I'm with P and the others on this....provider refs ARE important to some of us. Maybe I look at it a little differently as I play primarily in SBC, a very HOT zone. We, as a community, have tightened up on this part of the hobby....we reference People, not just handles. We match phone #s, use security questions, etc. I admit it sounds extreme, but it has kept us all safer and out of trouble. And we, the top GFE ladies in town, have made it quite clear that if you visit our town, you are expected to play by our rules. If you don't, then no, we won't provide or accept references from you...ie, using backpage specifically in SBC is a huge no no...it's a risk to all of us. If you don't agree, that's your choice of course. You just won't be playing with me or mine :-)
Nor is petty drama or undercutting other ladies accepted in SBC...this is how the strength of community helped us... communication among hobbyists and providers brings bad mojo like this out pretty quick
As for calling out bad behavior, well hell yes! If someone opens the door, why not? I've publicly called out people who have been disrespectful or played games. Isn't that what this board is for? We each have our own private areas of discussion, but some warrant a broader audience.
My 2 cents
Majic