Have you ever fallen for a Provider?

[James_Bond_007]

Well to tell you the truth this happened to me with Safire sweet. I had never had a girl make me feel the way she did. She was really nice and I loved her personality the body was great and the sessions were unbelievable. I have been searching for that same experience and it's like chasing the dragon no one has made me feel the same way since. I have seen porn stars strippers and other providers but I can't seem to replicate my experience with her. Now that she was moved to the the 400 to 600 range I can't afford to go and see her anymore. So I guess I will have to find another provider who I can vibe with on that level

[MaxiMilyen]

Bond, your mission, should you choose to accept it...no wait, that's Mission Impossible.

Finding good vibrations and falling for a provider might be considered very different to some. Best of luck on your mission. This smiley will self destruct in 5..4..3..2...1...

[NatalieSummers]

This thread has been written many times before....seems like it is a popular subject and it also seems it is still an issue.
It happened to me! I had just started in this biz with absolutely no intention of getting involved or letting someone get close to me, but..............it happened......when we both least expected it to.
Here we are......6 years later. Still together and loving each other more every time we are together. We hope to make it permanent one of these days, but alas, we both have obstacles at home to overcome.
But my situation is an exception, not the rule. Just enjoy your blissful hour and keep it at that. You might get your feelings hurt if you push the boundaries and some really good bridges may be burned.

[nosweat]

I ended up in a very nice relationship with a super hot provider several years ago.. she was perfect age (half mine+7 years); we hit it off in many ways. She had a kid and wanted her independence and I was (and still am) married and not about to leave the wife.. We would get together around 3 times/week- there was no clock-sometimes we would be BCD all afternoon and have a bed party. I always asked her if she needed $$- sometimes I would give and sometimes she would say I'm good... I knew she saw a few other guys and was Okay with it as she was totally safe.
ended up some guy started stalking her and for her and her son's safety she decided to move away for a bit.. saw her a few times after when she came back to visit family but eventually it just dissolved and that was a very good thing as it could have ruined me...
that is a VERY isolated instance... I have had the provider throw me the rare hey lets fuck today free visit because we really enjoy each other BCD; but even then you have to draw the line a bit or things can get real ugly if emotions are involved

Bottom line: there are NO boyfriends and Girlfriends here- this is a Pay for Hire BIZ

[James_Bond_007]

These are real good points I guess maybe I am just into finding a single provider that I can just have a good vide with for some reason that has become important to me I don't know why

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by esteve

This is the main reason I avoid kissing as much as my will power allows. It only accentuates the magnetic pull of emotional attachment we want to feel for them. For the most part, I am successful. For a couple of them, and they know who they are, the bittersweet feelings are unavoidable. But fall for them, no.

esteve, thx for sharing your thoughts.
that's an interesting reason for not wanting to kiss a provider.
i wouldnt thought of it that way.
but we all like different things, and we all experience the same activity in wholly different ways. what's a sensuous activity to me is a less desired accentuated attachment to you.

more power to you as you navigate and experience your interactions.

[daty/o]

Thanks PM, guess I've seen Pretty Woman once too often.

JB, maybe you are looking for that 'click' because there is often a more comfortable intimacy with someone you have developed a relationship with. Best of luck, sir.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by James_Bond_007

These are real good points I guess maybe I am just into finding a single provider that I can just have a good vide with for some reason that has become important to me I don't know why

james, after that first episode [in fall of 2001], i learned my lesson and now interact w/ the women i visit in a wholly different way. i experience them as people who can help me experience something that i normally cannot experience in my real life. the icing on the cake is that with some of them, i can talk with them very freely about all kinds of things - things going on in the world, some of the fun i've had recently with others [both RW and HW, both sexually and just weekend events (like craft shows or museums or movies)], whty they've been up to, what were going to do the next time we meet :^), etc. things friends and/or lovers would shoot the breeze about.

however, as i navigate into and in this sub-culture, there is a BIG sign saying "you are now entering hobbyworld". so, i chose not to extend our relationship to a much deeper and more intimate friendship, much less a life partner level. we're friendly w/ each other, but i cant easily at the drop of a handkerchief go be with them or help them out of a jam or take them to the doctor's when they're sick or invite them over for dinner at my house. so, i cannot be close buddy-buddy friends with them. that's one thing i wish i could do w/ some of them, i like them so much.

