Hey Providers what gives?

[71Pseudonym]

This might totally be coincidence but I've had 2 recent instances of providers either going radio silent on me and a NCNS on me.

The first provider everything was fine I gave her my reference and she said great that will be perfect she knew the reference well. Then no response the rest of the week, I contacted my reference and she said she was never contacted about me so I set up a date with her instead.

The 2nd provider everything again was absolutely fine while texting the last comment was her giving me her rate even though I didn't ask as I already knew. I text her that I'm on my way, then when I get in the area that I'm there and I wait about 20 min with one more text saying I'm there during that 20 min and then I text that I guess we're not doing this and I leave. 90 minutes later I get a text from her that just says "Bye" no other explanation.

I don't have a history at all worthy of this. I've seen 3 providers total. The first I still see, my 2nd I gave a good review to but I was honest about her limited menu in the review and I tried to be funny about it but others took that as complaining which was never my intent. The 3rd provider stood me up the first time after I said I was too tired to see her at 2am her requested time not mine but I was willing to stop by on my way home and give her the donation anyway as a deposit for a day I had off the next week. She said okay but then never answered when I got there. The whole thing spooked me a bit thanks to a friend of mine filling my head with all kinds of stuff that could go wrong, remember I'm new to this. I posted asking if the woman and her lack of screening was cool or not explaining that I was a little spooked. This is when I was accused of being someone else who I guess nobody likes around here. Eventually it was proven I wasn't whoever this guy was and the accuser apologized to me saying the way I write made him accuse me. So I eventually do meet with the 3rd provider later that same night I was accused more to clear the air than anything as it was super late. I really wasn't able to do much as tired as I was but we parted after our activities with her saying she would be happy to give me a reference, this reference was unsolicited by the way. The next day I even ended up driving back to "loan" her additional money so she could get a new place to stay, another guy on here said he had done the same thing for her once and she paid him back. I didn't care about the money when you loan someone money you're pretty much just hoping you get it back someday. She never did contact me about paying me back and I chalked it up to a lessen learned maybe someday I'll get it back not really a big deal. Then over a week later I get contacted by someone asking if I was okay, baffled I said yeah why wouldn't I be and she said she had heard some stuff about some providers being run out of their hotel and she knew I had been interested in seeing one. I told her nope I was fine and didn't really know anything else and she didn't name any names. I then didn't try to make a date with anyone for the next 6-7 weeks as I was busy and spending money on my other hobbies. Then this last week I get the treatment I described at the beginning of this post and I can't help but wonder if that whole being accused of being someone else leaked to the providers without the part of me being exonerated leaking to them.

Oh and yes my account shows I have 3 encounters at AMPs as that was how I ended up getting into this hobby in the first place having never even considered doing this until I went to an AMP thinking they could help me with a shoulder issue which they did. I mention this because my accuser said providers frown on that, again new to this how would I know that and without that gateway I wouldn't have done anything else.

I mean this could be a complete coincidence but the way I left the hobby about 2 months ago being falsely accused and coming back to this makes me think something is going on. As it is I can't seem to get a date with anyone but my original provider so I might as well post this, it either helps or I guess I'm out of the hobby before I really got started.

[SexyKaylen]

Come see me I'll take care of you.

[seductrix4u]

We have numerous, top-notch providers in KC of all shapes, ages, colors and menu offerings that would not pull these crazy ass games you are describing. Your first red flag is when some companion starts putting the squeeze on you for a "loan." I do believe a fool and his money should go separate ways. But ONCE only. By then, unless you liked being used, wise up and choose a classier provider. I have been in the industry, off and on, for 16 years. I have never ONCE asked a man for a loan. How classless do you have to be to do that, especially making the bank we make.

A classy provider will also not stand you up, make you wait, make you pay upfront for an encounter, etc. There are always mitigating circumstances, but this should not be a recurring pattern. You have gotten yourself mixed up with the type of companion(s) that gives quality companions a bad name. Exit, stage left, fast.

Check Encounter Reports. That's a good place to start.

Ask in the Men's Lounge because there's more intel that goes on there than in the open forums. They should give you the REAL scoop on any shenanigans going on with a particular companion.

Happy hunting! There are simply too many excellent providers out here for you to give up over a few grifters! RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!

