Problems With Meeting Up

[STLniggaSDB]

It seems like lately, I've been stood a few times in the past week and its getting old quick. I usually go for the ones who are well reviewed, I get in touch witht hem to set something up, but by the time I make it over to their place, no answer. Its like they change their mind at the very last second and I wasted my time and gas.

I never really see them and when I try to call/text, they don't respond.
I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or I'm having lousy luck. Any advice?

[jerl0817]

IMO
If something better comes up, either from the hobby or a free 8 ball, you're going to get kicked to the curb. Puctuality and commitment are not qualities we go looking for in these gals. It's all part of the bizz. What are you going to do, call a cop?

[Ashley-Nicole of St Louis]

How are you going about setting up your appointment? Just remember to be polite(even if you're nervous) and never discuss services. If you're new, it does take time to learn the protocol.

Happy Hobbying,

Ash

[STLniggaSDB]

Thank you everyone for helping me out. I was just beginning to get a little bit frustrated and wondering if I was doing anything wrong. I understand that I shouldn't talk about the services at least not over the phone but when is it OK. If her ad doesn't provide any info on her ad than I don't want to get there and find out that I don't even have enough.

Also, you mentioned that I should be polite, even if I'm nervous. Should I be more flirtatious or just generally friendly over the phone when I set my meetings up? I do get nervous because I get a little paranoid that I might be walking into a sting, or she tries to pull a fast one and steal my money or something. Those kinds of things.

[LeLana]

Originally Posted by Ashley-Nicole of St Louis

How are you going about setting up your appointment? Just remember to be polite(even if you're nervous) and never discuss services. If you're new, it does take time to learn the protocol.

I second that Ashley!! If you've already setup an appt tho, it is very rude of the provider!

[bluffcityguy]

Originally Posted by STLniggaSDB

Also, you mentioned that I should be polite, even if I'm nervous. Should I be more flirtatious or just generally friendly over the phone when I set my meetings up? I do get nervous because I get a little paranoid that I might be walking into a sting, or she tries to pull a fast one and steal my money or something. Those kinds of things.

What's your personality like? If you're a natural flirt, then flirtatious might work; if you aren't, then not so much. (The lady involved may have "some say" over that, too; some ladies just aren't that flirtatious while they're taking care of business (especially with someone they've never seen before); they may be more so once you're BCD or on a subsequent visit.)

However friendly never fails, in my experience; you can use that as your default attitude and work from there.

I understand the paranoia, but if you're doing your due diligence you shouldn't have to worry.

Happy hunting!

Cheers,

bcg

[naughtynatale]

There is alot of this story that I find blank. Depending on the type of lady you are setting this up with and your personality. I prefer email in setting up my time and not a phone call or a text. Everyone is different. Without knowing exactly some details it is hard to say who is at fault.

But in either case I find it rude not to answer a call of a gentleman/lady who you have stood up. It is just very unprofessional and this is a business. Maybe you are seeing high volume ladies idk. It is hard to respond without knowing more details. I am brutally honest and will just tell the gentleman if he has done something that irritates me that we are not a match. I would never have him come to my place and not answer the door. It should never go that far if the lady has no intentions of seeing someone.

[Ashley-Nicole of St Louis]

Always address the provider by name. Then introduce yourself. Tell her where you found her, ask when she is available and she will take it from there. Don't get scared if she asks you for references. It means she plays safe. It is bad business practice to give location and then not answer your phone, but like some else alluded too, not all providers treat it like it's there own small business, and contrary to popular belief we aren't all strung out on drugs or "turning tricks" for our next fix. You will figure out quickly how to tell a quality provider from a fly by night.