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Originally Posted by buggs
I have met with a number of providers, but I am really not an hour at a time kind of guy.* I like to find a girl to spend several hours with...* I had a girl that I used to see and we would meet about once a quarter for an overnight and I really enjoyed the time together.* we had a lot of fun!
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Since it seems you prefer overnights over two hour or shorter meeting, why not just seek what you want the first meeting. Their are an influx of ads in multiple areas that advertise overnights availiable....some which include rates. If you are only hobbying, or prefer to hobby "quarterly" as you say....that's every 3 to 4 months roughly. Surely that's enough time to do research, screen, and mesh preferences with a provider prospect before meeting. Some ladies are very patient in regards to clients of you type.
Patient in meaning they will either have a silent confidence and demeanor on the phone that they can definitely overwhelm you no matter your characteristics....and some who will ask you questions to make sure your desires and her preferences mesh. You would be vastly surprised in how often your interpretation of an overnight may differ from hers and what she offers.
Now some ladies also will be "silent" as they know they can't really fulfill overnight type activities. So they will cleverly use the time for other things to shave it. I will touch on that later in this thread....but it would be helpful to the thread if you touched on the type engagement u seek with these ladies.....don't fall for the okkie doke booking smaller hours first then if it works out booking more.......if a lady presents any trepidation as far as meeting besides normal things (safety, discretion of incall or outcall, payment of services) pass on her. Many can and will step to the plate.
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Originally Posted by buggs
She left the business and I have had a really hard time finding a replacement.
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Definitely feel your difficulty there, on the plus side its generally easier to book other 1st time overnights if you have more than a few under your belt. When they call your refs they will build a strong comfortability with you somewhat prior to meeting, making them more open to pursue it the first time.
For me personally I have excitement initially going into a new rendevous...as opposed to someone I already know or think I know. The first time overnight is more an attraction to me.
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Originally Posted by buggs
When I do find someone to schedule a multiple hour with - they generally try to flake on me.
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Stop messing with BP ladies and try out a few of the established and reputable independents. You will have less associated problems. Although of course the bp ladies seem to always be availiable at the drop of a hat to accommodate you....there's usually a catch to that that won't work in your favor.
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Originally Posted by buggs
I know that life is easy an hour at a time, and it can be hard to spend several hours with someone that you don't have a lot on common with but I just wish it wasn't so hard to fnd someone that at least is willing to try!*  |
You answered your own question there. But why would life as a provider necessarily be easier hourly as opposed to what you seek. Divulge your preferences so we can all grasp what you mean......Some ladies think of those types of bookings as too much work to pursue or not worth the time they could make for more clients. (Wear and tear, the large block of time prospective new clients can't book, etc.) Not always physically either. Sometimes they lack the capacity mentally and personability wise to keep you entertained pass just getting your jollies off. Some can mesh the two very well.
Some of the more common issues I see tend to be these.
1. The provider aren't the morning type mentally (chipper I mean, not looks) and know they can't function well without sufficient sleep in a comfortable surroundng under than with a stranger. This is usually the younger type.
2. They have kids or nightly responsibilities during the week that limit overnight capabilities. Add school to this as well.
3. They either don't feel comfortable cuddling (due to a past experience or simply because they consider that too homely for this type of engagement), sleeping (some consider this letting their guard down especially on outcalls), eating or drinking (same as above, mainly in outcalls...not dinner dates)
4. They rather not do dinner dates.
Of course not all overnights involve dinner dates. Let's face it....not all women you have a strong urgency to see will be the public type for your preference. At least for me not all are. On the same token, not all hobbyists are the pro dinner date type either....or the lady would rather not be seen in public. But of course if she is personable from the start, you might be more inclined to step out the box from time to time.
But some providers don't like dinner dates because they can't truelly be themselves. Everthing from the way they eat, the way she carrys herself, to what she talks about requires to some degree a bit of discretion and fakeness creativeness for some. Some ladies would rather keep it bcd rather than public with bcd. Some ladies actually consider dinner dates more challenging.
