My feelings on this topic is a little different than what I'm reading from others. I'm not going to get an orgasm from participating in one way anal play time. But I REALLY enjoy giving a man pleasure, and so it works on that level for me.
At times, it's also very possibly to get in a certain mindset that is a rush in itself. Not orgasmic, but satisfying. And that happens a LOT when I play on the edge or do anal with a man. It's like a top high.
I learned a long time ago that accidents happen. When I used to do anal, messes would happen to me and I would be mortified. When it happens to a man, he's completely mortified, at least sometimes.
With anal play, it's a roll of the dice even if they have an enema. I just don't require it. Although I'm thinking of getting some disposable enema equipment to just offer it out there, it's not necessary.
NOT having poop is best but if it happens, deal with it and go forward. It's not a big problem. Just mentally ignore the smell and visual and there you go!
I also keep disposable changing pads, or puppy training papers
, around to put underneath the guy so it's not completely awful if there is a mess. But one never knows! Sometimes I have them and sometimes I do not.
Anal play is just a really sensitive and erotic thing to explore. I know some ladies who won't do it. I understand that. But ignoring anal play is to ignore a HUGE part of an individual's sexuality.
My take on it.
Elisabeth