Screening...am i asking too much of the gentleman?

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Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

I am very private, discreet and safety is #1 priority. So when i ask a guy for references, I often get a few names and their phone numbers. I explain that I don't call providers so please send me a link to their showcase so I can PM them. I ask for the man's name and phone number and approximately when he saw her. Lastly, I ask for something about themselves or what they chatted about..something to help her remember him. Is this too much to ask?

If needing all of this makes you feel comfortable and anything less would make you feel well not so comfortable then the answer is an easy NO it's not too much.

[Sarah Renee]

With all the LEO activity on the boards and accounts being turned over, I always ask for a photo of the client. If I am feeling the spidey senses going off, I will show it to the reference provider to make sure it is the same guy. (Gents: You better match up with your photo or you won't even get in my door.) If a guy refuses to send a photo but I am comfortable with talking to him, I will meet in public first and then go forward.

There is no such thing as too secure on screening. This world is becoming something a lot different than any of us may realize. You have to protect yourself and make sure you are protecting your past clients as well. There is no appointment worth risking publicly outing of our profession, racking up lawyer bills, and possibly damaging not only our RW lives but also our clients.

I will destroy whatever electronic I have to before I will risk anyone's anonymity. They may be able to still get the information, but I am sure as heck not going to make it easy on them.

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

Yes if a gent is reputable on here abd has couple recent reviews thn I will contact them...I try not to get too much into their RW life if they are respected n reputable on here

But if they are not then I ask for whatever info they can give me to ensure safety for our playdate.....
My motto is "if you can't trust Dallas with your info,who can you trust"...my reputation is well known so therefore a gent will know who I am and that I am and not somebody who does harm to anyone!

Bingo...there are certain girls that are simply gold as a reference. There are definitely certain providers that can be trusted with private info if you have to go down that route. I won't reveal my major tactics and I wouldn't do so as a provider. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know that most dates are legit. High profile providers and high profile clients(especially if there is a salilicious or criminal element) are gonna be targeted more. This means a reference from a "famous"'escort (many of your on here are) who knows their business is gonna know how to validate. If you haven't seen many, well you are gonna have to give a little something to someone so pick the right girls. The simple, is this guy legit reference is one thing but I feel a provider should get a character reference too. What kind of person am I going to see? Are they generous, kind, and fair? The bigger risk is not LE, it's assholes. Don't be desperate or greedy take your time...

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Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

Suzanna, you aren't asking too much in my opinion. When someone is inquiring with me and they provide as little information as possible, it does concern me. Also reviews are not references. Reviews are written with other clients in mind. Yes a savvy provider can make use of reviews to read between the lines and gain a sense of what a client may be like. But when a gent provides his references and I reach out to those ladies, the information I'm seeking for the purpose of centering my physical and emotional safety is not going to show up in a review that is catered to clients.

Well said

[Lena Duvall]

Thanks!

Originally Posted by NASDAQ

Well said

[VinnAY]

This is kind of the age old experience required but you have no experience because you can't get hired...

I've offered my drivers license photo, recent face pic, and been turned away but in the end my money is happy to stay in my pocket, too. Im single so I'm more willing to offer up something more to vouch for myself, but I just don't make this a lifestyle in that I "hobby" extremely infrequently but that doesn't make the cut with most providers.

[Savannah Moon]

Originally Posted by VinnAY

This is kind of the age old experience required but you have no experience because you can't get hired...

I've offered my drivers license photo, recent face pic, and been turned away but in the end my money is happy to stay in my pocket, too. Im single so I'm more willing to offer up something more to vouch for myself, but I just don't make this a lifestyle in that I "hobby" extremely infrequently but that doesn't make the cut with most providers.

Everyone is different..I see men who have 0 posts..0 reviews & 0 references.
I jump start a lot of clients.
Yet several have been members for years & just utilize this site for info & reviews of their providers that catch their interest.
The perks of being independent!!
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