should i take a hint...

[Laney1]

Maybe she accidentally erased the pm?? I've been guilty that. That's one of the reasons I prefer scheduling my appts over my "bat phone".


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[chipsandsalsa]

We can sit here and debate and speculate, wonder why someone stops communicating, fretting over it,etc.

Very simple....move on....you were clear you wanted to set an appointment, and they flaked out for whatever reason, made no attempt to get back to you, period....move on...

It serves no purpose to sit there thinking, well, maybe she lost my pm, maybe she was in a car wreck, maybe her cat died; whatever, Why fret over it?

Be honest with yourself too. Do you honestly want to chase down a provider through pm, email, text or whatever, finally get an appointment, have the funds, drive all the way across town and have her probably NCNS?

Too big a risk; and there are way too many reliable ladies on this board to fret over one or two.

There are probably some ladies who will post a provider ad saying Im doing specials or incalls or whatever all week......they see 8 guys in two days, make the money they need, and delete the other 300 plus pm's in their mailbox, leaving the guys to wonder why she never responded back...

Just move on, and spend your money wisely...

[Datura]

Cyrick made some good points.

PM is a very inefficient way to schedule a meeting; it requires both parties to be online. Some people prefer not to access certain site with their phones, like myself.

If you've seen a provider before, you have her phone number, so why are you PMing? If you're an established client and the provider doesn't follow up on your inquiry, then yes, that is a not-subtle hint she doesn't want to see you again. Most women would rather appear "flaky" than have an unpleasant conversation rejecting you.

Regarding the provider you haven't seen before, are you following her desired protocol for contact? I don't book from eccie, and if someone ignores the request on my ads to go to my website and initiate contact that way, with the required information, then I take that as a sign this client is not going to be compatible with me.

In any case, 90% of the time no follow-up means the provider isn't interested in meeting, and flakiness is a convenient explanation. If your ethnicity (rather than your behavior) is the issue, that's unfortunate, but you probably don't want to waste your time or money on someone so small-minded. It's impossible for third parties to speculate on exactly why providers aren't following up, only you know if you are communicating in a way that is respectful of whatever boundaries... but we do use that as one of the filters in deciding whether we want to see someone or not.

[agentx]

Flakiness is on the rise with providers in Austin it seems...

Don't take it personally if you don't get something set up with a provider you've never seen. It can take a bit of work.

If you have confirmed an appointment and there is a NCNS situation, I'd give the provider a pass ONCE. However, on a second NCNS let us know about the crappy NCNS - none of us wants to waste time taking time off work, driving towards an in-call, etc., only to have the session not take place.