Has anyone successfully met with "S@nt@Baby95" on SA (replace "@" with "a"...)

[laserface]

I messed with the name in the subject line of this post to try to confound Google search finding this post... )

I've been messaging with this one:

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...3-f4dbcaf8b8fc

She wanted to move to text messaging right away (a good sign). We discussed what I was looking for, she claims to be agreeable to it, and willing to meet - except, she won't discuss anything about what kind of "allowance" she's looking for (I've raised the subject a couple of times, and she just sidesteps it, as if I hadn't even asked about it), and (more importantly) any day or time I suggest to meet, she claims won't work for her. Claims that she works 8am to 5pm daily and is in bed by 9:30pm, even 8pm was supposedly too late for her to meet.

I'm not sure what her deal is - doesn't appear to be an online-only scam since she hasn't asked for any money in advance of meeting, in fact hasn't been willing to say anything about compensation at all. I guess I'm just curious if this is just her way of turning me down without actually coming out and saying it... She's been active on the site since late last year, so presumably she has the logistics down by now, and this isn't just "newbie getting cold feet when pressed to actually meet in person"...

If you've met this young lady and can provide any insight into her MO and when you've been able to meet with her, can you PM me? Trying to decide if I should waste any further time on this one, or just let it drop.

[Mplay]

Anytime someone sidesteps or refuses to acknowledge a question they have something to hide or a negative response. Bank this all day.

[laserface]

Originally Posted by Mplay

Anytime someone sidesteps or refuses to acknowledge a question they have something to hide or a negative response. Bank this all day.

Oh, for sure - I'm just curious if anyone has actually managed a successful meeting with her, or if she just plays games like this with everyone, while hanging back waiting for "Mr. Perfect" to come along in her inbox. Just because, if her own statements about her personal schedule are to believed, it only leaves her with a window of maybe 2 hours (or less) every day where she could possibly be available to meet with anyone...

[NoHandle]

She looks like she escaped from the herd.

[laserface]

Originally Posted by NoHandle

She looks like she escaped from the herd.

Now that's not nice...

[pittlicker]

But TRUE!

[tolstoy]

Originally Posted by laserface

I messed with the name in the subject line of this post to try to confound Google search finding this post... )

I've been messaging with this one:

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...3-f4dbcaf8b8fc

She wanted to move to text messaging right away (a good sign). We discussed what I was looking for, she claims to be agreeable to it, and willing to meet - except, she won't discuss anything about what kind of "allowance" she's looking for (I've raised the subject a couple of times, and she just sidesteps it, as if I hadn't even asked about it), and (more importantly) any day or time I suggest to meet, she claims won't work for her. Claims that she works 8am to 5pm daily and is in bed by 9:30pm, even 8pm was supposedly too late for her to meet.

I'm not sure what her deal is - doesn't appear to be an online-only scam since she hasn't asked for any money in advance of meeting, in fact hasn't been willing to say anything about compensation at all. I guess I'm just curious if this is just her way of turning me down without actually coming out and saying it... She's been active on the site since late last year, so presumably she has the logistics down by now, and this isn't just "newbie getting cold feet when pressed to actually meet in person"...

If you've met this young lady and can provide any insight into her MO and when you've been able to meet with her, can you PM me? Trying to decide if I should waste any further time on this one, or just let it drop.

It's hard (or easy) to identify how "attentive" specific SA girls are to 1.) Answering their SA PM's and 2.) responding to their SA-related texts. Many of them "come and go" from paying attention to SA and there is a lot of "ghosting" after promising early exchanges. SA girls attention to "communication" issues is really "variable" according to the girl, to put it mildly....

I agree: try to establish "allowance" (many SA girl newbies don't know the hobby-term "rate") and whatever availability she has. Those are the two factors SA girls SHOULD "have it together" on. Many SA girls give this intel quick and then know you "mean business" when you try to set a specific date and time within her parameters, or even your parameters. Others mess-around and don't answer the specific inquiry, and/or they may drift away from the PM/text exchange all together....

If she can't simply specify her Allowance and Availability, and/ or if she is PMing/texting other extraneous nonsense, you might just want to "cut bait". VERY early in my exchanges with SA girls I emphasize I want to do business relatively soon, and Allowance/Rate and Availability are the first, simple and reasonable intel I want. And the real Pro Ho's appreciate the "expeditious" vibe of that....

