Appointment Seekers?

[Ginger Doll]

I would like to get some input from the guys on the board regarding ladies that I refer to as "appointment seekers." Meaning, ladies who regularly initiate communication with hobbyists seeking appointments...attempting to pressure them into appointments that they haven't requested.

This has been a subject that has been on my mind for quite some time, because I know there are a lot of ladies out there who do this.

I have never participated in this type of behavior, because I personally feel that it is tacky. I also feel that this behavior is unfair to providers that don't act in this manner, because these are clients that probably would've chosen someone else if not pressured into a date by an "appointment seeker."

Honest opinions, please. How does this type of behavior from a provider make you feel? Are you genuinely receptive to this, or do you accept the invitations simply because you are afraid to say no and/or offend someone?

[Mr.Chan]

In hobby ranks are number of gentlemen who have during experience been in unpleasant position of feeling compelled to see a lady. It is unfortunate fallout from having friendship with lady who shows attention to attention starved client. It is flattering to think lady holds him in such high regard that she would seek appointment. It is like wallflower being asked to dance, homunculus befriended by beautiful woman. For brief instant, he feel special.
Unfortunately it is attended by sense of being trapped as need of lady expands and unfortunate hobbyist fears awkwardness if turning lady down. So he books appointments he does not want, misses opportunity to see ladies he can no longer afford to see. Inevitable result is that gentleman break with lady and does not ever see again, and hard feelings on both sides. Lady feels offended, gentleman warns fellow hobbyists to be cautious. Business suffers. In long haul poor investment made by both parties.
Very painful topic of conversation.
Sign me,
Bought Christmas for the Kids in Little Rock

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I would like to get some input from the guys on the board regarding ladies that I refer to as "appointment seekers." Meaning, ladies who regularly initiate communication with hobbyists seeking appointments or attempting to pressure gentleman into appointments that they haven't requested.

This has been a subject that has been on my mind for quite some time, because I know there are a lot of ladies out there who do this.

I have never participated in this type of behavior, because I personally feel that it is tacky. I also feel that this behavior is unfair to providers that don't act in this manner, because these are clients that probably would've chosen someone else if not pressured into a date by an "appointment seeker."

Honest opinions, please. How does this type of behavior from a provider make you feel? Are you genuinely receptive to this, or do you accept the invitations just because you are afraid to say no and/or offend someone?

[newguy2001]

Luckily hasn't been an issue. I wouldn't want it. I can understand if it is a lady you met, that travels and she is just letting you know she will be back in town to visit. Something along those lines is no biggie.

No one wants the feeling/sales tactics of walking onto the lot of a car dealership.

[Revive]

I am all for a lady letting you know when she is available especially if its a lady thats hard to catch. But if she is like ... I have to see you I miss you so bad or I need some money bad that's a different story. I think chatting it up in pms is an ok tool as long as they don't make you feel like they are asking for a date.

[MrGiz]

Good question!

I can understand why some find it unappealing.... but quite frankly, if I was not otherwise attracted to the lady... I would find a nice, non-offensive way, or excuse to decline the offer.

To play Devil's Advocate... Think of this scenario...
A good looking, popular girl is in an area where one particular guy, with a good reputation, has seen most of the other girls in the area, but not her. A little bit of ego, mixed with a little bit of curiosity... mixed even further by the actual desire to "sexperience" the guy herself, leads to her popping the proposal. * I could understand that situation.

But.... to make that a "regular" habit? * No.... that's probably not a very smart business plan!

[urhuckleberry]

If I have seen a lady before, we have a relationship established, I usually welcome private inquiries, chit chat or just plain flirting.

However, if I have not seen a lady and I get contacts along the line, "when are you going to call me" or "what do I have to do to get your attention...", then the lady can be pretty sure she won't... ever.

But that's just me.

Huck

[Mr.Chan]

As noted by honorable gentlemen, escort business contain element of salesmanship. There is no harm in unobtrusive marketing. As long as no may be taken for answer. It is responsibility of hobbyist to make clear his desire or lack of same. Perhaps as impolite is hobbyist who does not make self plain, and in not making intention clear leave in mind of lady that sale may yet be possible.