and for the ones who i really enjoy being with, i've never sat down w/ them and said "ok, here's the deal. i like being with you. here's what i want in the future." it's more, let's meet at 7pm on nov 18 for 2 hrs and enjoy ourselves. if that encounter goes well, i'll keep her on my gvha list and i'll contact her in the future for another encounter. i might send fun or sexy or "hi there" emails every once in a while, maybe even schedule a time to call and talk for a while. but that's about as far as i chose to take it.


so, i would suggest you look for women whose offerings are enjoyable and deliteful and affordable for you and that might appear to be someone you'd like to hang out with for an hour or two or three. then go visit them once or twice and see if you like them, have fun, and want to do it some more. either you will continue or you dont [too many red flags show up].

more power to you in your search for whatever it is you're searching for.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by esteve

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JB, maybe you are looking for that 'click' because there is often a more comfortable intimacy with someone you have developed a relationship with. Best of luck, sir.

jb, what esteve described has appeared in some of my encounters and escort/companion relationships. the more i like the woman as a person and "friend" and the more she likes me, the higher the probability that our encounters will be more intimate, stimulating, and FUN!

and if that happens, then sometimes, you ask for something different and she says "sure, that sounds like fun! let's do it" like out for brunch, lunch or dinner. or role playing. or special outfits for her to wear. or overnights as a great rate. or maybe none of those cos they could lead you to the slippery slope of "falling for a woman".

take care...
see my signature below.

[James_Bond_007]

Man you guys are great this has made me look at this in a whole different way. I was stuck on Safire cause maybe she was what I thought I was looking for I a woman that was bad on my part

[LuckJack]

Be afraid, be very afraid..................

but I have done it before and probably will again.

[Guest071613-2]

Oh you negative Nellies need to cut it out.

Has anyone ever fallen for a woman? We (providers) are not any different than civvie women except for the fact that we are more open minded. You mean to tell me that a civvie lady won't hurt you? They are any less problematic than providers? Really? Then why is the hobby even here if civvie women are so wonderful? Give me a break.

Bad shit can happen in ANY relationship, hobby or otherwise. Do what you would do with any other woman. Be cautious. There are good people and bad people in every walk of life.

You probably shouldn't set out to date a provider and use ECCIE as a sexual Eharmony, but people have fallen for each other in the hobby and it has worked out, but no one talks about those because it's not as dramafied and therefore not as much fun to talk about.

You guys crack me up sometimes.

Why is no one swearing off falling for civilian ladies? I'm sure some of you have had bad experiences with them. Correct?

Originally Posted by James_Bond_007

And Providers I know we are just Money to you but have you ever fallen for a customer?

Just a thought...if it were only about the money there should be no YMMV. Just sayin'.

[argus256]

I have.... twice. There will not be a third. (well, there might be)

[pmdelites]

a few things,

as others have said, just remember this site is for escorting and companionship, not for dating/life relationships. [escort client community information exchange]

and have one or more plans for deciding who to visit.

a friend's granddaughter has ads on bp's "women seeking men" section. she would just write down their names and ph# or email. then call them and talk for hours before deciding he wasnt the one. she told me, "pm, this is crazy!! i'm spending so much time and not finding the guy i want!"

so i suggested a bit more efficient way was to take/write notes about each guy as she collected info from their emails [age, location, hair, likes, whatever]. then weed out the non-appealing ones [she developer her own criteria] and call the more appealing ones. told her it could save time and aggravation. another filtering technique she used - she posted multiple ads; if a guy responded to more than one, she struck them from her list.

since she implemented this technique, she's had some better dates and been having fun. but she hasnt settled on the one yet.

a similar technique could be used to find a woman to escort you or be your companion for an hour or two or more.


james, hope that this is giving you some insights into and ideas of this sub-culture.
and best to you in your search!

[Lana Warren]

I have had 3 really nice gentlemen fall for me and of the 3, two of them told me that they loved me! I was very fond of them, but nowhere in love with them and it broke my heart to tell them that I didn't love them that way! Even had couple of guys that I dated a few times, contact me and said they couldn't see me anymore because they felt they were getting too close, but we have remained very good friends!