Also be forwarned dinner dates are a good time waster to drain the time you have paid for if she truelly doesn't enjoy prolonged bcd time. By the time you eat....your less likely to have sex with the same gusto. I always do bcd early first, then when the appetite has been motivated, the dinner date is the cherry on top. The awkwardness of idly table cchatter as u get to know each other is less...because you are both more comfortable and in a relaxed state and not thinking and responding in a horny state....or the please don't say nothing stupid mantra. Eating first causes me to be too relaxed and lazy.....so unless I booked a sizable portion of hours....Id bcd first. Or just have food availiable at the incall to accommodate not leaving.
5. Sometimes providers are very concerned about size issues. Not just your member or genatailia wise, but your body appearance and if they can accommodate you for a longer booking. For some providers some degree of attraction has to be there for them to even consider it. For others not so much.
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Originally Posted by buggs
Any suggestions in helping me with my search?* Thoughts on outcall vs. In call for a longer visit?
Thanks!
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I touched on it a few times, but outcall is safer looking.
For the providers:
1. Your less likely to act like an ignoramous at your own outcall, perferably hotel. If she screened you good enough she can easily attach your name to the room. I would have said at your home....but that put her in a situation less in a controlled state and less public. So hotel is better initially to establish comfortability.
2. She knows the chances of you ncns is nil because you are either checked in, have reservations, or are waiting for her. She also knows its hard to book another overnight sshould she not make it. She basically has you by the balls. Lol
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Originally Posted by JahiaraQ
Visit her once or twice for like a 2 to 4 hour visit so that you guys can get comfortable and see if you guys are compatible enough
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I understand where you are coming from. But what if minus her personability and demeanor in session we focused on physical for a sec.
If I booked 2 hours and was actively engaged in some sort of sexual activity for one and a half hours of it.....or a 3 hour where the majority of the time we were engaged.....would you percieve that as the client potentially being to handsy on an overnight?
Like most people. After a few bells I require a little rest to recharge. But I'm young too (under 30) what I seek in a 2 to 4 hour is in stark contrast to a 10 to 12 hour overnight. In the overnight I may want a slower lather of an interaction those first few hours.....where as a smaller 2 hour booking would be only a tastetest....still leaving me with a craving for what I really wanted and wish I had booked.
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Originally Posted by buggs
It is interesting to me, I am pretty generous...* You would think a girl would want a second call
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Divulge the type of bookings you seek. It might explain the trepidation some may have. Sometimes money is not the principle reason ladies choose longer bookings. Did you kinda cater to those ladies a bit to provide incentive besides being safe and paying? Did you have drinks availiable, offer her a massage, daty her, make her feel appreciated...........
I know this stuff sounds relationshipy..but if you don't incorporate some of these into a few of your sessions...the chances of them wanting to see you again might diminish. Some ladies seek a good time as well.......yes they want you to feel pleased and well taken ccare of.....by why shouldn't they get some enjoyment as well. If you implement something such as those....they always repay back to you session for session ten fold. She will also usually if she likes you as a client pass that on to other ladies when you use her as a reference. It helps dude.
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Originally Posted by buggs
FYI- I am clean, white and generally fit!* Nothing to run away from.
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1.Being clean is easy....no need to say it and proclaim it....it diminishes the value. Just say you care about your health and get tested regularly.
2.Being white might help as opposed to being black maybe....but now I'm curious what stereotypical reasons you have for assuming that makes you a better prospective client who in your words....."is nothing to run away from."
3. Being fit an in shape can be good eye candy for providers, but for some they know you may have more sexual endurance and stamina than the normal type they see and be more demanding.......I wouldn't fucus to much on telling providers you are fit unless they ask.
They may think intially you are the type of client who feel the provider should be privileged to spend time with you......of course you pay rate of course. But its merely just a tip for her to marvel in your statuesqe brilliance.
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Originally Posted by jfarmer
Providers do make great friends beleive it or not.
..and Jahaira..I seriously doubt you would look bad in the morning...
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I agree with this statement. And jahaira is hot. She could definitely get it makeup or not as she is a fine specimen of woman to wake up next to. Lol
But never forget that donation though, great friends to providers almost always carry this around and would never think without one friendship is possible. Lol
