study: men looking for love from providers

[cowboy8055]

Originally Posted by Loki Pk

"Boston man cautioned, “Men in this hobby who think they are only after sex are deceiving themselves. Sex always involves emotion, with the possibility for eventual affection, closeness, and emotional connection always lurking there. People can fall in love when they least expect it. And that love can last, even while one or both parties are married … and even when one is a provider.”
PK

I suppose this may be true for guys that can't tell the difference between lust and love. Seems like this study is another attempt at feminizing men.

[Lexxxy]

Originally Posted by cowboy8055

I would never fall in love with a provider. Could never truly love a woman who I know to be having sex with other men. I'm just not wired that way. That doesn't mean I don't have the "hots" for them. I've always been able to distinguish love from lust. I might be confused on everything thing else in life LOL but I've been able to keep those two things clear.

What about my undying love for you______??? *Whimpers in a corner*
*Giggles*

[cowboy8055]

You may be an exception to the rule Lexxxy

[Loki Pk]

You all realize those are quotes from the 'article'.... Right!?!?
PK

[cowboy8055]

Yes I do PK

[HoustonMilfDebbie]

Originally Posted by ms_elizabeth

"A new analysis of men who pay for sexual activities suggests that their true goal is finding something a bit more complicated – true love – even if it’s from the sex worker."

http://lasvegas.cbslocal.com/2012/08...-for-true-love

Totally agree!! But I find myself getting attached to "all time favorites" also. So, guess it goes both ways.

[Perfect Gentleman]

Originally Posted by HoustonMilfDebbie

Totally agree!! But I find myself getting attached to "all time favorites" also. So, guess it goes both ways.

SIGH....Another TEXAS gal
Ever think about a road trip to upstate NY?

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by cowboy8055

I would never fall in love with a provider. Could never truly love a woman who I know to be having sex with other men. I'm just not wired that way. That doesn't mean I don't have the "hots" for them. I've always been able to distinguish love from lust. I might be confused on everything thing else in life LOL but I've been able to keep those two things clear.

A great reason to appreciate a provider even more!!

I gave up the opportunity to marry or have a LTR because I'm in the industry. This means no second income in my home... not being available last minute and I can't have a roommate.

But, it is what it is.

I appreciate the gents that appreciate me!

[wanttohavefun]

“Our study shows that regular clients of a particular sex provider often come to experience feelings of deep affection, which can progress into an authentic love story.”

So the gist of what they are saying is that when a man and a woman meet they might fall in love. Someone alert the media!!!!! oh wait they did.

A study based on 2,500 annoymous internet posts that talk about "fantasy" situations is nuts. How did they choose what threads/posts to use. I'm sure we could find 3000 of the flame posts on eccie that "prove" that men hate escorts and clearly are just looking for angry sex.
I'm hoping this study/(exercise in creative data mining) wasn't done with an government grant paying for it.

Everyone I've seen multiple times it's because there was something there other than just the lust. I enjoy it if a healthy friendship is part of being a regular. One escort's texts helped my workout motivation as I was getting started and wanted me to text her when I hit new highs. Nothing I expect though, it's just a nice extra.

The rule of thumb I use to keep it in perspective is anything outside the session has to be started/escalated by the provider. There is a line that can be moved if the escort asks and the guy is interested. It has to be respected and it's a two way street. It prevents me from being "capt-save-a-ho" while it also prevents the escort from looking up my home number in the phone book to leave a message "hey babe I had a cancellation for 8pm, I'm at the Red Roof on Wolf and would love to see you" on my answering machine.

Originally Posted by Lexxxy

I even warn over nighters that I stay up late, I snore, toss'n'turn, get too hot so I toss the blankets off the bed

Lexxxy,

#1. I really don't see how you staying up late would be a bad thing.
#2. You are too hot all the time, you're so hot I'm surprised you can wear clothes.

[Perfect Gentleman]

I can only speak for myself. I have my favorites. Is it love? I think it's more a case of puppy love.
I'm fond of them and DO LOVE spending time with them.

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by Perfect Gentleman

I can only speak for myself. I have my favorites. Is it love? I think it's more a case of puppy love.
I'm fond of them and DO LOVE spending time with them.

And we have hourly husbands!

It seems to work!

[mirandalee]

I have a couple customers who are attached to me love it, means im doing a great job in the girlfriend department lol..

[JONBALLS]

i can understand why

[The Drummer]

Originally Posted by ms_elizabeth

"A new analysis of men who pay for sexual activities suggests that their true goal is finding something a bit more complicated – true love – even if it’s from the sex worker."

http://lasvegas.cbslocal.com/2012/08...-for-true-love

Am I to assume this article equates “True Love” with romantic love? (I’m too lazy to read the article.) If so, in my case, it’s never gonna happen.

In my years of encounters with many providers, I’ve often confessed to some that I love them – as a friend. My declaration’s always prefaced by, “Don’t get nervous, I’m not talking about romantic love”, as I go on to say, “but I have to tell you, I love you as my friend”.

Many of these “friends” have come and gone – some remain. The few that linger, I’ve known for years.

So I question myself as to: How can I be intimate with these ladies for so long without developing a love and caring for them? Also I manifest, to various degrees, a sense of worry and anxiety as a result of their chosen profession.

Is it amorous, starry-eyed, true love? I don’t think so. It’s a love and friendship cultivated by, what some would say to be, a very unorthodox relationship.

[offshoredrilling]

drummer
I almost want to say don't waste your breath.
but that is good
so I will add to it something I just posted in another thread

Originally Posted by offshoredrilling

Doove as you in the past spent much time with just one in the past, I think you would understand.

Took me a long time to get here I am. So other than bait&switch and cash and dash. I have found most of the time, not all, but yes most of the time any guy that got burned by a hook errr provider got what he was asking for.

Kenny Rogers - The Gambler

every fucking word in that song can be applied to guys seeing providers.
my ace may or may not be another guy ace
and come to think of it. It works the other way around also.



dang I'm going to play that song again.

the song part fits for what ya sayin I think