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erin paige · 12-15-2010, 04:08 PM

I really need some help with a hobbyist that is driving me crazy!!!
Over the summer and fall I was attending school full-time and wasnt as active.
I met with a really nice gentlemen that just really made things a lot easier for me being that I couldn't work. Things have become a little too personal now with him, it's like anytime I go out of state and post he finds me!!! I was in New York city for a month and he wouldn't leave me alone I don't get how he can find time to stalk me 1700 miles away... He text my phone calling me very inappropriate names EVERYDAY. He also tells me that I owe him money, for what idk! The worst thing that makes me a little upset is when he called me a NIG*** and keeps threatening my family what should I do... I believe in his mind he thought that I was his girlfriend because at a point in time I was only seeing him but I NEVER SAID I WANTED TO BE WITH HIM!
Everday he texts my phone counting down the days of Christmas... I guess on Xmas he's going to spill the beans to my family about my career lol. I'm so drained and really creeped out. Someone please help!

deacon · 12-15-2010, 04:22 PM

first thing i would do is get a new phone number/

erin paige · 12-15-2010, 04:26 PM

Thank you! I doubt that would work. He's like the CIA of backpage

Anon3x · 12-15-2010, 04:58 PM

Sounds like a job for some of Dirty Dogs acquaintance's.

Fsn57 · 12-15-2010, 05:00 PM

Sounds scary, if he's threatening your family...counting days down...it doesn't sound as he's too stable. I would seriously look at your personal protection options (i.e., firearms, etc.). Depending on how unbalanced he may be, it may be worth talking to LE.

Muffrider · 12-15-2010, 05:05 PM

She can't take legal action without running the risk of disclosing her profession. I'd look for someone who has a friend in LE who can "have a talk" with this joker on the DL.

Fsn57 · 12-15-2010, 05:13 PM

no doubt a bad situation, and he's certainly counting on her not going to LE because of her profession, which can make it very dangerous since he feels he can act with impunity.

old-tyme-racer · 12-15-2010, 06:13 PM

Erin

Check your PM's on ECCIE

deacon · 12-15-2010, 06:13 PM

why cant she say she is a escort? its not illegal to escort. if he is making threats i would tell him that you have no choice but to go to the police.

dirty dog · 12-15-2010, 06:20 PM

Erin, is this gentlemen in Kansas City, PM me his information and I will see what I can do for you.

dirty dog · 12-15-2010, 06:21 PM

Okay now for the manditory funny comment I have to apply to all conversations, I will put an end to this right now. You ready Erin, here it goes. GALT DO NOT CALL HER PHONE AGAIN LOL... There you go. LOL. Seriously see my above text.

jac01 · 12-15-2010, 06:50 PM

I'm guessing you know this guy's real identity. You could do an Intelius background check on him and use whatever you find out about him to push back against his threats. Would he lose his job, wife, family if he was outed as someone that patronized escorts? Perhaps you making that threat to him would be enough to get him to back off. I'd still get a gun and get some rangetime so you are comfortable using it. Letting DirtyDog help you couldn't hurt either.

bustycici · 12-15-2010, 09:03 PM

I know personally how frustrating and scary it can be..I got out for lik 5months and had a friend like that but he wasn't off the board..He made sure I didn't have to work and I made things very clear for him at the start I was not his gf we weren't dating..Needless to say things got really scary when he sent me a text of a few peoples numbers from my phone questioning me about them..One being my ex and the other someone i was dating on and off for 3 yrs..Threw me for a loop..He then proposed gave me 2 weeks to decide if I was going to go to reno with him and get married...Then spilled the beans he was ex CIA and that his friend who was a contract ______ said I was a problem that needed to be taken care of..I had to break it down and let him know I would be even more of a bad person if I would have married him for the wrong reasons..I don't know how i walked away without problems but I did..He still pops in a lot with texts but nothing crazy and scary like before..But i do have a few friends in higher places that can help if you need it!!