[laserface]

I have another one on SA I've been talking to, who texts up a storm (including sending random dirty texts and pictures), and has even (in principle) agreed on a PPM "allowance" - but hasn't actually asked me for any money, and any time I ask about making plans to meet, always either sidesteps the question, or makes some excuse why she can't. Thinking she's just looking for male attention and has no intention of ever meeting anyone.

I wanted to put into my profile that my expectations are to be prepared to meet in person within 72 hours of first message exchange, but the Powers That Be on SA won't let me say that - anytime I try to put that, it's rejected. Yet female members are apparently allowed to say stuff like that, and I see it fairly often. Go figure.

[tolstoy]

Originally Posted by laserface

I have another one on SA I've been talking to, who texts up a storm (including sending random dirty texts and pictures), and has even (in principle) agreed on a PPM "allowance" - but hasn't actually asked me for any money, and any time I ask about making plans to meet, always either sidesteps the question, or makes some excuse why she can't. Thinking she's just looking for male attention and has no intention of ever meeting anyone.

I wanted to put into my profile that my expectations are to be prepared to meet in person within 72 hours of first message exchange, but the Powers That Be on SA won't let me say that - anytime I try to put that, it's rejected. Yet female members are apparently allowed to say stuff like that, and I see it fairly often. Go figure.

I recognize that last point. Many SA girls have in their public profiles variations of "Be prepared to meet. Not interested in a pen-pal" which is damn-attractive. I assume, and have often confirmed during/after a session, they are "get down to business" Pro Ho's. I'm surprised SA admins won't allow guys to put that in their profiles....

SA girls also have (legitimate) "Don't ask for my bank information" instructions in their profiles. So SA allows male members who want to scam SA girls out of their bank-intel? Hopefully SA admins try to track-down those male accounts too, because SA sure Bans a lot of legitimate hobbyists for just looking for "pay for play", right....?

The rules on SA are "uncertain" and "variable" and there is no "public forum" on SA for members (men and women) to address concerns. What we know from reading Eccie is that SA has banned too many ordinary hobbyists for just looking for ordinary "pay for play". I hope they are trying to track down the "bank information from SA girls" scammers among SA guys accounts too....

[doclecter]

[signa]

Originally Posted by tolstoy

I recognize that last point. Many SA girls have in their public profiles variations of "Be prepared to meet. Not interested in a pen-pal" which is damn-attractive. I assume, and have often confirmed during/after a session, they are "get down to business" Pro Ho's. I'm surprised SA admins won't allow guys to put that in their profiles....

SA girls also have (legitimate) "Don't ask for my bank information" instructions in their profiles. So SA allows male members who want to scam SA girls out of their bank-intel? Hopefully SA admins try to track-down those male accounts too, because SA sure Bans a lot of legitimate hobbyists for just looking for "pay for play", right....?

The rules on SA are "uncertain" and "variable" and there is no "public forum" on SA for members (men and women) to address concerns. What we know from reading Eccie is that SA has banned too many ordinary hobbyists for just looking for ordinary "pay for play". I hope they are trying to track down the "bank information from SA girls" scammers among SA guys accounts too....

regarding the bank scams. Just recently I can confirm with one SB she told me they (scammers) get fixated on using apps like cashapp and reversed checks. Girls get targeted the same as guys its a shit show out there.

[Spazzer37golf]

Talked in the past. Wasn't high on my list then started playing LOTS of games including trying to sell pix or deposit. Just stopped replying

[laserface]

Originally Posted by Spazzer37golf

Talked in the past. Wasn't high on my list then started playing LOTS of games including trying to sell pix or deposit. Just stopped replying

Thanks for this info! I've stopped texting her, though that is basically because she stopped replying to me first. While she agreed in principle to meet up, I was just ultimately left with the impression that she never actually intends to meet anyone in person, because our entire conversation at the end consisted of me suggesting different times we could meet, and her telling me why meeting at the times I asked about wasn't ever going to be possible for her. Could just be that she stopped replying once she realized she was never going to get any money out of me without an in person meeting.