Ladies: a deep, maybe too personal question. I know i am not the only one who has these thoughts

[SweetSuzanna]

Originally Posted by badboy100

I would agree with Bill. If you feel that strong about him go for. I have been in same place regret it didn't work for me and have been sorry about it since. MOST INPORTANT BE HONEST WITH EACH OTHER AND TRUST EACH ORTHER COMPLETELY. That's my 2 cents. Good luck.

Thats a sad story. Sorry it didn't work. Assuming you never see or speak now?

[jjenkc]

I agree with the YOLO sentiment. If you got feelings let him know. I’ve fallen for 2 providers, one I told one I have not. I’m glad I did with the first one. The feelings seemed to be mutual, it just never blossomed. The 2nd one I’m pretty sure is more wishful thinking on my part, so I don’t want to mess up our dynamic and make it awkward. I just say you should definitely go for it!

[Astroglide]

Originally Posted by jjenkc

I agree with the YOLO sentiment. If you got feelings let him know. I’ve fallen for 2 providers, one I told one I have not. I’m glad I did with the first one. The feelings seemed to be mutual, it just never blossomed. The 2nd one I’m pretty sure is more wishful thinking on my part, so I don’t want to mess up our dynamic and make it awkward. I just say you should definitely go for it!

You say go for it, yet you haven't gone for it with the current one?

[mbhoney]

I would suggest that's not a good idea but either way go with your feelings. In the end I would love to know your decision.

[jjenkc]

Pretty much know I’d get shot down Astroglide!! Just saving myself the embarrassment and making our client/provider relationship awkward. In the other instance I went for it, I felt like it was reciprocal!

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

Huh. Thats a great point! Dont most boyfriends frown on the job she does?

I know a few gals that have lost their SO's cause of the job. Another that's in the middle of breaking up (again).
And, I know two married gals and another with a long time SO, that their SO's trust the gal to maintain perspective with clients.
I also know of a gal who retired cause she wanted to keep her SO.
I know another parttimer that goes offline when she has an SO, but comes back when she dumps him.
Last, I know a couple gals that will not pick up an SO, because they simply don't have the time for that type of commitment.
My point being, it can happen, it has happened, it has fallen apart, etc.
It's simply gonna depend on the two individuals.

[KayC_K]

To like a client more than as just a client, in my opinion, is like working for Dairy Queen just to get free ice cream. You can have a good rapport with a client, but if you get caught up in feelings then you should do something different. Besides, if you met them in this life they won't let you forget it down the line.

[SweetSuzanna]

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Good point! But you will never let them forget their hobby!


QUOTE=KayC_K;1060901188]To like a client more than as just a client, in my opinion, is like working for Dairy Queen just to get free ice cream. You can have a good rapport with a client, but if you get caught up in feelings then you should do something different. Besides, if you met them in this life they won't let you forget it down the line.[/QUOTE]

[Fsn57]

Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

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Good point! But you will never let them forget their hobby!

+1
I know of a couple where he was a former client. He didn't like her continuing to provide, and she didn't like him continuing to hobby. Thus, it didn't work out.

[IQ160]

Things didn't work out for me either, when I asked the provider that wanted to see me outside the hobby to stop providing. I would have been happy to provide for her and her daughter so long as she stopped, and I told her so - but she didn't want to quit. Needless to say, we didn't continue seeing each other.

[sjohnlewis]

Originally Posted by BigDeal

This happens to me all the time!
I see a girl and boom!
Now shes all over me....

Me too. Most of the time it kinda gets to me because for once I would like for a woman to like me for me, not just my big dick.

I am a real person, not just a sex object.

[GoBlue34z]

I had a provider want to date outside of the hobby realm. I cant do that as I'm married. But I also wouldn't date her exclusively if she still was an escort. I know that's your/her job but still wouldn't be ok with it would you quit hobbling if it worked out?

I know I have a double standard as I'm married and hobby from time to time but you asked for an opinion.

[Guest083119]

I think that the large majority of the time it only works when the parties both leave the hobby.

[ck1942]

Suzanna, better for you to raise the issue seeking a bit of counsel and perhaps some experiences than to try to keep the potential issue bottled up.

Some good advice above, and some not so good.

Not a good idea, always, to mix business and pleasure, but it can sometimes work out if both parties to the experience are solos.

imo, give it a year, if that, discuss it together, and if both of y'all want a bit more counsel (not quite at a professional level) let me know and I might be able to arrange some for both of you.

Best of luck and

stay safe out there!

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by B Three

I think that the large majority of the time it only works when the parties both leave the hobby.

And I'm gonna agree, again, with the cookie chef.