Victoria, I tried to come up with a solution for a while..and a bit more..and I realize I don't have one, even though, for you, I'd love to help
Then it dawned on me that one of the reasons I rarely do overnights is because until I feel comfortable disclosing my full name...incase of emergency etc..and maybe one or two other things, I wouldn't feel comfortable falling asleep with someone. If I don't trust someone with my eyes open I wont trust them with my eyes shut. That's just me though..I can be a bit odd like that
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Hugs
C xxx