Relationships

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by mongostryker

That's for damn sure.. lol..

I have been easing my foot into the pool, so to speak.. I'm really hoping to develop a relationship in the hobby with 1 or 2 providers to see on a regular basis.. But being in JOCO, it seems hard to find.. But just like dating, it takes time.. lol

This comes down to: what do you mean by relationship? Think strongly about how you are using the word. What does it truly mean to you, and what is implied.

We all have our fiscal and physical needs. We also need friends we can trust. The hobby is abound with people you couldn't trust with a nickel.

Use your big head to think about this; not your little head.

JR

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by DallasRain

You can't shake a "whore tree" and expect a wife/best friend/girlfriend to fall out!
{be careful when crossing that line....From what i heard,it has been done successfully in some cases}

Very good statement.

But very few cases!

JR

[NASDAQ]

Originally Posted by Savannah Moon

Slut puppy
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Originally Posted by DallasRain

You can't shake a "whore tree" and expect a wife/best friend/girlfriend to fall out!
{be careful when crossing that line....From what i heard,it has been done successfully in some cases}

You mean Pretty Woman wasn't a true story?

[FrankieP]

It happens probably as often as any workplace romance happens. Which is fairly often. And probably successful at about the same rate. Which is not very often.

[NASDAQ]

Wise mans says:"Don't shit where you eat."

[BEBEJ]

I think it complicates things cause once you cross that line there's no going back

[malwoody]

Originally Posted by NASDAQ

Wise mans says:"Don't shit where you eat."

I wonder who said it? I've always thought it to be gross..I mean not even my dogs "shit where they eat."
Just my take mind you...

[CaptainKaos]

This site ain't eHarmony. The women are running their own businesses and are providing good customer service. The good ones know how to make you feel like there's a spark because they know how to bring that out. But make no mistake, it's an act the same way your real world gf might dress up sexy and set the mood for you. The difference there being she's not a professional and most likely not as good as one and after you're done having the fantasy with the gf you get to deal with all of the real world shit.

[NASDAQ]

Originally Posted by malwoody

I wonder who said it? I've always thought it to be gross..I mean not even my dogs "shit where they eat."
Just my take mind you...

Hehe, dogs sure do that... I don't know who first said it but I picked it up from Tony Soprano.

[Guest123017]

RW and HW circles aren't meant to be concentric - they each have their own purpose and if respected as such will provide you with everything you desire in life - why mess with it...

Mixing the two in my opinion is a recipe for disaster and so many have proven this point to date that it is mind boggling to me that still people try...

[woody4eroticfun]

I think some guys want a woman who is "A cook in the kitchen, a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom."

Maybe they think they might get lucky here and find one who is all three.....

[1sicpuppy]

From someone that has been there I will advise you to look on other dating sites or AFF to find a woman that enjoys sex. It would have been much cheaper to remain a client in my case. Or.....as I have read hear previously , "you pay them to leave or so you can leave after sex". Otherwise you will soon be asked to be an ATM.
Or, as I also heard from a wise old man, "if it flies, floats, or fucks, it 's cheaper to rent it."

[Mccaffery]

So, true experience from the pre -Eccie Mccaffery.

I had a provider that I saw once every couple weeks. As years went on, it became 3-4 times a week.
It progressed to an ILU and ILU2 at the beginning and end of every session.
One day she calls me and wants out of the lifestyle. We had this discussion more than once prior to this call.
I pick her up from her room, get in a fight with her "handler / bf" - It did feel good to beat the hell out of that guy - and take her to a safe place.
We started looking at apartments, find one we like, and prepare for the deposit and lease paperwork.

The day before we are to sign papers, she has that moment of relapse - gets with old friends, old influences, the obvious problems in her life.

From her is where I discovered Eccie. The few providers I see alot know this history, and there are 2 I have very strong feeling for.
1 I have to detox myself from for a bit, and have not seen her for a few months.
The other is an out of town provider, so I dont get enough time with her to get so emotionally attached, I think the monthly distance keeps me grounded.

These 2 I would jump head first into a relationship with if ever given the opportunity, but I realisticly know that would probably never happen.
Some of us just dont guard our emotions, and need the companionship more than the sexual encounter.
I want that female companionship more than the sex, and the sex in my mind is just a bonus perk of the entire session.
Some sessions for me are simply "I want to fuck you", really because your very good at what you do.
The 2 that I have strong feelings for are so much more than that. I wake up missing them, cant wait to hear from them again, see them again, never read other reviews because I do not want to know what the next guy enjoyed that I love so much about them.

Relationships I am sure eventually happen, I personally learned alot from my experience, and will be extremely guarded if ever presented with that option again.

[Savannah Moon]

I have to establish a connection with someone..or it just isn't happening.
I have developed friendships guarded of course with some of the people in this industry... some have lasted for 6 years and some have dissipated but I can just kind of Presume that OP is stating that he would like to develop some connections with a few people instead of bouncing all over the board. Perhaps relationship was the wrong term to use.

[Y_eye_AwE_Ta]

If by relationship you mean first and last name basis, phone calls and movie dates, actual unpaid time together? Why would that be a goal? Women that aren't escorts could give you that and if they fuck around its usually a deal breaker. Clients have tried tactics to suggest they could be more useful to me in but that's usually just a way to sneak themselves into my private affairs and then use that against me when they get too attached.
Not saying it couldn't happen with positive results just not without more negative ones. Business and pleasure should never mix