[Savannah Moon]

Starting out is rough, whether you are a client or a provider.
Stay solid. People will talk but honestly I haven't heard anything negative or otherwise about you.
OX
Savannah Moon

[dumars]

Some of these women can be full of surprises, to say the least. One day they're the "girl next door", the next day The Black Widow! That holds true with virtually EVERY woman I've met in this hobby and that number is more than a few!!! I can tell you a story of a recent event to me that would blow you out of the water that fell straight out of the sky! No exaggeration, no lie, not making it up!! If I brought it up here, mods would tear me a new ass!

I have two people on my ignore list, both are women, both I have never met. Take that for whatever you think it's worth!

Back to you!

[Savannah Moon]

Originally Posted by dumars

Some of these women can be full of surprises, to say the least. One day they're the "girl next door", the next day The Black Widow! That holds true with virtually EVERY woman I've met in this hobby and that number is more than a few!!! I can tell you a story of a recent event to me that would blow you out of the water that fell straight out of the sky! No exaggeration, no lie, not making it up!! If I brought it up here, mods would tear me a new ass!

I have two people on my ignore list, both are women, both I have never met. Take that for whatever you think it's worth!

Back to you!

I AM ABSOLUTELY certain we all have stories to tell that could curl hair. Even if it's already curly.

The bottom line is as mentioned..DO your research. BE selective. Keep in mind also you can share experiences publicly or privately to prevent others from such.

It's cold outside guys.
Be Safe , Please.
SM

[Fsn57]

Unfortunately NCNS and radio silence happens quite often. Odds are that is has nothing to do with you, but is more indicative of who these particular providers are. If you share who they were, maybe the next guy can avoid wasting time with them.

[seductrix4u]

Originally Posted by Fsn57

Unfortunately NCNS and radio silence happens quite often. Odds are that is has nothing to do with you, but is more indicative of who these particular providers are. If you share who they were, maybe the next guy can avoid wasting time with them.

+1. Even if he just shares in the Men's Lounge and doesn't do it publicly, at least the guys can be alerted.

[Guest090620-1]

Originally Posted by seductrix4u

We have numerous, top-notch providers in KC of all shapes, ages, colors and menu offerings that would not pull these crazy ass games you are describing. Your first red flag is when some companion starts putting the squeeze on you for a "loan." I do believe a fool and his money should go separate ways. But ONCE only. By then, unless you liked being used, wise up and choose a classier provider. I have been in the industry, off and on, for 16 years. I have never ONCE asked a man for a loan. How classless do you have to be to do that, especially making the bank we make.

A classy provider will also not stand you up, make you wait, make you pay upfront for an encounter, etc. There are always mitigating circumstances, but this should not be a recurring pattern. You have gotten yourself mixed up with the type of companion(s) that gives quality companions a bad name. Exit, stage left, fast.

Check Encounter Reports. That's a good place to start.

Ask in the Men's Lounge because there's more intel that goes on there than in the open forums. They should give you the REAL scoop on any shenanigans going on with a particular companion.

Happy hunting! There are simply too many excellent providers out here for you to give up over a few grifters! RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!

+1000

I'm sorry you've had a rough time. But, there are many great women in KC with outstanding reputations! You just have to remember to use the big head first! Be safe out there babe.

I'm newbie friendly and reference friendly if you ever want to get together! I've got lots of reviews check out my bio page!

[71Pseudonym]

Hey thanks I was hoping it was all just a coincidence but considering that whole nonsense right before I stepped away I wasn't sure if I was walking back into something odd.

[hornyoldtoad]

Originally Posted by Fsn57

Unfortunately NCNS and radio silence happens quite often. Odds are that is has nothing to do with you, but is more indicative of who these particular providers are. If you share who they were, maybe the next guy can avoid wasting time with them.

Very good point - anything that helps others make smart choices hobbying is good 411 and should be shared...

Maybe reach out to them before you do and ask why they cut bait and ran? Sometimes there is a logical explanation and one that can be resolved without public attention - then everyone wins - if no reply, then your call as to what you share...

the men's lounge is an open forum too - we all know that - was pre-legislation and is just as much now - so...

[SweetSuzanna]

Wow! Not cool. Please be selective. So many ladies here that would never treat you that way, but would treat you like a king!

[Guest040619]

At least you didn’t say, “baby it’s cold outside”
That offends me.