Married/Single Hobbyists

[heidilynnla]

In general, I find that the 30 something clients are mostly married with young children. The general complaint is that after kids, the wife Loses her sex drive. I don't have kids so I don't know.

Opposite of gimmes statement, I think these are the guys who pay me bcd but wouldn't date me in real life because they want a trophy wife. I can say approximately 10% say they hate the wife, 25 are usually wealthy and single don't want drama, 60% are happily married Just don't get physically fulfilled at home but love the wife, 5% are just plain old dawgs who get it at home and love variety!

Anyone agree or disagree!

Originally Posted by gimme_that

When you say high expectations, I'm presuming you mean sexual right? Not so much looks, personality, etc......

It can be hard to find woman who provide all of what these ladies provide for us physically. But what we tend to forget is in the hobby that's mainly motivated by money. I'm sure it could be in civilian dating as well, but an emotional attachment has to be there for her to have the motivation to accommodate you.

This may be limited to the types of ladies who attract your interest, and the ones you feel comfortable approaching. If you date woman who aren't normally sexually inhibited as the degree providers are here. The ladies you see or fantacize about in the hobby and see may be starkly different for your civilian counterparts personality wise. But this is the part most hobbyist never see no matter how good the provider client relationship.

If your reasons are more physical, I think I agree with you as these ladies performances do set the bar hih for ladies in my civilian life. Sex is exciting initially when I'm dating and ladies go all out to please you. But at some point it tapers off at some point after she has locked you in. I'm a big believer in "the stuff you do to get me, is what you will need to do to keep me.".....but that goes both ways through. I'm under 35 and tend to date woman between 23 and 28 civilian (seem to be more youthful and agile to me) because of the physical limitations and busy careers and lifestyles of ladies closer to my age. They have a little more time to relax from time to time in bunches.

But what I want in the hobby is vastly different from the types of ladies I date civilian. I tend to see thicker more curvvy woman (20 pounds or so from BBW or so) in my civilian life versus mostly petite woman with curves in the hobby. Mainly because my ideal body type pics of ladies I choosewere not all good ones sex wise.

[jan-w]

I'm a single guy in my 50's, divorced for 3 years now and never hobbied until after my divorce. I'm not rich and am careful with my money so I only see the ladies occasionally. It's just a way to treat myself and gives me something to look forward to. If I was married or involved with someone, I honestly couldn't say if I would give up the hobby. I guess I won't know until that happen.

[ashwednesday666]

Sometimes significant others .....

[NshoreGeorge]

I am older, and very much single, my divorce was so long ago that it is a paper record.
I enjoy being able to see a variety of ladies who for the most part stroke my Ego as much as my Manhood. We both usually walk away happy about the arraignment.
Were I to go out attempting to develop a relationship with ladies my providers age I would be looked at as strange. Were I to attempt to live with ladies of this age we would both drive each other nuts.
A business relationship, Maybe giving each other pleasure, but at least a laugh or two and some fun.

Always looking for ladies that are
OFF
(Old Fart Friendly)

[DallasRain]

ditto heidi!

{I like to say that my guys are looking for "that dirty girl" element they dont get at home}


Nshore--OFF ...cute! lol

[myn4kix]

I'm in the same boat as NSG,
Long divorced and way beyond chasing pussy or playing games.
I can count the providers I've had in the last 5 years on one hand but they are all first class. I like the dinner dates with sexual inuendos and giving me a good show and a wild ride. Yeah I like it when they O, real or not, as long mine is found in swallOw.

