My last job was very high pressure, very high profile as a software support and implementations and training consultant with one of the top healthcare companies in the US in the managed care industry. I was married for 12 years, 2 small children and was getting a divorce. I was the major bread winner and benefit holder, but one hitch I had to travel 50% with my job. So I couldn't take my children with me and have to cart them right back 2 days later and their father told me he wouldn't keep them when I had to go out of town to work. So I gave him custody intending to get them back with me within a years time which I did.
By giving him custody, I had to pay him child support and a lot of it. It was a brand new car payment at the time and then I understood why men would go out and get lesser paying jobs to lower their child support, but I did not want my kids to go lacking. After I moved out into a modest studio apartment and got a modest vehicle because the one I ended up with in the divorce broke down on me within weeks I realized I was $200 in the red every month just to pay the bills. That left no money for me to do anything with my kids when I got them EVERY weekend.
I had been playing around on the Adult personal online when one of the men I had been emailing with propositioned me and said, "Well I don't want to insult you or anything because I'm much older than you, but why don't we meet for lunch one day and I can help you out and you can help me out." I was bowled over but I did it. He was very very nice, a perfect gentleman and he became a regular. He worked at the citrus plant and he used to always bring me a crate of some type of fresh fruit. But that first time, I thought to myself, in 1 hour I've gotten myself out of the red. If I do that again, then I can take the kids somewhere fun this weekend. If I do it one more time, I can get a new dress, and if I do it again, I can get a tv, and so forth.....
As a matter of fact that was so easy it's scary. I'm gonna do that again! And here I am 7 yrs later.
I've grown to love the hobby life. I've been able to spend time with my kids not be away from them 70 hours per week and still struggling to pay the bills. And the sex is fabulous. I get all the sex I could ever want, but I have none of the tethers of a relationship where I would probably not get a fraction of the amount of sex I do now. I don't regret leaving my job in the dust.
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