There was something on NPR a while back about fear of rejection.
A guy had a handicapping fear of rejection in just about everything from talking to ladies to job interviews.
I don't remember if it was in therapy, but someone told him to ask someone a question that he knew they would say "no" to, just for the rejection and chalk that up as the ice breaker and as a win since he had already been rejected that day. It was a concept that took him a while to embrace and employ.
But once he did it worked very well for him. As soon as he was rejected he would thank the person and move on for the rest of the day.
Yes he came off a bit strange to that person who rejected him, but it freed him from his fear of rejection by making it a positive experience since he was now seeking rejection.
Find the hottest girl in the room and ask if you can try on her bra. 99% of the time the answer will be some version of no.
Since you tried this with the hottest girl, you can now move on with your first win, talking to the hottest girl in the room.
As for the 1% that may say yes- be prepared for a bit of excitement.
My way of building confidence is in making people laugh, Jessica loved Roger because he made her laugh.
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