[mudpuppy2009]

I neither, have had this problem .If a client likes a lady and would like to see her more , then they should communicate on guidelines . If the gentleman is married and has a cell phone and does not want any possibility of any txt msg being seen or getting a call when he is with spouse or wanting to be discreet. Some clients may say call me anytime. Ginger I know that you have sent me a sweet PM just saying hi . I thought that was a great way for a lady to to communicate with a client .You are a very beautiful and intelligent lady and that made my day.

[Sweet N Little]

Discretion is the name of the game, never contact someone unless they initiate contact first...just my rule Unless you have the "its OK to contact me" I wouldn't dream of doing it. A huge NO NO

[cgrman]

Well Giz I know then you must get contacted by every good looking touring girl that crosses the state line being that you are the top dawg for these parts. ... LOL.... just kidding.... you been doing ok lately??

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

Discretion is the name of the game, never contact someone unless they initiate contact first...just my rule Unless you have the "its OK to contact me" I wouldn't dream of doing it. A huge NO NO

Well.... if you're talking about "phone" contact, I agree!!

I have had a couple of local girls send emails, checking in after long periods of no communication, suggesting we reunite for some fun.... maybe I'm just a dawg... but I've never been offended by it!

I may be changing the subject just a bit... but I don't think there's anything wrong with an email from one of my established fave traveling girls, letting me know that she will be in the area soon.*I look at that as having "preferred status" for booking availability... and I appreciate it.

But phone calls? I agree.... that's a no-no!!

CGRMAN... I've been fine... but gone from home waaaaay too much over the last few months... I'm only home now, for four days before having to leave again!! But I'm looking forward to five weeks off during the Christmas Holidaze *You and I and my main squeeze have to do that 2nd lunch date we've been talking about forever, soon!

I think BB might have something to say about that "Top Dawg" status, though!
I'm not a flea on his tail!!

[Lonesome]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

To play Devil's Advocate... Think of this scenario...
A good looking, popular girl is in an area where one particular guy, with a good reputation, has seen most of the other girls in the area, but not her. A little bit of ego, mixed with a little bit of curiosity... mixed even further by the actual desire to "sexperience" the guy herself, leads to her popping the proposal. * I could understand that situation.

This happened to me only ONE time, back in the day when I was on the board (ASPD) on a daily basis. She sent a message asking why I hadn't been to see her although most of the other regulars had visited. So, I headed to LR to visit her. If she HADN'T contacted me, I might have missed seeing the lady who I later learned had been involved with a Senator from Louisiana. And, it was a good visit.

[Guest032112]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

. . . .I think BB might have something to say about that "Top Dawg" status, though!
I'm not a flea on his tail!!

You're one of my heros Giz and I'll defer to the xxxpert Mr. Giz anyday. It's all about havin fun and playin safe!

Originally Posted by Lonesome

This happened to me only ONE time, back in the day when I was on the board (ASPD) on a daily basis. She sent a message asking why I hadn't been to see her although most of the other regulars had visited. So, I headed to LR to visit her. If she HADN'T contacted me, I might have missed seeing the lady who I later learned had been involved with a Senator from Louisiana. And, it was a good visit.

Yes, Lonesome, the lady with political aspirations brings back memories, but was always very good about maintaining discrete contact, which in my book, is always ok. BTW, she is in the area, out of the hobby, with a nice job and house. From time to time, I believe she does enjoy hearing from old friends.

As for contact, as long as it is via email and now even text and discrete, I think its ok. Most providers, I assume don't want to "blur the lines" between illusion and reality. And if you and the provider both understand that you compartmentalize well, then the unsolicited contact is ok in my book.

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by arklookn4lovn

. . . . Yes, Lonesome, the lady with political aspirations brings back memories, . . . .

If anyone might be interested in her current contact info.... hit me up.... we have kept in touch.... and she is still available for play

Although.... not locally, for now..... but if I have ever met a Rolling Stone... it's her!!

[cowtoy]

If I am playing "tag" trying to make contact or try to set a date for a tryst it's fine. Otherwise it is an intrusion.