You have to go through a rather extreme screening process by a very reputable provider that should be well known in your local area. Some gents don't want to give up their personal information but us ladies have to protect our person and paper. To relieve your stress, I will say that a reputable provider cannot be reputable if she breaks discretion. Discretion is the number one rule in the hobby. So, if you see someone you trust, even if they aren't your first choice, get that referral. Expect to be screened thoroughly though. Arkansas is a hotbed of ill fate. I haven't made the most friends here but I will vouch that nobody here with several reviews written or on them is gonna violate you. Occasionally a newbie can get a well known hobbyist to screen and vouch him because sometimes it is easier to trust a man with so much personal 411. It would have to be a hobbyist with a VERY well known reputation so do your homework. Giving your 411 to a hobbyist that has only been here a year won't work. A pm, a phone call and a beer on you just may be your ticket, but be prepared to prove everything you say with HARD EVIDENCE. The ladies here won't be entertaining that method so an offer of dinner will not work. Either/or...You have to earn your trust just like everyone else AND A PHONE CALL TO VERIFY EMPLOYMENT IS JUST NOT ENOUGH IN TODAY'S TIMES (that's for everyone, not just you). Welcome! And remember, it's always best to post your questions for multiple responses. Lacey
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