Friends with sexual benefits *non hobby related*

[Mature Companion]

I've had very dear friendships with many of my male friends who are mature professional business men. And over the last 20+ years to present, I'm STILL friends with every one of those dear male friends whom are all (non hobby friends) and fucking beautiful men today as they were back then.
We all keep in close contact and often talk on a daily/ weekly basis. I'm often finding myself blushing & with wet panties due to all our sex'ting & nude video chats and our wanting to schedule downtime to meet up again for some *Friends with benefits* hard core passionate sex.
My (non hobby) male friends adore me now after 20+ years of friendship as they did back then. And the good sex we have doesn't fringe on our friendships one bit.

Now of all the friends I have. Most are men. I find that I get along better with men and can bullshit with them and converse with them about anything, more so than with women. I don't have to coddle men.


So my question to the masses, is.

Who of (men or women) keep friendships longer with the opposite sex? And who (men or women) can keep those friendships longer with sexual benefits......w/o allowing it to tarnish your friendship?

[FishGuy13]

Seems like I heard of a study that said 2 women or 2 men were good, a woman with a male friend was best for both parties. I think this study was w/o sex. IMO I think a man would be better able to keep those feelings seprate better to have a woman whom he is friends w/ some type of sexual benefits.
I have been lucky enough to have one female friend who wanted just sex from a variety of men some were closer friends and some were just for lack of a better term fuck buddies. It was amazing to have someone of the opposite sex who felt enough confortable with me to talk about other men with whom she had 'some fun' with, & was ok with me talking about other women with out getting jelous it was more of a good for you, glad you had fun and sometimes a 'Oh that sounds like fun, we should try that'. I have not been in contact with her in a few years but I feel like if we bumped into each other in the store, it would be like we had just seen each other a few days ago.
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Great topic, I'd like to see what the group says also!

[AidanRedd]

Most of my friends with benefits just so happen to be providers, but not all. I've got a vast collection of beautiful sweethearts that would do just about anything for me, as I would for them. I believe in making friends for life. Every so often though, their jealous boyfriends get a in the way. Oh well, one girl calls me the "Escort's escort", someone else calls me "everybody's fuck buddy". I'm the luckiest guy in Texas for sure.

[Mature Companion]

I can see your point to a degree. Some women may get emotionally attached to their male friends too easily. Then again those male friends can & do as well.
In fact I've tolerated one male friend for far too long and dropped his needy ass. He was a poor boring lay. Never had an O with him and he never brought any spice to sexual pleasure. Just his needy greedy emotional ass. He's a taker and never a giver in all facets of life.

But all my other non-hobby male friends, we fuck like there's no tomorrow. We unleash all our inhibitions and we go our separate ways, with no emotional strings attached. Just pure friendship that's lasted 20+ years.
Looking back at those I've known through out my years. To me, (now).
There are more independent women I've come to know, that want a man for fucking and then we want them gone. Friends with benefits is great. You enjoy them, adore them, give advice when they seek it, hang out and have fun. And in the end you only answer to yourself and never to a man. And IF the male friends become too needy. You take away the *benefits*. Thankfully, I have over 2 handfuls of male friends who are not needy, greedy guys. Just plain fucking good friends, in bed & out!

Originally Posted by FishGuy13

Seems like I heard of a study that said 2 women or 2 men were good, a woman with a male friend was best for both parties. I think this study was w/o sex. IMO I think a man would be better able to keep those feelings seprate better to have a woman whom he is friends w/ some type of sexual benefits.
I have been lucky enough to have one female friend who wanted just sex from a variety of men some were closer friends and some were just for lack of a better term fuck buddies. It was amazing to have someone of the opposite sex who felt enough confortable with me to talk about other men with whom she had 'some fun' with, & was ok with me talking about other women with out getting jelous it was more of a good for you, glad you had fun and sometimes a 'Oh that sounds like fun, we should try that'. I have not been in contact with her in a few years but I feel like if we bumped into each other in the store, it would be like we had just seen each other a few days ago.
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Great topic, I'd like to see what the group says also!

[CRISTY-CUPPS]

I think it would end badly in most cases, the guy would end up falling in love with such a goddess!