wildman · 12-17-2010, 09:20 PM

Enough is enough, there are two sides to every story and I need to tell the TRUTHFULL version.
I am new to all this, but I decided to meet Erin sometime back in August. After several NCNS, we finally met. Not going to lie, she was a sweet girl and attractive.... we clicked very well. We decided to go out the following week for her birthday…Dinner, drinks, a very fun evening. It was apparent our relationship became pretty informal. Time was never an issue, 3-4 hrs was the norm for her 1 hr rate. Dinner with my friends, she would bring friends, backyard bbq’s, calling me just to talk, you name it. The trust between us was building, and after a month or so I asked her what she thought about ‘dating’ each other and she agreed. She told me she hated doing this line of work. On one of our outings she even mentioned all the repulsive ‘stinky, hairy, farmers’ she had seen before. I asked her if she would stop posting and she agreed, she changed her number, the whole 9 yards. Everything was fine for awhile.
Gradually, she started posting again, yet we continued to hang out. One day out of the blue I get a random call from HER FAMILY asking for $500 immediately. See, Erin was in jail and needed bail money. I complied and she promised to pay me back ASAP. 3 months later, I ain’t seen a dime.
Shortly after that, she comes over and we have a conversation about me helping her out financially until she finishes school. She writes her monthly expenses down ($1100) on a piece of paper. I tell her I can help her on the condition that she stops posting. She promises that she will not do it nor see any other guys, and we will continue seeing each other regularly like before. I gave all of the money around the first of the month and even gave her money so that her son could have a nice birthday. Some time goes by and she doesn’t make the effort to see me anymore, so I figure something is fishy. I ask her what’s up? I ask her to stay with me the next weekend but she says her car is broke down. I figured at this point that I made a huge mistake, so I googled her number and turns out the weekend we were going to hang out and her car was ‘broke’, she was posting in St. Louis. I asked her about it and she didn’t reply for almost a week. Finally she apologizes and said she was too embarrassed to answer my calls.
A few days later, she texts me saying, ‘’I know what I did was wrong, you know you are my boo. I just wish you could just trust me again.’’ At this point, I am done with her, but she continues to call/text me the following week. I finally answer and she swears to never lie like that again, that she is done posting, and will get a real job. Ironically this is all said around the first of the following month, and she asks for another $1100. I tell her I will loan it to her on the condition that she follows through with her promises.
Time passes by, and she still makes excuses for not being able to see me. I ask her to spend the weekend with me and I get no response. I decide to google her number one last time, and what do you know? She was posting and working in NYC. I called her and she completely lied and called me a stalker. Really???
Naturally, I am disappointed in how all this went down. Yes, I admit I asked for my money back several times and we got into heated arguments, but I am not a stalker or a psycho like she claims. I know I am a dumbass to have continued to help her and believe she was actually interested in me. I thought she was an honest and sweet girl, but that was a huge mistake.
I will be honest, I am a cripple, and perhaps she saw me as an easy mark. She is a hustler and a compulsive liar, and I got hustled. I am out $2700. I really don't know how she looks herself in the mirror every day. Sorry this is so long, but I wanted the truth to come out and I'd be willing to take a polygraph test to prove that. I bet she wouldn't…
Bottom line, never never never enter into an arrangement like this. I was naïve and new to the hobby, but hopefully my lesson learned will help others.
I am done with her, this website, and this hobby. I wish you all the best.

Omahan · 12-17-2010, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by wildman

Enough is enough, there are two sides to every story and I need to tell the TRUTHFULL version.
I am new to all this, but I decided to meet Erin sometime back in August. After several NCNS, we finally met. Not going to lie, she was a sweet girl and attractive.... we clicked very well. We decided to go out the following week for her birthday…Dinner, drinks, a very fun evening. It was apparent our relationship became pretty informal. Time was never an issue, 3-4 hrs was the norm for her 1 hr rate. Dinner with my friends, she would bring friends, backyard bbq’s, calling me just to talk, you name it. The trust between us was building, and after a month or so I asked her what she thought about ‘dating’ each other and she agreed. She told me she hated doing this line of work. On one of our outings she even mentioned all the repulsive ‘stinky, hairy, farmers’ she had seen before. I asked her if she would stop posting and she agreed, she changed her number, the whole 9 yards. Everything was fine for awhile.
Gradually, she started posting again, yet we continued to hang out. One day out of the blue I get a random call from HER FAMILY asking for $500 immediately. See, Erin was in jail and needed bail money. I complied and she promised to pay me back ASAP. 3 months later, I ain’t seen a dime.
Shortly after that, she comes over and we have a conversation about me helping her out financially until she finishes school. She writes her monthly expenses down ($1100) on a piece of paper. I tell her I can help her on the condition that she stops posting. She promises that she will not do it nor see any other guys, and we will continue seeing each other regularly like before. I gave all of the money around the first of the month and even gave her money so that her son could have a nice birthday. Some time goes by and she doesn’t make the effort to see me anymore, so I figure something is fishy. I ask her what’s up? I ask her to stay with me the next weekend but she says her car is broke down. I figured at this point that I made a huge mistake, so I googled her number and turns out the weekend we were going to hang out and her car was ‘broke’, she was posting in St. Louis. I asked her about it and she didn’t reply for almost a week. Finally she apologizes and said she was too embarrassed to answer my calls.
A few days later, she texts me saying, ‘’I know what I did was wrong, you know you are my boo. I just wish you could just trust me again.’’ At this point, I am done with her, but she continues to call/text me the following week. I finally answer and she swears to never lie like that again, that she is done posting, and will get a real job. Ironically this is all said around the first of the following month, and she asks for another $1100. I tell her I will loan it to her on the condition that she follows through with her promises.
Time passes by, and she still makes excuses for not being able to see me. I ask her to spend the weekend with me and I get no response. I decide to google her number one last time, and what do you know? She was posting and working in NYC. I called her and she completely lied and called me a stalker. Really???
Naturally, I am disappointed in how all this went down. Yes, I admit I asked for my money back several times and we got into heated arguments, but I am not a stalker or a psycho like she claims. I know I am a dumbass to have continued to help her and believe she was actually interested in me. I thought she was an honest and sweet girl, but that was a huge mistake.
I will be honest, I am a cripple, and perhaps she saw me as an easy mark. She is a hustler and a compulsive liar, and I got hustled. I am out $2700. I really don't know how she looks herself in the mirror every day. Sorry this is so long, but I wanted the truth to come out and I'd be willing to take a polygraph test to prove that. I bet she wouldn't…
Bottom line, never never never enter into an arrangement like this. I was naïve and new to the hobby, but hopefully my lesson learned will help others.
I am done with her, this website, and this hobby. I wish you all the best.

The money is gone. You made a huge mistake that a lot of guys have made before you - you mixed the hobby with the personal. Just walk away with the lesson learned.