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sajay678 · 08-07-2011, 08:17 AM

...shew my head hurts after reading all that!... interesting, lots of good points...

darter · 08-07-2011, 09:58 AM

Thanks for the clarification Finde, now I understand what you meant a little more. I personally, would rather see a providers limits here on her ads or showcase. That way I won't waste any time or effort going further. This is especially true since I rarely go to a providers website unless she has no pictures here.

If someone is going to have any limitations that might affect me, I want to know as soon as possible, After all the end result is going to be the same, the lady is not going to see me and I've wasted less time.

If you start with saying providers can't have an NBA policy in their ad or showcase, where does it end? And again I agree with you on the point that the way the original ad was posted was rude and offensive.

Puzzeluver210 · 08-07-2011, 10:17 AM

What I find interesting is that I haven't seen a response from any providers here that don't see aa men. I would think that maybe they would give there 2 cents or at least share whatever bad experience they had. Or perhaps they would rather not receive harsh criticism for it.

MsChayse · 08-07-2011, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by flinde

Normally, I just scroll thru the "No African American Men" threrads. Maybe make a tasteless joke or two about "Once you go black, you won't go back" etc.

I understand that these are very personal services and a gal is entitled to some leeway.

But this?

*NO AFRICAN AMERICAN MALES PLEASE(I'M NOT RUDE NOR RACIST JUST PERSONAL SECURITY PURPOSES*

So, white guys are safe, but "African American Males" are a "security risk".

Give me a break.

I am greatly offended by the above, and I'm white everywhere that I'm not pink. I dont think that we should permit such racist BS here - we are better than that.

Well I guess you'll really be offended at my requirements then. I restrict my clients to 40+ Caucasian males ONLY. Lol! My point? "Her body, her rules!"

Randall Creed · 08-07-2011, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Puzzeluver10

What I find interesting is that I haven't seen a response from any providers here that don't see aa men. I would think that maybe they would give there 2 cents or at least share whatever bad experience they had. Or perhaps they would rather not receive harsh criticism for it.

They'll never respond, because somewhere in their minds they know that policy of theirs is bullshit.

"I'm sorry but...."

Why are you 'sorry'?

darter · 08-07-2011, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Puzzeluver10

What I find interesting is that I haven't seen a response from any providers here that don't see aa men. I would think that maybe they would give there 2 cents or at least share whatever bad experience they had. Or perhaps they would rather not receive harsh criticism for it.

They won't respond because they don't want to be "labled" or recieve undue criticism.

Randall Creed · 08-07-2011, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by darter

They won't respond because they don't want to be "labled" or recieve undue criticism.

Lol.

'Labeled' as what, exactly? And what would be 'undue' criticism?

If they feel their policies are so righteous, then what do they have to fear? Woman up, I say. Face your accusers. Defend your policies. Justify why the 'brotha man' is not worthy of your 'time and companionship'.

darter · 08-07-2011, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Lol.

'Labeled' as what, exactly? And what would be 'undue' criticism?

If they feel their policies are so righteous, then what do they have to fear? Woman up, I say. Face your accusers. Defend your policies. Justify why the 'brotha man' is not worthy of your 'time and companionship'.

As a racist. Undue criticism would be some of the crap that is being flung about here.

Why should they have to defend their policies? It is thier body and they can see who they choose. As I said earlier with some of the ladies it may just be that they are not attracted to African American men. I don't get why that is so hard to understand. You are saying that all providers should see anyone that wants to see them. If you force them to do that it is not much different then rape.

I'm pretty sure that the pool of women that will see you is growing smaller with each post. Not because you're black, but because you are such a misogynist

MsChayse · 08-07-2011, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Lol.

'Labeled' as what, exactly? And what would be 'undue' criticism?

If they feel their policies are so righteous, then what do they have to fear? Woman up, I say. Face your accusers. Defend your policies. Justify why the 'brotha man' is not worthy of your 'time and companionship'.