[wildwooly1]

i would think it would be easier for the woman fuck buddy because she controls all the action because if she just wants to be friends that night then thats all you get and you cant force yourself on them.
It sort of takes a swinger attitude to have this kind of friendships and jealousy is not allowed and thats why i think a lot of men get into the hobby because these types of friendships are hard to find and keep and the providers become our fuck buddies.
I have several female friends that we enjoy each others company and just have fun together and a lot of times before the end of the night wind up making out and having sex but its not a thing that happens everytime we go out together its just a thing of convienence and we go right back to being friends the next day like it never happened.
A lot of time we go out have fun and nothing happens...then thats where the providers come into play..because your female friend was just a friend that night and left you wanting more and you go home horny as hell and the next best thing is your provider.

so to sum it up..the females control the fuck buddy status and its up to both parties to keep being friends and not let sex get in the way of your enjoyment of your friendship

[shorty]

Very Good Point Wildwooly!!

[tramp76137]

Only seems natural, since women control 100 % of the Pussy!

just my .02

[beaver lover]

Originally Posted by wildwooly1

i would think it would be easier for the woman fuck buddy because she controls all the action because if she just wants to be friends that night then thats all you get and you cant force yourself on them.

so to sum it up..the females control the fuck buddy status and its up to both parties to keep being friends and not let sex get in the way of your enjoyment of your friendship

Well said! In my situation the lady is in full control of the option of sex / no sex. Yet we do enjoy any time we spend together.

[Sensia]

Originally Posted by Wicked Milf

I've had very dear friendships with many of my male friends who are mature professional business men. And over the last 20+ years to present, I'm STILL friends with every one of those dear male friends whom are all (non hobby friends) and fucking beautiful men today as they were back then.
We all keep in close contact and often talk on a daily/ weekly basis. I'm often finding myself blushing & with wet panties due to all our sex'ting & nude video chats and our wanting to schedule downtime to meet up again for some *Friends with benefits* hard core passionate sex.
My (non hobby) male friends adore me now after 20+ years of friendship as they did back then. And the good sex we have doesn't fringe on our friendships one bit.

Now of all the friends I have. Most are men. I find that I get along better with men and can bullshit with them and converse with them about anything, more so than with women. I don't have to coddle men.


So my question to the masses, is.

Who of (men or women) keep friendships longer with the opposite sex? And who (men or women) can keep those friendships longer with sexual benefits......w/o allowing it to tarnish your friendship?

Well I am like you, it is harder for me to have female friendships than it is with male friendships, but I think that I am not the standard girly girl type either. However, I have found I can maintain friendships with women who are in the escort biz, or such. Maybe because we can talk about things that we wouldn't normally be able to talk about with women out of the industry. I am pretty choosy about who I hang with, and so I tend to only stick with one or two very close people. Honestly having a male friend who you can just be "fuck buddies" with is somewhat of a challenge because in my experience the man always wants to eventually be more than just that, and puts pressure on me to be a real girlfriend. Then there is pressure to spend more and more time with him, and well, my time is limited especially while working in this "hobby" of ours. Anyway, I find it an overall challenge to just maintain a "friends with benefits" relationship with anyone because I am a selfish woman and I do enjoy my alone time!

Cheers!

GP

[Spacemtn]

Originally Posted by tramp76137

Only seems natural, since women control 100 % of the Pussy!

just my .02

+1!!!!

Besides, if a guy is a lousy lay, you ladies just kick us to the curb. Guys are not as complex, IMHO. I have never had "bad" sex, just some I never want to have again, but I still got off!!

Spacemtn

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by Wicked Milf

Who of (men or women) keep friendships longer with the opposite sex? And who (men or women) can keep those friendships longer with sexual benefits......w/o allowing it to tarnish your friendship?

Over the years I've had quite a few female friends move into the friends-with-benefits category. I don't think I'm some major prize, but I do love to flirt, I seem to attract submissive girls, I don't hesitate to play when the stars align, and I seem to be pretty good at paying attention to what a particular woman really wants.. I've found that as long as boundaries are established early that these friendships-with-benefits can be long lasting. I've got a handful that have been going on for two decades.

One factor that seems to help is that I don't see any of these women more than once a quarter or so. We always have new things to talk about, and don't get bored with each other.

Another key factor is that we either established early that a relationship wasn't in the cards, or we're exes who decided to keep the physical fun going. As was astutely pointed out, the biggest danger is someone falling in love, or more generally a significant disparity in the desired level of the relationship. Disparity will create instability every time.

[SlowHand49]

She has the pussy, she makes the rules.

If she's smarter than I am, I'm perfectly OK with that.