Question for other gentlemen on self image

[DROMama]

So just a little background on me. Relatively new to the hobby and I'm around 270ish pounds on a 5'9" frame. Definitely a bigger lad and I'd say below average of looks otherwise.

My question: Should I feel bad about meeting with a provider when I'm a bigger guy?

I know IOP is supposed to be a thing but I sometimes can't help but feel wrong inside thinking she might be disgusted during the meeting. Am I just thinking too much into it? I'd love to hear thoughts or any other perspectives.

[Rockydoc]

Some do and some don’t mind
Discuss it up front with her

[Baconman]

I wouldn't worry about the self image. I've found out they like the color green with different denominations on it. As long as you're friendly and harmless they will continue to text.

[Exchequer]

Don't feel bad at all. Just be yourself, be nice and friendly. You asking this question tells me you actually care, and that's a good thing. Others can pick up on that.

I wouldn't worry about bringing anything up front, if you are meeting someone from this site, because you just did with this post.

This goes without saying but be extra clean. I always shower right before I meet. Also I personally like to put on a little Dr. Teals Eucalyptus body oil. You have the cards you were dealt, so just make sure the presentation is spot-on. Also, bringing a gift really adds a lot on first impressions. They will be happy just to be with you if you put a tiny effort in making them feel a little special.

And if you still have a little self-image problem, then setup something with any of the ladies I have seen, cause you will know they have seen worse.

[WMJ4657]

I have a lady I see occasionally who I found out early on likes jelly beans and not just jelly beans but a certain brand "Gimbals" so I always take those along. Little things go along way in making the ladies smile

[Exchequer]

Originally Posted by WMJ4657

Little things go along way in making the ladies smile

Although the OP didn’t mention penis size, I’m glad you addressed it! 😭😭😭

[WMJ4657]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[DallasRain]

Originally Posted by Rockydoc

Some do and some don’t mind
Discuss it up front with her

great answer!!

i personally luv luv luv chubby guys!!

my motto..i need a chubby hubby for my chunky monkey
lol

just research and be upfront w your selected gal

have fun!!!

[DallasRain]

aww Ex.. mr babyface..there is nothing at all wrong with you
mr handsome boy!!

[johnnyquest1]

I agree with all of the comments on here... every provider is different so being honest up front will help you find the best fit for you. And, as always, being a good man, well groomed and smelling nice goes a very long way with the ladies. Most women I've connected with prefer confidence over most other qualities.... just sayin'

[wantnsomeinar]

Wash your ass!
Brush your teeth!
Floss!
Maybe groom a bit here and there.
Be kind, be humble and honest. With the ladies and yourself.
If you don't "click" with a lady you visit then just move on.
Stay within her rules and sex her up like you won't ever have the chance to again.
ABOVE ALL
HAVE FUN!!


If you're not having fun then this isn't for you. Remember what this is too! Don't fall in love, but it is ok to make love now and then with a lady you "click" with. Just don't get attached!! It never ends they way you want it to.


That's all I can think of right now.



FWIW, I am 6 ft 380 and I have never had a lady complain about my size, to my face anyway. I just go in and fuck like I'm a porn stud, at least in my mind , and have a good time.

[Gostik]

Originally Posted by wantnsomeinar

FWIW, I am 6 ft 380 and I have never had a lady complain about my size, to my face anyway.

Wish I could say the same. But thankfully it has been very rare.