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Big_Mike88 · 02-25-2016, 05:23 PM

Lol you guys have it all figured out. Exactly what I was looking for. Lol thanks again!

DocHolyday · 02-25-2016, 06:03 PM

Pardon me BM but if you ditch the GF, you won't need to worry about the issue because you have eliminated it. You could not get involved in the hobby and again you will have eliminated the issue. If you are considering the hobby, I would suggest my first option as the solution. There must be an issue with your GF already for you to consider entering the hobby. Ladies, Gentlemen, good evening!

Guest100116 · 02-25-2016, 08:54 PM

Dump the girlfriend. It's cheaper to rent than buy.

Big_Mike88 · 02-25-2016, 09:49 PM

Lmao no we are happy. But I've been with her the last 5 years. And before her only banged about 4 other chicks. I'm feeling the urge to try something new if you know what I mean. I've only ever been with Hispanic chicks. I'm afraid if I get married to her I will cheat. Lol I wanna try and get the bucket list checked off before I stay faithful.

Guest100116 · 02-25-2016, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

Lmao no we are happy. But I've been with her the last 5 years. And before her only banged about 4 other chicks. I'm feeling the urge to try something new if you know what I mean. I've only ever been with Hispanic chicks. I'm afraid if I get married to her I will cheat. Lol I whanna try and get the bucket list checked off before I stay faithful.

Yeah, the ladies here will be waiting for your return. Just sayin

ck1942 · 02-25-2016, 10:58 PM

Hobbying should not be considered cheating, imo.

For many gents (and ladies, too) the Hobby is akin to a corollary to married/relationship life.

Almost even complementary (not necessarily "complimentary."

G & Camille, I hear both of ya. I feel my observation is valid for several reasons.

But the reality in my humble opinion is that unless a gent here knows why he is here, and what he expect here, and how to achieve both, he will possibly (choose from below)

1) never have a great hobbying career
2) destroy whatever relationships he may hold dear
3) have intermittent hobbying alternating between great, meadiocre or lousy
4) have so much fun that he loses control and, then what?

Also in reality, much of the above should apply to providers, too.

Nightshift83 · 02-26-2016, 04:51 AM

Big Mike88, i think you should do some real soul searching dude. Once you do something ,the second time is easy. With that being said if I were you I would take a break from your gf and tag as many chicks as you can then get back with her. You are suffering from a condition known as SAS ( same ass syndrome). If left untreated you will look back at your life with some regret. If you were happy with her, other women would not cross your mind. My.02. Good luck dude

Atx19 · 02-26-2016, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

Lmao no we are happy. But I've been with her the last 5 years. And before her only banged about 4 other chicks. I'm feeling the urge to try something new if you know what I mean. I've only ever been with Hispanic chicks. I'm afraid if I get married to her I will cheat. Lol I wanna try and get the bucket list checked off before I stay faithful.

This is one of the most powerfully addicting activities one can possibly imagine. Probablly has somethimg to do with the way we are wired. You will find that bucket list growing with each visit, intriguing review you read, and provocative post by some of these beautiful ladies.

And heaven help you if you find someone you really connect with.....the spell can be beyond powerful. I won't tell you to walk away because I am fairly certain you are going to play now that it has piqued your intrest....given the risks involved just be careful and do your homework.

Big_Mike88 · 02-26-2016, 10:02 AM

SAS is exactly what it is. And since some don't consider it cheating, my question then becomes, why can't I just do both? Be with her, and hobby? I don't see anything wrong with it and I'm sure I'm not the only one here who has a SO and does this hobby. (Well I'm about to get in to it)

Big_Mike88 · 02-26-2016, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Atx19

This is one of the most powerfully addicting activities one can possibly imagine. Probablly has somethimg to do with the way we are wired. You will find that bucket list growing with each visit, intriguing review you read, and provocative post by some of these beautiful ladies.

And heaven help you if you find someone you really connect with.....the spell can be beyond powerful. I won't tell you to walk away because I am fairly certain you are going to play now that it has piqued your intrest....given the risks involved just be careful and do your homework.

This post is probably the most meaningful to me so far. So hear me out. As of right now, today, 2/26/16 I'm happy with her. Just not so much our sex life. And I think our sex life will only improve due to the hobby. (Don't know FOR SURE how that will play out exactly just yet) But if I really connect with someone here and it pulls me away from my current relationship, so be it. It wasn't meant to be. But my thought process right now is its going to be a hobby. Doesn't mean I don't care about her or don't want to be with her, but I'm just the type of guy that won't ever force anything. If she catches me doing this, I'm not going to say sorry, I'm not going to beg, I'm not going to force her to stay. I know that this could be a deal breaker coming in to this hobby and I'm willing to deal with the consequences if caught by her. But in order to avoid all that, I just wanted to see how some of the gentleman here make it work in their lives, just to get perspective.

Camille Fox · 02-26-2016, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

(...) And since some don't consider it cheating (...)

heh...

Have fun but don't fool yourself

EnticeOrchids · 02-26-2016, 10:37 AM

I would say pick up a few hobbies to mask this one.....i like the golfing idea but doesnt sound like it would be your sport. Biking volleyball softball fields everywhere. Do a lap roll in the grass and bam! Instant story

moebeedick · 02-26-2016, 10:42 AM

My word of advice for you Big Mike.. Happy hobbying bro! Lol!

Big_Mike88 · 02-26-2016, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Camille Fox

heh...

Have fun but don't fool yourself

Lol I will have fun, but I never said I don't consider it cheating. I said since some ppl dont. In one of my other posts I said I choose this hobby Bc I want to be faithful once married.

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I would say pick up a few hobbies to mask this one.....i like the golfing idea but doesnt sound like it would be your sport. Biking volleyball softball fields everywhere. Do a lap roll in the grass and bam! Instant story

I do ride a motorcycle, so my excuse will most likely be going for a ride. 🍻

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My word of advice for you Big Mike.. Happy hobbying bro! Lol!

Lmao nice one!

Ms. Milani · 02-26-2016, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

This post is probably the most meaningful to me so far. So hear me out. As of right now, today, 2/26/16 I'm happy with her. Just not so much our sex life. And I think our sex life will only improve due to the hobby. (Don't know FOR SURE how that will play out exactly just yet) But if I really connect with someone here and it pulls me away from my current relationship, so be it. It wasn't meant to be. But my thought process right now is its going to be a hobby. Doesn't mean I don't care about her or don't want to be with her, but I'm just the type of guy that won't ever force anything. If she catches me doing this, I'm not going to say sorry, I'm not going to beg, I'm not going to force her to stay. I know that this could be a deal breaker coming in to this hobby and I'm willing to deal with the consequences if caught by her. But in order to avoid all that, I just wanted to see how some of the gentleman here make it work in their lives, just to get perspective.

Another suggestion is maybe try and kink up your sex life with her? Threesomes, bondage, toys, etc?