Lunch / Dinner / Happy Hour with Providers

[RebeccaFair]

Really depends on the situation, but most times if we are spending longer times together, the dinner time is not specifically charged for, if at all. I'd much rather be dining with someone, than alone. Kisses

[txcwby6]

Hmmmmmmm...I usually buy lunch for a woman or two each week to enjoy their conversation and sometimes the erratic but welcomed flirts. While I appreciate the company of women at lunch I'm always wondering in the back of my head how they'd look naked and, more important, how long will I be able to DATY before I get to fuck 'em! Oink!

[hd]

I just suggested a get together in the ISO-best pizza place.

Only this short is notice and has to be this saturday late afternoon/evening. Since my SO is out of town saturday thru sunday evening.

Although I will probably go anyway by myself for a beer and pizza.

[txcwby6]

I used to take this cute stripper out for late dinners when she got off from work. That girl could move her body like a fine Swiss watch on stage but put her in a public setting and she lost any ability to keep her food or margarita on the table. Now, granted, she was good at getting 'other things' in her mouth but ask her to place a glass or fork to those red full lips and you might as well ask a pig to fly!

[mikahranae]

I don't see a problem with meeting prior to an appt for a quick drink, but anything longer should be compensated. I don't knock the ladies that like to give their time away for free, but I am an escort and I am paid for my time. I have children and my FREE time is spent with them.

[pjpenner]

Once again, the wide diversity in our business/hobby shows its head. That's part of the appeal, in my opinion.

It's been my experience that providers are more open to off-the-clock private social encounters with regular clients. That being said, a client needs to always respect the provider's time and other obligations. Don't assume a provider will agree to this on a regular basis just because you did it in the past. It's a matter of respect and consideration.

I, personally, always compensate (to some degree) the provider for her off-the-clock time that she willingly agreed to. It may be remuneration or a gift. It's the thought and etiquette that's important and remembered since she went beyond the normal activity and obligation of her profession.

[Playful Jade]

I am ok with a Breakfast/Lunch/Dinner or Happy Hour with regular friends. I am low-volume so besides school my schedule is pretty open and if your a regular friend of mine I dont mind going on a "meal date" to bond better, if my schedule permits. This also depends on the type of friendship we may have or developed. To each her own. Thats what makes every provider here unique.

[Guest022712-3]

I am open to it for a token charge, unless its a regular client, then I would likely not charge. I've done this with a few gents who were not comfortable with scheduling a full session due to my lack of face pictures.

[Vixen DeVain]

I don't know what 'token charge' is.. so I doubt I'd do it..
There are a couple guys I've seen, out in public & I haven't charged them UNLESS there was BCD.. I don't think I"d be open for 'getting to know ya' free time with someone I haven't seen before.. I'm loyal to the specific guys who are loyal to me!! =)
I actually ENJOY the time spent getting to know someone on a different level.. it's stress free, there's alot of laughter, and we get to see each other with out our "game face" on!!! ((giggle))

I'm down for breakfast, lunch, dinner, happy hour.. or whatever..

[MarieLynn of DFW]

Originally Posted by pjpenner

Once again, the wide diversity in our business/hobby shows its head. That's part of the appeal, in my opinion.

It's been my experience that providers are more open to off-the-clock private social encounters with regular clients. That being said, a client needs to always respect the provider's time and other obligations. Don't assume a provider will agree to this on a regular basis just because you did it in the past. It's a matter of respect and consideration.

I, personally, always compensate (to some degree) the provider for her off-the-clock time that she willingly agreed to. It may be remuneration or a gift. It's the thought and etiquette that's important and remembered since she went beyond the normal activity and obligation of her profession.

Bravo. I think, in my humble opinion, that you nailed it right on the wooden shed. Way to go!

I've known Private Encounter and who he is, so I'm very comfortable on taking him up on this offer if asked. For example, I've met him at various Socials that TrulySummer has taken the time to organize, as well as having a vast amount of conversations with him, so I know we have that mutual intelligence factor goin' on for various subjects. lol

For new gentlemen, (or those I haven't had the privilege to meet yet), the 'Date Fee' applies, (or Brunch or dinner fee).

Originally Posted by txcwby6

Hmmmmmmm...I usually buy lunch for a woman or two each week to enjoy their conversation and sometimes the erratic but welcomed flirts. While I appreciate the company of women at lunch I'm always wondering in the back of my head how they'd look naked and, more important, how long will I be able to DATY before I get to fuck 'em! Oink!

Is it wrong for females to wonder the same thing about a man?


MARIELYNN

[Private Encounter]

It is encouraging to see that a few ladies don't mind it and welcome it. Believe me, I completely respect their precious time and wouldn't mind compensating them some for spending quality "friendship" time together. I am not just all about BCD....I also like to spend time in a non-BCD enviornment as well which enhances the BCD experience and brings you one step closer in your illusion of a having a real girl friend!! I want to build good friendship as well.....and share what's going on in our lives...whether good or bad....

MarieLynn, thank you for your comments. I have always enjoyed seeing you at socials. You are a sweetie...Will certainly get in touch with you soon...

[Lana Warren]

Well, I definitely don't have a problem one bit having dinner or drinks with a gentleman in hopes of getting to know each other! And why in the hell would I charge someone for that? You know, we all have to eat and drink and I can't think of any better way to get to know someone than spending time with them! I have done this multiple times and guess what.......they're all good friends and regular clients! Isn't that just good customer service?

[Carrie Hillcrest]

To each her own, but what I'm selling is my time. Dinner takes time, and time takes money.

Clients' advocate: you're more likely to get a positive response to an off-the-clock dinner/lunch/drinks request with someone with whom you've proven yourself to be a good, paying client. Try not to abuse the privilege; don't expect it every visit, and return the favor by either seeing her often or leaving a tip for her kindness. Don't be butt-hurt if she declines or requests compensation for her time; she still likes you, but this IS a job. Remember that there are plenty of other ways she could be spending her time, but she's chosen to spend it with you. That is no small compliment.

Ladies' advocate: if you find you like dinner/lunch/drinks meetings, consider adding them to your published list of paid dates. More gentlemen are willing to pay for your (non-BCD) time than you might think.

[npita]

In my opinion. if you want to take a provider to lunch, dinner, whatever, the way to go about it is to:

(1) Book a longer appointment; and,
(2) Ask her if she would like to go out after the bcd time is over under the assumption that whatever time the activity takes beyond that which you've already covered will be on her time.

That gives her the option to decline without feeling pressured. However, I have never had a provider decline the invitation. I really don't think I would have asked a provider to just go out unless it was in the context of a paid appointment. (If she makes the offer, or you have become friends beyond merely a provider/client relationship, that's a different story.) If you're looking for a date, use a dating site.

[guest010712]

I've been out for dinner, drinks and movie (with and w/o BCD) with a few of my ATFs. I've offered to compensate each time, but the majority of them declined (a couple of them even paid - much to my protest).