Indian Women with White Men
I am in a RW relationship with an (Asian) Indian woman. Specifically, she is Punjabi. It's wonderful. She is the most loving, passionate, and caring girlfriend I've ever had. Admittedly it was a slow process to build our relationship to this point - her culture does not look kindly on casual dating, in fact she has told me that in India it is actually against the law to kiss in public. But over time she's grown more comfortable with the idea, and the friendship, love, passion, and the sex is great. Worth the wait!
The question that I've been pondering is, why is a brown-skinned Indian woman with a white man such a rarity? You see the other way - Indian men with white women - all the time (such as in The Big Sick - and yes before you correct me, I know he's from Pakistan not India, but my point remains). My Indian gf has told me a couple of reasons, and I thought rather than only take her one opinion, I'd toss it out to this community to see what others think.
What she's told me is: for one, in India skin complexion means everything. An Indian woman should always be fairer than the man she is with. If the man is fairer than her, then he is considered to be more effeminate than her. But the other reason is more troubling to me: she has told me that Indian men believe that they "own" Indian women. This means that an Indian man can do whatever he wants (such as date a white woman) but an Indian woman doesn't dare date a white man, because she would receive a lot of backlash from Indian men, including strangers. So, whereas I would like to think that our relationship can prove to the world that an interracial relationship can not only work but can be beautiful, it seems that most Indian men would not accept it.
So, what say you, community? Do these ring true to those of you who are familiar with the culture? Any other reasons why Indian men w/ white women is more prevalent than Indian women w/ white men?
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