I have a name...and it's Samantha.

[jbravo_123]

I know this sounds weird, but I actually prefer for the providers I see to call me by my real first name. Using my handle just seems so unnatural to me as well as it seeming so impersonal. I do understand the need for secrecy for those who are hiding their activities from SO's, which thankfully I am not in the position of having to do.

[Prolongus]

This is the only time I've ever heard a Provider say she doesn't like to be called "baby".
Thanks for the heads up, Darlin'.
(See, I didn't say "baby"!)

[raz]

I understand your sentiment on the subject. I don't like it either.

It is rather stupid, unlike getting on an open forum consisting of existing customers and potential new ones bitching about such a trivial matter.



Later Babe!

[Guest082824]

You guys are too funny

I guess this thread didn't go quite the way you thought it would, huh "Samantha"

[Bobave]

Unless Samantha is your real name, your post was bogus. I always feel odd calling someone by a handle, because I know it's a fake name.

Whereas I wouldn't ordinarily call a woman baby , etc. very early in any kind of relationship, come on... we're trying to bridge to intimate activity quickly and a fake name gets in the way. No offense, "Samantha", but I agree with some of the other folks here - an attitude like the one expressed in your OP makes me concerned that a session would be "officious"... not generally what I'm looking for when I meet with a provider...

[fletch]

thx sexy, hot cakes...i made a note of it.

[Roger.Smith]

It's generally bad etiquette to call someone you don't know by a pet or nick name. Once you get a feel for someone or get a good vibe going, that would an appropriate time to use pet or nick name. Sure some women don't mind, but I can't understand how people wouldn't understand that a lot of women hate pet/nick names from men they don't know, unless you just don't interact with civilian women. Context and tone are important. This is a board where you pay women for their time, it's not a dating service.

The thing is, a lot of guys here are socially inept and that may be part of the reason they're here in the first place. Older guys may see it as affectionate instead of demeaning. Sometimes in life you have to be considerate of how words will be perceived by others. When I travel away from the South, I don't call women "Ma'am" because a lot of women who don't live here hate it.

[samantha thom]

All good posts, folks! :-) Thank you everyone for responding. In the hobby, you know me as 'Samantha' ... that is my name until we develop some frienship and familiarity, I will want to tell you my real name. And I will address you as your screen name until you tell me your real name and we can use those names in private.
It's ok if you prefer the 'baby', 'sexy', 'darling' etc. If that's how you prefer to talk, please don't stop cause that's how you like it. It makes you happy.
Every post I write on here has a purpose. And the purpose is beyond bitching or complaining. I could say it's to weed out potential clients? Maybe something else? :-) It may sound meaningless to some but it serves ME a purpose. I do not want to take the whole hobby community as my clients. I want to make our experience as great and special as possible and we have at least similar few, interest and on the same page on some things. In the end, 'quality' is preferable to me than 'quantity'.
And I am personally very flirty...I may not flirt the same way as other women. We all have differences and it's ok. And with so many people in the world, we cannot be compatible with everyone. That's what makes it exciting....the search, the encounter, the new friendship, the connection, etc, etc.

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

It's generally bad etiquette to call someone you don't know by a pet or nick name. Once you get a feel for someone or get a good vibe going, that would an appropriate time to use pet or nick name. Sure some women don't mind, but I can't understand how people wouldn't understand that a lot of women hate pet/nick names from men they don't know, unless you just don't interact with civilian women. Context and tone are important. This is a board where you pay women for their time, it's not a dating service.

The thing is, a lot of guys here are socially inept and that may be part of the reason they're here in the first place. Older guys may see it as affectionate instead of demeaning. Sometimes in life you have to be considerate of how words will be perceived by others. When I travel away from the South, I don't call women "Ma'am" because a lot of women who don't live here hate it.

I actually don't mind the 'Ma'am"....it sounds respectful. And yes, I understand older guys may see it as affection and I respect that very much. Your'e right....it's also the context and tone. :-)

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by fletch

thx sexy, hot cakes...i made a note of it.

Hehehe!! LOL....you're so cute, Fletch! But I prefer 'blueberry'!

[er48665]

Please tell me this really doesn't annoy you. You offer a service that is called Girlfriend Experience and you don't want people calling you baby or honey. I have been called baby, babe and sweet cheeks and I find it kind of nice.

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by Bobave

Unless Samantha is your real name, your post was bogus. I always feel odd calling someone by a handle, because I know it's a fake name.

Whereas I wouldn't ordinarily call a woman baby , etc. very early in any kind of relationship, come on... we're trying to bridge to intimate activity quickly and a fake name gets in the way. No offense, "Samantha", but I agree with some of the other folks here - an attitude like the one expressed in your OP makes me concerned that a session would be "officious"... not generally what I'm looking for when I meet with a provider...

Good on you, Bobave, for not calling a woman 'baby'! I very much agree with you, too and some folks here. I would hate to be in an "officious" session too .... but usually you can tell if there is a compatibility by initial communication but every man and woman on here has the same right to accept or decline.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Samantha, I understand your feelings and thanks for posting.

One thought though. Even outside the hobby, it is common in Texas to address a woman, even if just met with terms like hun, dear, darling, etc. I dont care for baby but to each his own. Its just part of the Texas and Southern culture. Other areas of the country have their own terms as well.

Or maybe the guy was staring at your wonderfull chest and cannot remember your name.

The tone of voice and look that go with it can be a big difference as well. If I get introduced to a good looking lady, I might very well respond with a smile on my face "Well darling, Its a pleasure to meet you" I am not hitting on her or being disresptfull. I am acutaly paying her a compliment.

Keep that in mind the next time.

Also take a look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Term_of_endearment

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by er48665

Please tell me this really doesn't annoy you. You offer a service that is called Girlfriend Experience and don't want people calling you baby or honey. I have been called baby, babe or sweet cheeks and I find it kind of nice.

It's case per case basis, depending on who, level of familiarity. I don't call my boyfriend 'baby' or 'honey'...but I do call him different pet names that is very endearing between me and him. I certainly don't call a man I haven't met 'baby' or 'honey'. I just don't feel comfortable...I can't tell you why....I just don't...and I'm also not from the south. I guess different background, upbringing can make us all different and have different preferences.

[L.A.]

I don't think I've ever called anybody baby or sweetheart and I mean anybody and ever.
My s.o. is "Honey" and that's about the only pet name I've ever used for anybody. I can't imagine an introduction call, pm, or email where I refer to anybody other than the only name I know (the one they've provided). I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that. On the other hand I have absolutely no problem being called any of those pet names (it beats what people usually call me).

And that's my $.02 you've all been waiting for......