Jay Jay is still Jay Jay

[rob027]

A while back I jumped in on a thread about Jay. There was a lot of speculation about her real world life effecting her business.
I reached out to her to discuss things, because she has always been awesome to me. Jay is a strong willed wiild child, she can handfle herself as well as any other provider out there. She told me she had a few things going on a while back, but things were still rockin in the playroom. I'm sure all of you have had a bad day, your s/o may be causing some stress, and you take that to work with you. Why is in unimaginable that this could happen with a provider. These ladies are only human, just like us. That being said, what really matters is that we handle our business, and get back to the norm. Jay assured me that was the case.
Don't give up on this one, she is the gold standard around KC for TCOB. Not to many ladies can git-r-done like Jay can... And I'm looking forward to seeing her again.

[bigkansas1]

Well said Rob. I was one of those that probably stated that she had changed. The reality is that YES...she has/had changed. Having her S.O. around makes it a bit "unnerving" for us guys going to see her. And, yes..when I saw her after he came back, she was different. Less open to things, much more reserved, and quicker to get the session done and you out the door. I was seeing her probably once every 4-6 weeks back then, so was a regular with her and YES, she was VERY DIFFERENT when I saw her again. Having said that, you are right, these girls too have "bad days" and we need to give them the benefit of the doubt sometimes. The issue here is that I'm not the only one that has seen her that feels this way. She really has changed and become a bit more reserved and maybe "freaked out and stressed out" with her S.O. around in the background. I still like her, as I'm sure the other gentlemen that have seen her probably do as well, but there is no denying that she has a different aura about her, which is what attracted her specific clientele to her in the first place.

[daddyzlilgirlalwayz]

Last time I jumped into one of these, I was trying to make things right and felt as if I should've pretended like I didn't see the thread when it was said n done. But it's unlike me not
to stand up for myself and say whatever it is that needs to be said. Even if that means I'm throwing, exposing my personal life into a world that I would rather not have everyone know. As many know I'm a private person, I don't socialize with anyone, whether that be here thru threads, phone,providers, ext, Nor do i outside providing, with friends, or distant family. The only people I chat with are my immediate family in my home, and the clients I do see.
However want to thank everyone for their concerns, I do wish people would just ask me instead of speculating among each other what's going on with jay, because 90 to 1, I would tell ya. Anyone who knows me knows I'm blunt, and forth coming. It's a bad trait but I tend to tell people more about myself than what I should. But I look at people that I see regularly and try to get to know them. I thankfully see a lot of the same clients I've seen since I started this. Therefore amything I tell my clients or they tell me I keep confidential, I don't come on here and say why so n so came to see me, or how their personal lives are. I simply ask and tell only to them, because I care, and because I believe (can't find the right word) a connection, a professional relationship. I'm kinda pissed at the fact some of you have gone and said whatever without my permission, cause frankly it's my business and if I wanted everyone to know shit, I'd speak it myself, then there isn't room for error, or speculation, or forum rumors or gossip.
But there were some changes in me this past summer, and for that I'm sorry. When starting out as a provider I was had my support which was my SO. I was shy at first testing my water I would say, as I never did anything of this sort before starting on eccie. As many already know (thanks to big mouths) my SO, he had to temporarily (1yr) leave without warning. i had to juggle my family (which totalled 8 in the home all not working,my SO while away, plus myself) I had bills, and everything else life had to throw at me. Which I managed to do just fine, it was just a bit scarier for me, and I took a lot more risks (seeing newbies, late hours, not screening like I should've) because then it was only my income and nobody was going to pay bills, or buy my groceries, put gas in my car, or buy the things my children needed, ext, and I'm not on any state assistance. Not for sure if anyone knows what it's like to have your whole existence thrown upside down, and your left with a sink or swim option. But I that's how I felt. I learned to swim say the least. My SO and I eventually got to be together after a year. Well this past summer was an adjustment for not only me, but him, our kids. The way things were before he left had changed, the way things were when he left was different, and was he was home it was changing again. My SO fully supports everything I do, and there is no secrets, no lies, or deception in my relationship. The changes were adjusting to him being back at home, the person I had become the year he was gone, and vice versa. Yes I made some changes, all for the better now, and I can accept the fact that some feel uneasy about my SO. But as everyone from the start of this knows he's been with me since the beginning for two years before his leaving. So the change during that year, and upon his arriving home wasn't him, it was me. I can assure everyone that during my time with clients, I don't clock watch, but I do stick to time. There are things I may let happen one time, and the next time say not this round, but next time. (For instance can you imagine if a provider let everyone fist her daily, I mean come on guys) as far as DFK, I'm not a fan, I like to have small, light ones, but it's an intimate thing for me, and so if anyone can respect that, and respect me they'll understand that I like only doing so with my SO. I'm very open minded,like new things, like a lot of things. I don't see that changing any time soon. I enjoy what I do very much, and enjoy seeing the ones I do. I was just an adjustment period in my life, and it's been almost a year since then, and I'm okay not seeing the ones that feel I've changed, apparently they haven't the same view on things, some couldn't just come out n ask, and we'll sometimes people just can't understand because they don't know, can't see, or can't relate because they haven't been thru enough or been though that situation to understand. Hope this clarifies, and puts everyone mind at ease. But daddyzlilgirl is great, hungry as ever, still a firecracker, and shes always wanting more!!

[BigDeal]

This is why I love me some JJ
Actually a very kind person
Thanks Jay Jay

[seekinggradeAbj]

Probably the best response from a lady I can remember in quite awhile. Best of luck, JJ!

[Lubeman]

So is he upstairs while you see your clients downstairs?

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Your location in SE KC has always been a hindrance for me, JayJay, but I've always loved your pics and your posts, and...

Originally Posted by BigDeal

This is why I love me some JJ
Actually a very kind person
Thanks Jay Jay

...Big Deal has always spoken highly of you, and has encouraged me to make a Timex Challenge visit to you someday...

Hang in there, darlin'... you're doing fine...

[SexPanther69]

Good on you!!! You’re still amazing in my book!!

[daddyzlilgirlalwayz]

Lubeman, I sure miss your face! But typically this is how this works. I live in a split entry home. If it's during the week my children are at school, and my SO is at work. But safety is a concern with my SO. So I send a message or call indicating o have an appointment, time and session length. Now if most remember this is why I never change my session length when a client gets here. If my SO doesn't hear from me within a reasonable time frame he knows something could be wrong. So he will be calling, or coming home from work if needed. Now nights and weekends are a bit different, because I don't uproot my family when they are home. But I do not let clients/family interact whatsoever. All my clients are aware that other people are home, and they are okay with coming. So while my family is upstairs I bring my client downstairs, we don't have any interruptions, we don't get bothered, and there has never been any issues of any sort.
Bigdeal xoxo
Sexpanther your awesome too!!
Seekinggradeabj thank you!
Wizard of ahhhhs Thanks! You should definitely take big deals advice and make way to come and see me. Definitely worth the time. Big deal and I go way back from the beginning, he has always been great to me, and he's awesome!!