Lunch / dinner date question.

[Southside Stan]

Good evening! Have any of you fellas taken out a woman from STG, Tryst or similar site out on a lunch or dinner date prior to some er, private time? If so, how did it go? Were you concerned about any social blundering or strange behavior?

Now and again I see a woman will advertise lunch / dinner dates however a lot do not. Very few will have a donation amount set for that, although I have seen something between 25% to 50% of their normal hour amount.

I hope to be down in your neck of the woods first part of April and was curious about actually going out on a date to do something before any private time.

Ladies - what’s your thoughts on the actual date idea?

Thanks!

[Gottahavemore]

Couple few times
Never too worried about running into people I knew
Made for a great evening definitely up there on the GFE

[BulldogCountry]

The only problem with lunch/dinner dates, is in my experiences, the provider still wants compensation for their time, regardless if "private fun" happens or not. Just paying for the meal or public activity usually isn't enough. They still want the money.

Otherwise, I'd love to actually go out, have a fun night with dinner, a movie, a club, etc. and pay for everything. Then, if things go well, "private fun" afterwards and the normal encounter rates. :/

But most providers don't do this.

If you take her on a two hour date, then have an hour of "private fun", then she wants to be paid for three hours... even after paying for everything else.

Plus, some providers might not be comfortable being seen in public with a random dude, especially if she has a boyfriend, and doesn't want to risk being seen and questioned by someone she knows.

SA or a similar site would be best for that if that interests you, but expect to spend a LOT MORE, and your mileage may vary with "private fun".

[m0d3rn.pr0m3th3u5]

Originally Posted by Southside Stan

Good evening! Have any of you fellas taken out a woman from STG, Tryst or similar site out on a lunch or dinner date prior to some er, private time? If so, how did it go? Were you concerned about any social blundering or strange behavior?

I've done it twice. Both times, I was away from home, so I had no fear of running into people I knew.

The first time was my first time hobbying in the states, and the provider was unsure about me.

I said I'm going to get lunch, and I'm near your area. I said you can meet me, I'll pay for your lunch. If you don't feel right after meeting me, then no harm, no foul, and we'll go off on our separate ways.

She accepted. I didn't pay extra for lunch (just her meal). I was going to go for an hour, but she told me she had another appointment, so I had to do a QV.

It was a lackluster meet. She gave a decent BBBJ and then laid there like a dead fish. I pounded her and was out the door.

My second experience was with this absolute MF'ing stunner. I was on business and staying in a four star hotel.

And the experience was phenomenal. She played the role of my date and tour guide. She was an incredible beauty and dressed up. Everywhere we went, people were looking at us.

She had an incredible IOP. It felt like I went on a first date with a girl, it went really well and I got laid out of it.

I made an offer that was below her standard rate. But, because I paid for a steak dinner, multiple hour event and had a really nice outcall, she accepted my offer.

From my experience, if it's multi-hour, you'll have a little more leeway to negotiate down. If it's a fair offer, then provider should accept. She's not going to get poked the entire time, and you're offering dinner and entertainment. Also, whether or not, she will accept your offer will depend on how her business is. If it's a buyer's marker, and things are slow, then she might be more willingly to accept your fair offer.

Originally Posted by Southside Stan

Now and again I see a woman will advertise lunch / dinner dates however a lot do not. Very few will have a donation amount set for that, although I have seen something between 25% to 50% of their normal hour amount.

I hope to be down in your neck of the woods first part of April and was curious about actually going out on a date to do something before any private time.

Ladies - what’s your thoughts on the actual date idea?

Thanks!

I think you're better off trying to get a girl off seeking or secretbenefits for what you are looking for.

There's no guarantee that you'll get laid with a girl off seeking or secretbenefits. But, then again, you could get with a provider and get absolutely lousy service, which made you wish you jerked off to porn rather than seeing her.

Best of luck.

[m0d3rn.pr0m3th3u5]

Originally Posted by BulldogCountry

The only problem with lunch/dinner dates, is in my experiences, the provider still wants compensation for their time, regardless if "private fun" happens or not. Just paying for the meal or public activity usually isn't enough. They still want the money.

Otherwise, I'd love to actually go out, have a fun night with dinner, a movie, a club, etc. and pay for everything. Then, if things go well, "private fun" afterwards and the normal encounter rates. :/

But most providers don't do this.

If you take her on a two hour date, then have an hour of "private fun", then she wants to be paid for three hours... even after paying for everything else.

Plus, some providers might not be comfortable being seen in public with a random dude, especially if she has a boyfriend, and doesn't want to risk being seen and questioned by someone she knows.

SA or a similar site would be best for that if that interests you, but expect to spend a LOT MORE, and your mileage may vary with "private fun".

I totally concur with this.

Definitely negotiate up front, rather than assuming.

[BulldogCountry]

Originally Posted by m0d3rn.pr0m3th3u5

I totally concur with this.

Definitely negotiate up front, rather than assuming.

Yep. I did the SA scene for a short time, and my experiences were hit-and-miss.

It just depends on the lady. Some are willing to put-out for a flat-rate. Others, the more you give them, then the more they're willing to spread their legs.

I met one lady from SA last year. We dated for about three weeks off-and-on, went out to dinner, went to public events, etc. I paid for everything and gave her a little allowance after each date. This was my choice, because I do love dating (it's not always about "intimate relations" with me).

Then, when I brought up the topic of "fun stuff", she insisted on 1k (firm, would not budge or negotiate). I didn't see her any more after that. A shame, because she was pretty HOT!

[m0d3rn.pr0m3th3u5]

This is definitely not the "Golden Age of the Hobby." After COVID, prices have gone up and services have gone way down.

There's still a few good girls out there, but they are few and far between.

[BulldogCountry]

The only way I'd give 1k would be for an all-nighter, and if we could do it as many times as I could go until I pass-out. XD

[Southside Stan]

Thanks for the suggestions, information and input!

I would try Secret Benefits however, I’d like to have a sure thing if you will. And, they don’t take Amex which is the only card I can use currently for this. They do not take prepaid cards if I remember correctly.

I’ve had some luck on SA but have been banned supposedly for offering monetary compensation for sexual favors. So, there’s that, lol.

Would still like to hear more from y’all and from the ladies here as well.

Thanks!

[duraman]

Took my SA girl to my company Christmas party one year. Had fun at the party and more fun afterwards.

[El_che]

In my experience SA has become utter garbage and full of bots. Are there still some diamonds in the rough?

[Dedra]

I love dinner / lunch dates. It makes for a great ice breaker and a way to get to know one another. It can build up to some awesome play time after Plus you can avoid the sometimes awkward sitting on the bed getting to know you stuff.
Wish I were going to be in town first part of April. I love meeting new friends.

[Southside Stan]

Originally Posted by Dedra

I love dinner / lunch dates. It makes for a great ice breaker and a way to get to know one another. It can build up to some awesome play time after Plus you can avoid the sometimes awkward sitting on the bed getting to know you stuff.
Wish I were going to be in town first part of April. I love meeting new friends.

Thank you for your reply. Your overview is generally what I was thinking it could be about. Sorry you won’t be around during that time frame but hope you have fun wherever it is you go. Thanks!