Why "No Black Men, Please"?

[burkalini]

I personally don't care who someone sees as long as they give good service. Ms E. it may not be right but I think the answer is the hobbyist foots the bill. I know that sounds a little crass but I do think that's the answer.

[guest090512-3]

Originally Posted by MsElena

I'm just curious......

Why is it OK for some of you to question why and who we decide to see, but its not OK for us to question you guys on why you don't see certain ladies?

Personally, I don't care because its YOUR preference. But, I am interested in hearing your answers.

I've never questioned any of my providers about who they see. Actually, I'd rather not know. (Sometimes, they volunteer anyway... Sometimes it shows up here as a review.)

I guess you could argue that, on occasion, I have causally asked a provider about why they see clients, i.e. How did you get into the hobby? The answers there have been pretty interesting and varied. I've been asked this too, and I always answer truthfully.

And, of course, providers ask who we see all the time. In fact, every time a provider asks for a reference, aren't they asking me very specifically about whom I've seen?

Food for thought.

[MsElena]

Asking for a reference is different than asking you why you don't see certain ladies.

BIG difference.

[Marcus Aurelius]

I'm glad that you folks handled this thread nicely. Though I don't know why someone would ask this in an open forum. The ladies and gents can see or not see whomever they wish end of story.

[Guest090116-1]

For my 2 cents worth ( and at that price you've already overpaid), I have heard from an AA provider, when we were talking after a session and she volunteered this, the exact same things that Ms Elena posted on her 11:07 pm post from 08-13-2012 on this thread. Take it for what it's worth.

Basically it's a lady's choice and preference that matters. How she gets to that decision is not worth the speculation.

[guest090512-3]

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

I'm glad that you folks handled this thread nicely. Though I don't know why someone would ask this in an open forum. The ladies and gents can see or not see whomever they wish end of story.

Well, it was my question and I take responsibility for it. It seemed like a "hobby-related" inquiry, and this seemed the proper board. To my mind, it seemed "on-topic" and "thought-provoking." It certainly spurred some conversation.

While I understand that the issue of race is a sensitive one, I don't understand why anyone would be offended by my simply asking the question. In fact, I thought that asking questions here was kind of the point. (And, as far as I'm aware, no one, provider or hobbyist is compelled to answer questions in these forums. If the question is too invasive or offends your sensibilities, why not just ignore it?)

Maybe most importantly, no one was singled out. No one was criticized. No group was attacked. And discussion was kept respectful.

Perhaps if there was a list of topics or questions that were off limits, it might help the future poster from falling into the same dilemma as me.

I'm off now to the national board, to post on the topics of menstrual vampirism and ass play...

[Omahan]

Originally Posted by MsElena

I'm just curious......

Why is it OK for some of you to question why and who we decide to see, but its not OK for us to question you guys on why you don't see certain ladies?

Personally, I don't care because its YOUR preference. But, I am interested in hearing your answers.

Because one is the business owner while the other is the customer. If everything should be the same for both parties then the first change we should make is to take turns paying each other.

[DDNE]

I see the girls I see based firstly on reviews. If others, (preferably several) find her services to be safe and pleasing, I will then investigate further. If I find her to be physically attractive to me (we all have our preferences), then I consider her prices, availability, my finances and times available to get together. If all these factors fall into place, I will innitiate contact and see about setting up a time. That said, there are several girls I havnt had the time or funds see yet, but I am working on getting the stars alligned. *winks at MsE.

[Osolomio]

"That said, there are several girls I haven't had the time or funds see yet, but I am working on getting the stars aligned. *winks at MsE"

Ditto.

[MsElena]

Originally Posted by Omahan

Because one is the business owner while the other is the customer. If everything should be the same for both parties then the first change we should make is to take turns paying each other.

You know that, I know that, but others don't get it sometimes.

Originally Posted by DDNE

I see the girls I see based firstly on reviews. If others, (preferably several) find her services to be safe and pleasing, I will then investigate further. If I find her to be physically attractive to me (we all have our preferences), then I consider her prices, availability, my finances and times available to get together. If all these factors fall into place, I will innitiate contact and see about setting up a time. That said, there are several girls I havnt had the time or funds see yet, but I am working on getting the stars alligned. *winks at MsE.

Right back atcha DDNE

Mucho gracias

Originally Posted by Osolomio

"That said, there are several girls I haven't had the time or funds see yet, but I am working on getting the stars aligned. *winks at MsE"

Ditto.

Mucho gracias.

[Osolomio]

E,

De nada, lo es totalmente merecido.

[MsElena]

Es usted muy amable, señor

[Bigh1955]

Originally Posted by MsElena

I'm just curious......

Why is it OK for some of you to question why and who we decide to see, but its not OK for us to question you guys on why you don't see certain ladies?

Personally, I don't care because its YOUR preference. But, I am interested in hearing your answers.

Answers:
a) not my type
b) see "a" above
c) see "b" above

(There are countless variations to the specifics. Ask in a PM and I'll tell you. I really don't care because it is MY preference, but I'll still tell you).

[MsElena]

H,

That's the point I've been trying to make. Whether its your preference or the ladies.....its still our preference.


But, feel free to tell me in a PM why damnit!!!

[Unforgivable]

Its all BS