Does the hobby make you a better lover?

[only1sweetmaddy]

Ummmmm,,,,, I really don’t know what to say, I guess because I feel as though I should do all the work, I don’t mind if the gentlemen just stay still and enjoy the moment. I feel they are paying me for my service, so I give it 120%! Actually, I prefer to do all the work! LOL!!

To sum it up– I want the guy to be MY BITCH!! ROTFLMAO!!

[CarolinaGent]

Sometimes there's nothing wrong with letting someone else do all the work

[Biomech]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

My question is: 1.) How great are you in bed? If you're not that great, are you willing to take direction? 2.) Has the hobby made you a better lover?

Good thread, Naomi!

1. Like anyone else, I like to think I am a pretty good lover, but I also think performance can vary somewhat depending on who your partner is. Some people just don't naturally mesh sexually. Some times you are only as good as the willingness of your partner.

As to taking direction? Of course I'm willing. I love a woman who is honest and straightforward enough to tell me what she wants and enjoys. I see little point in making your partner guess what you like or pretending you like something you don't. Direction is a huge turn on!

And because there is no emotional or relationship baggage to deal with, it's hard to find a better teacher than an intelligent mature provider. What better classroom could you want?

2. Absolutely. There is no reason why the hobby shouldn't make you a better lover, because different experiences should teach us different things.

Certain techniques that work on one woman might not necessarily work on the next, so as your experiences accumulate, you should begin to learn how to read a woman's body language better and pick up on non-verbal signs, thus gaining a greater ability to alter those techniques to better fit your partner at the moment.

One last thing to consider though is that not all providers are necessarily great lovers either. Like any other line of work, some people are just not that good at their job.

[Biomech]

Originally Posted by CarolinaGent

I think it all comes down to attitude. I have been fortunate enough to be able to try out things I probably would have never been able to do with a civie. I have been lucky enough to be with a few providers who were more honest about a few things than any civie has been.

Good post, CG.

I too think the attitude you bring to hobbying means a lot. If you are just there to get off, that is fine, but some of us use the experience to help us in our civie relationships.

It really is a perfect learning environment, because egos and emotions are easier to leave at the door.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by only1sweetmaddy

Ummmmm,,,,, I really don’t know what to say, I guess because I feel as though I should do all the work, I don’t mind if the gentlemen just stay still and enjoy the moment. I feel they are paying me for my service, so I give it 120%! Actually, I prefer to do all the work! LOL!!

To sum it up– I want the guy to be MY BITCH!! ROTFLMAO!!

120% there is something with you and numbers that stikes me a little unique! I'll give you an example. I was reading a poplular auto magazine where the following items will improve your gas milage.

1) Proper air in tires 6%
2) Fresh wax on car 5%
3) Tune Up Plugs Etc 11%
4) Gas aditive 7%
5) Keeping the windows up 4%
6) Changing to synthtic oil 9%
7) Using preium gas 8%
8) Unrestricing your exhaust 14%
9) Closing off front gril 7%
10) Starting slowly from a start 5%
11) Keeping speed below 60 MPH 8%
12) Removing excessing weight from car 6%
13) Balance Tires 7%
14) New Air Filter 5%
15) Run RED lights no stoping 3%

Thats 105% I did all this and now I don't use gas any more. As a matter of fact, I stop at gas stations to go potty and let gas out of my car! If you don't believe me then I don't believe you are giving 120%! The best you can give is 100%

To sum it up... I can't wait till you start on fractions! Hey is 400 old or young for a Vampire? LOL

Just kidding you sweetie, I love ya!

[rrabbit6926]

I'm always willing to learn to be a better lover in bed. Some providers are better teachers then others.

[Fast Gunn]

That is a great question Naomi.

Personally, I think variety is what helps you develop your love making skills and a willingness to learn better skills.

For me kissing is a crucial part of love-making, but I have found that out of literally hundreds of girls I have kissed, there have only been about 5 that really knew how to kiss.

Kissing is an art form that few have mastered.

