Stripper Rant Coming….

[rcusa]

Valid approach, of course, Dirkdiggler41; however, if all (hyperbole for 'most') strippers are greedy, then the deck is stacked against all our potentially winning hands, and the myriad schools of fish in the particular sea known as strip-clubs are all likely to act similarly greedy...

[Isseymiyake]

What it boils down to is most of us bust our ass 40+ hours a week to make what we make and they make that in 3 hours. Just my $0.02

[Dirkdiggler41]

Yes they are all greedy, they are there for money. I accept and expect it. No prob there. The point is for them to earn the damn money though. Asking for handouts, I’m not giving for free and nobody else should either so the smart ones don’t have to listen to them asking. Stop normalizing the behavior by giving them money for nothing.

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by Dirkdiggler41

Stop normalizing the behavior by giving them money for nothing.

THIS!

[blue162]

This might not be a very popular post but please consider: We are there to get as much as we can for as little as possible, right? Aren’t they doing the same? If the world was flipped & I was a male stripper in a club full of horny women, you bet your ass I would be hustling for every dollar I can get for as little work as possible.

Just food for thought here, nothing more. Not arguing or disagreeing with anyone. I guess it’s just all a game to me. A really fun game. Having played sports my whole life, I’ve always respected my opponent. I see it no differently in clubs. The exception being I didn’t get my knob shined on a football or baseball field.

With that, it’s off to BDD. Good luck tonight, gentlemen.

[rcusa]

I did not advocate nor suggest giving them money for nothing; merely telling them "no" in a way that doesn't necessarily burn the bridge.

[KFB]

Originally Posted by rcusa

I did not advocate nor suggest giving them money for nothing; merely telling them "no" in a way that doesn't necessarily burn the bridge.

I agree, I don't think anyone in the thread thinks we should give money for nothing. I do think the girls do try and test guys to see if they will though because there are suckers out there obv. In my experience say no in a nice way and they will usually immediately back off and apologize or say you're right daddy, etc. Game recognizes game and they know they're running game on you. If I stopped doing business with every girl that only 1 time asked me for a tip, buy them another drink after we're done and I'm leaving, help them tip the dj, try to renegotiate our deal, etc it would impact my fun in the club. Now if they keep doing it after I've checked them ... that's different.

[Dirkdiggler41]

Points taken gentlemen and some valid ones at that. In person, to avoid the awkwardness I would decline more nicely. But I’ve never had a stripper ask me to give her money for nothing in the club. It’s 20 for a dance, negotiated services behind that. I think we and they all understand that. The discussion topic was a text from a stripper you got for OTC fun and she ask you send her money for doing nothing. I appreciate the point about burning bridges. For the sake of argument next time when presented with this I will be nicer and see if I get anywhere with her. I doubt it, and even if I do I bet I have to pay more with a girl like that than if I just cut my losses and move onto next girl like I always do. But experementation is what life is about sometimes so I will test this hypothesis. I do pride myself on being open minded after all, not a talent that a lot of people have, especially here in Texas sadly.

[blue162]

We’re all doing our best here, amigo. I don’t know you guys but we’re all kindred spirits, in a way. Like that there’s a place we can compare notes. Keep bangin, gents.

[Brot]

I find ignoring that kind of behaviour very effective. Sometimes they even come around.

[KFB]

One last thing, I don't want to beat this to death. I personally don't give my number to girls for otc unless they've done some extras for me itc. When I do give them my number I am very clear about what it is for and not for. If they text me some bs, I can nicely but firmly remind them. I am always filtering and being selective, you're still going to get flaked on occasionally but it happens less because I'm doing everything to avoid getting in that situation to begin with.

[rcusa]

Strong, KFB.
But I get numbers for other than OTC-action, occasionally. There are dancers who are actually interesting people, and some of them have become friends.

[KFB]

Originally Posted by rcusa

Strong, KFB.
But I get numbers for other than OTC-action, occasionally. There are dancers who are actually interesting people, and some of them have become friends.

Nothing wrong with that if you're happy and getting what you want out of the situation.

[oldbutstillgoing]

An old adage and very generalized

Guys want as much as they can get and spend as little as possible.

Dancers want as much as they can get and give as little as possible.

As long as you understand those rules, there really shouldn't be any issue. The girls are free to ask, just like I'm free to say no.

If you get mad at this, and respond in a negative way, That attitude probably carries over in the club. If a dancer doesn't do what I want to do in the club, I don't get mad. I just move on. There is zero 2 be gained by being nasty to a gal. She probably sent that text out to 20 guys. Ignore it for respond politely and move on. I'm not gonna let something is insignificant at this Make me upset or angry or anything else. It's worth zero Emotional response from me.

If I respond at all, I still remain polite and i tell them why. It doesn't cost me anything to be polite. And you never know what it may change their attitude. Or they simply stop asking me.

[rase]

I agree! Needy vibe is total turn off and mood killer for me. I’ll leave.