Session 1, session 2, ....I'm bored?

[Shiloh Stevens]

How does one keep the romance alive between a hobbyist and his favorite provider?

Say he sees her on a regular basis and spends at least an hour with her. She enjoys him as well and looks forward to his visits. Yet the "moments" can become routine for many reasons.

I've played around with some ideas but would love to hear what keeps a gent excited. Would love to hear from the ladies as well. Here are at least 5 categories where diversity can bring back the spark between the two.

1. Lingerie: garter belts and stockings are my favorite...what else is sexy?
2. Costumes: love playful costumes...which do you like?
3. Role-playing: this is one of my favorite ways to build up the excitement. What role would you play?
4. Change of scenery: what location would be appropriate and yet inviting?
5. Games: what games would you enjoy?

[bigdog0311]

Funny you should say that as "routine" or "same old mundane" type of sex is one of the causes a married man to seek out a provider!

My advice is the switch things up, the five things you mentioned are good, but also you might want to add:


do a strip tease lap dance beforehand
give/receive a massage

and I am sure there are others as well.

[Hercules]

Originally Posted by Shiloh Stevens

How does one keep the romance alive between a hobbyist and his favorite provider?

Avoid marriage.....


Sincerely wish I knew. When I hop into bed with my fave we talk all kindsa shit about what we'll do to each other then end up going at it like drunken prom dates in good old fashion missionary.

Sometime when the chemistry is there that's all it takes. I.e don't try too hard, just enjoy the session and so will he.

[Guest020617-1]

Bondage.

Woody

[Ichabod1962]

IMHO, It is all about Chemistry. If it is not there, it does not matter what you wear, or where you do it!

[artee4fun]

Ditto the chemistry. My ATF wears different outfits and we try different positions but it always comes down to I just enjoy her company and each time is special because of that.

[MrKlean]

Open communication. Talk to the hobbyist. Ask him what he likes, dislikes.
What is something bcd that he has always wanted to do

Guys sometime will not initiate certain conversations, but would gladly participate.

More than anything, switch things up. Sometimes make it passionate, sometimes make it pse.

I think providers many times are expecting hobbyist to tell them what they want. Some hobbyist want you to figure that out yourself

Just make sure that the hobbyist feels like a "King" whenever he is around you and that you are his faithful servant. Your main purpose in life is to make him come back for more.

Treat it like Walmart "The customer is ALWAYS right"

Experiment, do something with him that you the provider has never done.
Something that makes him feel special.

[Guest120614-1]

Here is the Plan Ms. Stevens. The next time you fly into DFW, wear nothing but the outfit below and a trench coat, Ill do the rest!

[eccienewbie]

Yeah, I'm thinking it might take more than two visits to get bored with Ms. Stevens. Just a guess, of course, but the visual evidence tends to support it. A lot.

Originally Posted by MrMonger

Here is the Plan Ms. Stevens. The next time you fly into DFW, wear nothing but the outfit below and a trench coat, Ill do the rest!

[Shiloh Stevens]

MrMonger and eccienewbie!!!!

Thanks for the input guys. I guess I'm the one who does not want to feel like I'm married. lol. Never been married have no idea what mundane sex is like. So, I just want to make sure that I do not fall into a very....predictable routine.

Hmmm....maybe I'll be the "naughty homewrecker!".

[fine dimes21]

I have to agree with most posters especially with artee and kriggins.
Changing things up, being spontaneous helps. For me, 1st impressions are big, nothing kills it with the lack of communication, they were times you could tell with the lack of communication it wasn't going to be great. The ones that lack the communication part, I just moved on. The ones that had excellent communication, it was a pretty good experience. Even an e-mail with a follow up or text saying you are looking forward to the meet if one schedules ahead helps tremendously.

The small things may mean a big deal to a person, an example, hey would you mind doing your hair in pigtails or wearing a particular outfit? etc. It is only a letdown when it doesn't happen.
After that, coming up with ideas to keep the fun going, not mention at that point, both of you should be comfortable to discuss it further.

While retired, and it would take alot for me hop back in. The times I would not repeat was just the visit was good, but not so great leaving me with more to crave, not just the physical part alone for me.

[Guest022315]

Shiloh Stevens hummm trips Mr Monger to cut in line first
I think it all comes down to chemistry and everything else follows

[Guest062512]

Speaking for myself only, of course. What separates an ATF from just another fun session is creativity and personal touches. These are examples from a former ATF of mine.

On about the 4th or 5th date, she texted me during my drive over (about 15 min before the scheduled appointment), saying, "I've been watching porn to get ready for you, now I'm so horny, I need you bad. Get here as soon as you can, please." When I arrived, she was behind the door naked. She closed and locked the door and began feverishly taking off my clothes. Awesome memorable session followed.

On my birthday, she bought me a coffee mug, not expensive, but discreetly personalized. It still sits on my desk at work.

Another session, she said, "I've been reading kama sutra and there's this position I think would be perfect for us." (I'm tall and she was not so much.) We had lots of laughs and sexy fun trying that and other exotic positions.

Most importantly, every session after the first or second, she behaved as if I was her only boyfriend and she couldn't wait to to see me and have sex with me. Things like stroking my crotch during our initial greeting hug - or - sneaking peeks at me in the shower while i "freshened up" - or - turning her back to me and taking both my hands and bring them to her breasts for a great backward hug while I nibbled her neck and earlobe - or - having my favorite dessert in the fridge for a snack afterward.

Thoughtful and creative and seeming to really BE happy to be with me.

[69er]

First point of business...

Ms. Stevens, WOW. Do give a heads up when you will be in Dallas.

Now on to the reply.

I think Crossroads has the right idea. My current ATF (LOL) is someone I really have a good time with. There is just a chemistry where we seem to like one another. On a number of occassions one of us has ended up laughing during sex because of something the other has said or done. We are both having a great time, enjoying ourselves, and unashamedly enjoying each other. That always seems to keep it new.

Little touches so that she knows I took a little time to do something extra for her, or she for me, also really help to get across that feeling. I think if you are enjoying each other, and each see that, it will not get old!

[Guest062512]

Thanks for the reminder, 69er.

I forgot to mention that I, too, contributed to the "illusion." I would bring gifts for special occasions, souvenirs from trips i had taken, her favorite drink or snack or flowers.

Dang, I miss her.
(Taking applications)