I thought I was a master kisser until I met a young Asian girl who blew my socks off and curled my toes when she gave me an intense fiery kiss that blasted me into an ecstatic orbit!

She stopped me once while I was kissing her and told me I needed to improve and she showed me how to really deliver a kiss!

Wow! I still remember how inspirational her lessons were.

I think some girls are born with a natural talent for kissing the way that some people are born with a talent for singing.

Sadly, we broke up, but I am still looking for the next great kisser!

[Ed Highlight]

When I hobby, it is such a special "event" for me, I always try to bring my "A" game. In real life, not so much. I do think I've gotten better (you tell me, I am one of a select few!!) because I like to practice....That's why I like to see a very few ladies, on multiple occaisions....gets better all the time!!

[WTF]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Well, Naomi, this is a tune you've sung before, and it's getting kind of old. I'm waiting for you to mature and get off some of these old tired saws.

Yeah, I'm one of those that sucks in bed. I'm willing to take instruction, but I don't see anyone often enough to have a teacher. And, I have hurdles that I can't do anything about.

Charles....so good to see you back! Did the board change directions and not tell me?

Your back and picking on naomi...seems like the same direction to me but glad you are back anyway.

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I am not in favor of the way this board is going. It was very successful until recently, and I don't think you should "fix" something that ain't broke. The only thing I can do is vote with my feet.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

What tune are you talking about? Link me to the thread or post where I complained about a client's BCD skills. Never! Go and crawl back into your hole and take that nasty attitude somewhere else. Yes if you for some reason sucked in bed, I would teach you how to fuck me. Whatever Charles!

You must remember that charles is playing to a different audience. One that is suppossed to be nicer but whatever!

[seductivesarah]

well on the provider side i would have to say i am a lot better on top now than i have ever been

[CarolinaGent]

Originally Posted by seductivesarah

well on the provider side i would have to say i am a lot better on top now than i have ever been

One thing that has surprised me over the years is how some providers are terrible on top. Around a year ago I asked a provider to get on top and she climbed on top and just sat there. No grinding, no movement at all. After trying to nudge her into action I gave up and flipped her over into mish. There was another that I saw quite alot years ago and she started out not very good, but later on she was awesome on top. Luckily lately I've seen some that rock my world when on top.

[burkalini]

CG is not my favorite position but it always seems to be the first position of choice for a provider. Since it's a control position for the provider I would think they should be adept at it. Usually they do the grind back and forth thing. Not very many are good getting on their feet in this position and going up and down. I guess it's alot more physically demanding but I like it the best of the CG positions. If the provider is small and thin this seems to be easier for them to do.

[SlowHand50]

The old saying that practice makes perfect certainly applies, and I am out to get as much practice . . . and strive to get as close to perfection . . . as I can get.

Lately, sadly, I have gotten out of practice . . . I definitely need to get back in the groove . . .

And as for taking instruction, I am always open to learning new things. I'm a good student who will study, hard.

[Waldo P. Emerson-Jones]

I'm very open to taking suggestions and advice from the ladies. I even have a statement like this on my p411 profile! But, in years of doing this, I cannot think of a single time that an escort has taken the initiative to ask me to do things a little different or to make a suggestion. I often tell her to let me know what they like or ask how it feels or something like that. Even when I directly asked ("what do you like" "faster or slower" "harder or softer" "here?"), only once or twice has the lady given me any input. Rather, it's always something like "you're doing fine" or "that feels good just like that" or "keep going." Now, perhaps I'm just a great lover, but while I think I'm fine, I really doubt I'm extraordinary. My take is that while a lot of guys say they they want advice and direction, women are afraid that that's not true for all of them. So, rather than risk offending a guy or hurting his feelings, it's easier to just go along. Especially because it's so frequently a one time thing. And, even for those guys you end up seeing more than once, why risk losing their business by criticizing their bedroom skills.

So, to finally answer your questions, I think I'm competent enough in bed, but could be much better. I am more than willing to take direction and advice. But, the greater limitation on my improvement is not my openness, but the escort's hesitance to say anything. Either that or I'm one hellavu stud.