will hopefully allow you to seeany other provider.

That was the way I chose to start playing, and nobody has any information about me but my handle, my yahoo e-mail and my hobby phone. I can sleep at night knowing that there is no possibility of linking my handle to my name. Am I an extreme case? Maybe... But remember "just because you are paranoid, does not mean that they are not out to get you" Or in much nicer words, I'd rather be safe (very very safe) than be sorry.

HH

[sardyop]

Hobbi,
Staying safe is my main concern. Ending up robbed or even worse arreted would ruin my life. I cannot afford to experience anything that I canno explain when the family comes home.

Like I said before I have some time before my 3 days of play so I am starting to do my homework. Hopefully when the time comes, I will have plans made and appointments scheduled.

The hobby phone is probably a good idea. Whatever I do it has to be a cash transaction. My bank, and checking acounts are seen each month and anything on those accounts will get me in trouble.

[Guest031210-2]

Im not an old dawg but I can give you my perspective. I would NEVER go to another womans home, in her bed! I think that is LOW! And, what if she comes home, that could be dangerous.

Please have some respect for her by not bringing another woman into her bedroom or home. Not cool at all. If I came home and found out, you would lose that 3rd leg of yours. Dont forget we women are very territorial...and crazy when we are scorned, no limits, and we can get away with it using temporary insanity pleas, lol.

Seriously, get a room. Why take the chance?

[MrGiz]

I have had escorts over to my house several times.... but only when I was in 100% single mode!

Hotel or Incall . . . . don't even consider your place!!

Giz

[Fisherman]

No way. By all means get a room. You are asking for a disaster. Usually if you do something stupid, it will bite you in the ass!

[SHELTON]

You asked advice from the OLD DOGS.....wanna know how we get to be OLD DOGS? We do not make stupid mistakes while thinking with the little head.......get a room dude.

[guest042712-2]

Originally Posted by Outdoorsman

And besides if I had them over to my house, I would have to clean it up, Jeez. I have never figured out what that clothes hamper thing is for, lol.

Sounds like you might need the nude house keeper as well ...giggle

Nice view when she bends over to pick up every single piece of clothing that has happened to miss the hamper.....

[annie@christophers]

AND NOT FOR ADVERTISING(as some would like to say!) Get a HOTEL..OR ..INCALL..or use a AGENCY that has been around ( I personally dont care who you are long as a gentleman) DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT bring the LADIES to your home... I feel like a broken record... Annie

[leglover05]

Originally Posted by annie@christophers

AND NOT FOR ADVERTISING(as some would like to say!) Get a HOTEL..OR ..INCALL..or use a AGENCY that has been around ( I personally dont care who you are long as a gentleman) DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT bring the LADIES to your home... I feel like a broken record... Annie

No screening?!?!?................ .........Scary!!!!!!!!

[VeronicaMoore]

lol how did you get "no screening" out of that??

[Outdoorsman]

Good suggestion Lilith, thx. If I were to do that then I would intentionally spread my clothes all over the place at least now in a nice pile next to hamper, lol.

[leglover05]

Originally Posted by VeronicaMoore

lol how did you get "no screening" out of that??

Originally Posted by annie@christophers
........a AGENCY that has been around ( I personally dont care who you are long as a gentleman) .... Annie

[Snapper6057]

Do most of you guys have a hobby phone, has any one had any issues with using their personal cell phone, thanks

[robobird]

I'm fairly new but I would never use my phone! remember erase all history.....keep the numbers only on the sim card....pull the sim when not using the phone sometimes the girls you meet may want to contact you they have your number if you see them this way I can have them call or whatever and have no worries.

[stavinChain]

Originally Posted by Snapper6057

Do most of you guys have a hobby phone, has any one had any issues with using their personal cell phone, thanks

Snapper, a hobby phone is the best $20 you'll ever spend. Register it anonymously; and to quote AWNA - be prepared to throw it off a bridge at a moment's notice.

There are plenty of good reasons not to use your personal phone, but I would only elaborate on those in the Men's Lounge.