Screening

[HerbB]

Bear with me folks. Just need to vent a bit. .

Let's talk about screening. As you all know, there are typically 3 types of screening processes to see an independent provider or a girl from an agency.

1. Through registration at services like P411, TER, etc. - Problem here is that most of these are closed by now.

2. Provide corporate and / or personal information. Uncle LEO will love this info!

3. At least 2 or more references from other independent providers in good standing.

Now let's talk about number 3 for a moment. How can I have references, if I need references to get these references in the first place?

And even if I have a reference, how would the new provider verify that unless I provided my personal information with both of them?

Let's not bring up the argument that she will remember you and can provide assurance that you are not LE. She won't.

If you saw her let's say 6 month ago, she wouldn't remember you unless you did something outrageous like wearing a pink hat while going down on her.

So the way I see this, this process is flawed and at least for me not working.

One alternative I could think of is, that when you arrive at the provider, before going down to business, you show your credentials like I'd, corporate I'd, your LinkedIn profile (from your phone), etc. And leave nothing behind.

That way she can be certain that you are not LE, and you that none of your personal information falls in the wrong hands.

What do you all think?

[Naughty_Piper]

Yeah sorry I won't even go to dinner with a guy off this site before he's screened, much less let him know where im staying before he's cleared. The logic is severely flawed.

[FlowerDoll]

I guess I'm lucky enough my dates have no problem remembering me, no mater how much time passes.

Hey Piper -- will you ever forget me?

[Kinsey Pink]

good luck!

[VeronicaTurbay]

you get what you pay for!
I personally don't rely on "references" and someone I dont personally know for my "safety" I am always very upfront with this because.... why wasted your precious time (and mine)?

Good luck!

[Pangolier]

Think about what the term "screening" is intended to imply. A screen over a window opening is designed to prevent insects from entering a dwelling, correct? Perhaps the term is derogatory, but it still serves the same purpose. Alternatively, you can use the term "verification."



Why would anyone in this industry want to have a physical meeting with someone they don't feel confident it's safe to be around? And if that person, be it a client or provider, is not in possession of information indicating someone is safe to be around, then they are taking an enormous risk in meeting that person.


If you see a provider and the session goes smoothly, chances are that provider is going to retain your phone or email in their files for potential future contact and business. Why would they delete that information 6 months later - unless they didn't want to see you again?


You can look for providers who are "newbie friendly" or more willing / open to see unestablished clients. If you are too reluctant to provide a provider with the info she requests to feel, I think your only options are to look for another provider, or trying finding a civilian girl on Bumble who doesn't "screen." If you want to pass as being completely anonymous before seeing a woman, you may have to find something else to do with your time or look for bedroom activities elsewhere. This industry is not without risks. But trying to drive a square peg into a round hole is going to get you nowhere. That is, my opinion, of course.