[TwistedTiger]

Originally Posted by weebbadd

As a married guy I started the hobby about 12 years ago when my relationship with the wife went south. I have enjoyed the ladies but prefer to have a special relationship with a single provider most of the time thru the years. I am on the verge of a divorce and have backed off some from the hobby trying to get my money in order.
I enjoy variety from time to time but if I met the right lady my hobby days would be over. The problem is I haven't met the right lady, yet, as I have high expectations after meeting so many classy ladies here. I could easily fall for many of the ladies I have met here, but I am realistic that it would be a long shot for one of these lovely ladies to be serious about an old fart like me, and I am not rich so that kinda kills any chances I may have. Plus I have an old school attitude not to mix this pleasure business with my love life.
I hope my next relationship works out much better than my current one, I kinda figure that I when I meet the right girl I won't want to hobby because she will want to do all the things I want to when I want to.
At least a guy can dream, if it doesn't work out I will be in this hobby for a long time to come which for me is not a bad thing right now.
Sorry but romance is

Damn, are you me or at least my twin. I couldn't possibly more accurately describe my situation. I prefer to be monogamous however I have really really enjoyed the hobby and some of the super hot and delicious providers I have met. However my marriage is nearing it's end and I have needs as anyone else does. I will continue to hobby until I meet that someone special that I plan to spend the rest of my life with. However I am older and wiser now, the batting of eyelids and occasional blow job wont win my heart and soul. I've met a few providers that have definitely tugged at my heart strings. They have been hot, but also had a wonderful personality. I'm not young and naive enough to forget that this is a business deal and that they probably would not give me the time of day if it were not. I'll continue to hobby while I keep my eye open for that someone. If I never find that woman, 30 years from now I'll be the one that shows up with a cane looking for a BBBJ and some K9! Hopefully my tongue still has enough wag for a little DATY too.

[PAPA JOE]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

60% are happily married but love the wife, 5% are just plain old dawgs who get it at home and love variety!

LOL ... i'm a happily married, wife lovin', plain old dawg !!!

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

.... Anyone agree or disagree!

Call me a 5%'er !!

[weebbadd]

Hedilyn I would date you anytime In real life, you are quite the cutie.
I hear ya about your statistics, I think that is pretty accurate for the most part.
I wish i was a 5% Er like giz, but my situation is what it is. I have dragged my feet on getting a divorce maybe partly due to my hobby time makes life bearable. Just trying to explain my perspective. Us guys have many various reasons we Choose to hobby, but we are all just horny dogs at the end of he day.
Twisted, we need to have a drink and compare notes, or hell maybe swapping wives might work for us.

[DallasRain]

quote---or hell maybe swapping wives might work for us.

wooohooooooooooooooooooooooooo o!!!!! lol

[heidilynnla]

You can date me in real life and see Dallas BCD. I felt like I couldn't keep up with you! lol You and Dee are mfeo.. (totally kidding ya'll)

Originally Posted by weebbadd

Hedilyn I would date you anytime In real life, you are quite the cutie.
I hear ya about your statistics, I think that is pretty accurate for the most part.
I wish i was a 5% Er like giz, but my situation is what it is. I have dragged my feet on getting a divorce maybe partly due to my hobby time makes life bearable. Just trying to explain my perspective. Us guys have many various reasons we Choose to hobby, but we are all just horny dogs at the end of he day.
Twisted, we need to have a drink and compare notes, or hell maybe swapping wives might work for us.

[dilbert firestorm]

just curious, how many have wifes that know you hobby and don't mind? must be a very small percentage is my guess.

[RichardNixon]

This has become a very interesting thread with great feedback.

As a single guy, my biggest nightmare would be: stuck in a marriage/committed relationship with a woman that did not satisfy my sexual needs.

I was there long ago ... I don't know how you guys manage it.

I am convinced that divorce is about the only sane American institution that is left.

[LilRed]

I would say the bulk of my clients are married. Because I am a mature provider, most of my clients are mature too, so I get a good bit of divorced and widowed gentlemen as well. Occassionally I get to play MILF or cougar. I am sure we could name a million reasons men see a provider, but I think variety and lack of attention at home are the reasons I hear the most. It is all the different needs of my clients that allow me to have variety as I try to fulfill their specific needs. I personally think dating sucks these days. It is soooooo hard. I can see why single men would prefer to see a provider rather than go to all the trouble of a date. I know I have days as a single woman that I wish I could just call a provider!!