fbsm tips and tricks of the trade

[Guest061511-2]

Guys, please give us some helpful hints. What are your expectations of a sensual massage session? What activities are usually included in your sessions? Do you like a therapeutic start and just a regular finish, or are you more interested in being teasted and lightly massaged? Kat brought up how it is sometimes hard to find the right balance between the two in another thread. I find that to be true too. Any tips would be much appreciated.

[VictoriaLyn]

Great topic Britney...I used to offer them but could never find the right balance and would sometimes just ask ...hey you just wanna get it on... in the middle of it...

I am sure one thing a lot of guys want is silence or very light talking...Looking forward to the responses

[knotty man]

to me. the best fbsm sessions include dfk, greek, bbbj, 69, greek, tuma, tuha, fuma, fuha, greek, bls, daty, dato, greek, fiv, and greek. all for about the current fbsm rate of about what? 160/hr
oh! and greek! just teasin, dont go all provider hatin on me

[oralick]

For me the massage would begin with me on my stomach and the Lady beginning with firm, but not deep, strokes on my upper back and neck area. She would then lean over and breath in my ear, then kiss my neck, while moving her breasts over my back. She may even whisper sweet nothings in my ear, before working her hands down my lower back in sensuous, sweeping strokes, constantly having her breasts follow ever lower, even to my feet. Then she would step back up to my ear, and breath the words for me to rollover. She would begin massaging lightly my temples, while I would trap one of the pendulous swinging breasts with my lips. And then after letting me pay due respect to its twin, she would massage, and kiss, her way down to the root of my being. Then the slow, teasing BBBJ would begin, with many variations in speed (slow, fast, hold it right there a moment), location (tip, midway,completely), and type (DT, FF, Wet, Noisy, Licking). Also with a couple of BLS's thrown in. Finishing with NQNS, or at least NQBS. THAT WOULD WORK FOR ME!

[thegj]

Brit- you are always asking not only why but also how. There are lots of approaches- straight massage with the surprise happy ending.(hj or bbbj) There is the light touching with some massage and then "May I join you on the table?" (69,cg or another girl on top position with optional finishes) There is also the roleplay of getting a massage and it getting out of hand. Another good one is the role reversal where you get to be rubbed because you are (tired? hungover? sad? lonely?) and in a moment of great self sacrifice you desire to repay this nice gentleman who is kind to you. As in most things hobby related, good communication is a key to great enjoyment. As I remeber your technique is very good and your communication is excellent. Some come for fbsm because they prefer it. For some older gents it is a way to be involved when performance issues raise their ugly head( or dont raise to be more specific) Some of the more mature may say rub away, tease and if the flag come up just climb aboard. The line between fbsm and gfe can be blended- as long as the donation covers the activity. And a final word- SQEEZE HARDER DAMMIT.

[guest071011]

Good topic, I enjoy starting with a deep massage at my shoulder neck area then slowly down my back with some kissing onthe back at the same time then my but massaging outside to in brushing fingers against my manhood then legs inside and out them my feet all over then back up the same way using ur tongue more often and once u make it to my neck we start kissing as I turn on my back we kiss more passionately rubbing our hands all over each other as I start running my tongue down ur body licking and nibbling all over u as I spread ur legs and slide my wet tongue all over ur cookie until u explode and go from there with full blown Gfe. If I could find a lady for this at a range of say $ to $1/2 I would be a client for life. Just my thought on the situation.

[Pflugerbill]

Yes, I agree this is a good question. Feedback in any industry is important. To me the best FBSM's I've received have been few and far between. The good, or great, ones are those where the techniques are so slooooooooooooooooooow that you are lying there wondering what is next. The strokes were varied between hard, soft, and fingertip and there were light kisses and soft breaths and of course occasional brushes on the key locations and "forbidden" places.

The key to me was always in the amount of prolonging and anticipation leading to the final act.

[Guest061511-2]

Good stuff! Keep it coming BTW, I never mind constructive criticism. That is what makes us grow afterall.

[E2]

Yo BB,

As with any relationship, even one lasting a hour, it is all about communication.

[austin_voy]

I like medium long stroke (not that kind!) going from the shoulders all the way down to the butt and then eventually down the leg. Gentle arm strokes. Then work back up on the front (feet to hips and eventually to chest). Light brushing of the tower, teasing, really. When I'm on my stomach, maybe a little anus teasing and some on the balls, too. Lots of teasing before the big finish. How far you want to go there is your call, depends on what you call FBSM and a happy ending. Tit and pussy play on my part is nice.

[atxwrx]

BB, great question. I guess you can look at it as what your personal idea/wish list session would be, what you typically get and something in between.

What you typically get in a FBSM session is a lady partially or totally nude, giving something that resembles a massage but is more of just hands being rubbed on your body, and on the flip, a HJ with a little hand exploration allowed.

Here is my wish list for the perfect FBSM:
-A massage that feels like a massage (Doesn't have to be RMT quality but at the end, you feel like you have had a massage)
-Teasing of the sensitive areas (small of the back, ball area and a little ass play)
-Don't let the HJ and you being nude be the only part of the massage that makes it SENSUAL!!! Feeling a woman's body next to yours is the most sensual feeling (feeling breasts against your body, the feeling of a bare pussy when she straddles you, little kisses on the neck, stuff like that)
-On the flip, don't just jump to the finale. Massage the chest, mid section, legs, etc, while you give a tease of what is going to happen
In between, hand exploration is nice, and the amount just depends on the comfort level of the lady
-Lastly, the finish is to the lady's discretion. It can be a well done HJ, or oral stimulation or it may be the surprise of a lady climbing onto the table or bed for some more fun. I have experienced all of those scenarios.


Unfortunately, great full body SENSUAL massage experiences are truly a rarity. There are only one or two truly great FBSM providers around. The others just seem to disappear as quickly as they come on the scene. IF a lady could implement all of those things, at a reasonable rate (relatively speaking), they would make a killing.

I guess another part of the question is how do you divide up the time between the massage part and the "other" part?

[rrrabbit]

I like the "kiss" principle. Therefore, I say give me a good BJ, and I'm peachy.

LOL.

[justabloke]

ATXWRX explained it perfectly for me, so I won't bother adding anything to that except that many of us, even though we are there to be pampered, also like to touch the provider. If a provider doesn't allow any of that then there won't be a second visit from me, no matter how good the massage was.

[xlookerus]

I agree with ATXWRX and justabloke.

Some light kissing or breath on your neck during the actual massage helps to blend the "massage" and the "sensual" aspects. As does having private parts rubbed on you and being able to touch, caress and squeeze the lady.

I would definitely add that you should be prepared for cleanup. A single wet wipe doesn't do it. And a dry washcloth is less than ideal. Continuing to make the guy happy, even after the happy ending (however it was accomplished), will make a lasting impression.

[Guest061511-2]

Atxwrx, that is pretty informative. I hope the ladies are taking notes. I think sometimes sensuality, pampering, teasing, and doing everything but the deed is more intoxicating/erotic then just going at it. Of course that's good too!! Seriously, I don't know why more gfe guys don't try it.