Well, I'll face you. I provide EXCLUSIVELY to Caucasian GENTLEMEN 40+. I won't give you my reasons because I don't answer to obnoxious little boy. Your rants are boring. Get over it!

darter · 08-07-2011, 12:04 PM

Sorry, I should have said you have the attitude of a misogynist.

Pepper_Springfield · 08-07-2011, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

They'll never respond, because somewhere in their minds they know that policy of theirs is bullshit.

I don't think that's true. I responded and I don't think my policy is bullshit. I still wont see aa without references. I mentioned why earlier in this discussion. It's bullshit for you to think this is a normal business, when it is not. We are alone and if we don't feel safe around certain people, then we don't have to see them. Period. No big deal, just move on to someone else if you don't like it. That's the beauty of this "business," you have soooo many girls to choose from.

deagogarcia · 08-08-2011, 08:18 AM

interesting...
Negro-phobia: 1. Fear of or contempt for Black people and their culture.
2. Behavior based on such an attitude or feeling.

Leukophobia: 1. Fear of the color white, it could be white anything from shoes, white house, white car, white hat, and even white people(...pink, tan??).

But then again, this could all just be on the same level as Homophobia...which is just a stage in a lack of understanding of things, reality, and the unknown...something possibly petty. The more someone educates themselves on things from all perspectives, then possibly the less stereotypes. In my experience, no stereotypes...it' only when people themselves claim they do things because it's a culture related to their skin color...which isn't true, it's just a form of social engineering, passed down from multiple generations who believe we are different because of the lack, or abundance of melanin in our skin.
On the flip side, no matter what level of melanin in our current skin, I think it is appreciated when the policy on not catering to different characteristic groups ( I myself believe we are all from the same people, and creator) in advance, and done in a non-offensive manner, because in the end whether the provider or the hobbyist, no one really wants to be offended, whatever we may take offense to (freedom of offense lol). On all sides of the table, when encountering heavymelanin people who will only date other heavymelanin people, lowmelanin for lowmelanin, and so on, IF it is based on discrimination, then it does suck, because "the other person" could be the best qualified bachelorette/bachelor in the world and have nothing to do with this nonsense....hopefully everything changes for the better.

Also...Fear of the Unknown: xenophobia

Good stuff:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nimrod

Randall Creed · 08-08-2011, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by heartsonfire

Well, I'll face you. I provide EXCLUSIVELY to Caucasian GENTLEMEN 40+. I won't give you my reasons because I don't answer to obnoxious little boy. Your rants are boring. Get over it!

I'll be brief and say that you'll never have to worry about me wanting to see you anyway.

Randall Creed · 08-08-2011, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Pepper_Springfield

I don't think that's true. I responded and I don't think my policy is bullshit. I still wont see aa without references. I mentioned why earlier in this discussion. It's bullshit for you to think this is a normal business, when it is not. We are alone and if we don't feel safe around certain people, then we don't have to see them. Period. No big deal, just move on to someone else if you don't like it. That's the beauty of this "business," you have soooo many girls to choose from.

So, when a white, Asian, or other guy do you wrong in any capacity, do you feel equally as wronged compared to a black guy doing it? More? Less?

To pretend scum only comes in one demographic is assinine, and seriously naive. Do you see any other race of men without references?

Y'all talk all this shit about 'get over it', but if it was reversed OR APPLIED TO YOU, you'd be doing the same thing. Just like women fighting for decades to have the right to vote. I'm sure there were MEN back then thinking, "To hell with them voting. They're only women. What do they know about voting?"

I wonder how many times THEY were told to get over it.

Budman · 08-08-2011, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I'll be brief and say that you'll never have to worry about me wanting to see you anyway.

Why would you not want to see her? Is it because you don't think she is hot? If this is the reason then why is your reason more important than others on who to see and who not to see?

Is it because she won't she blacks and therfore you wouldn't want to see her? If this is the case why don't you drop your holier than thou attitude and move on to those providers that will see you?