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nkdwhtguy · 10-12-2016, 06:12 PM

I'm still new here, so please excuse me if this question has been around the block a few times:

? How long should a client wait to hear from a provider that he's contacted? I fully understand that some providers are a lot busier than others; some providers are busy with RL jobs or other RL stuff; some providers don't do this full time. I also understand that a provider wouldn't answer right away if they are already with a client (I would hope not!)

If I text a prospective provider and don't hear back from her after three days, should I assume:

a. She's forgotten about my text/pm; or
b. She's opting not to see me.

If it's (a) then do I continue to contact her?
If it's (b) then I'd rather she tell me so.

Thoughts?

Also, am I correct when I say some providers answer clients right away if they are available that day. If they are not available, then they just wait til the next day to see who calls. Previous requests are just ignored. In other words, is it a matter of luck to call/text at the right time?

I usually plan my visits several days in advance/even a week away. Many of us married guys have only a short window of opportunity.

Thanks for your thoughts!

Cpalmson · 10-12-2016, 08:57 PM

Here's my 2 cents and I'd love to hear some of the ladies chime in as well.

Step 1 is to do your research and come up with a list of 2 to 4 girls you want to see. Check their reviews to find out how they TCB. A good review will tell you how easy she is to get in contact with and how responsive she is.

Once you have narrowed your selection, contact the lady and give her specifics on when and where you want to meet. Also, tell her that you would appreciate a response in order to make firm plans. I normally contact a provider 1 or 2 days in advance. If it is 2 days in advance, I usually give her a day to reply. If nothing is heard, I will send another message, text, e-mail. Also, I will use multiple means to contact her. I will PM from here. I will PM from P411 if she is a member. I will send e-mail and I will text. At least this way she knows you are interested. If it is only 1 day notice, I will send out another message in the early evening.

The key here is to remember you have a list of other providers. Use it. Sometimes, I will shotgun out requests to multiple providers, and the first one to reply gets a client. You keep that list in your hip pocket as Plan B or Plan C or even Plan D (which I have actually had to use).

You are correct to assume that the ladies have RL jobs or RL situations that prevent timely responses. You also have to realize that some ladies (and I'm not trying to generalize here) have poor management skills-- especially the younger ones who decide to party with their friends instead of checking to see if anyone is interested in seeing them.

I would say 99% of the time a girl doesn't get back in touch with you is that she is busy or more precisely didn't even realize you contacted her in the first place. I've talked to many girls who have told me that they get hundreds of messages a day. They simply can't manage the volume and your message falls through the cracks. I would venture to say that ladies rarely use a non-reply as a method of deciding not to see you. Most girls who deny seeing a client have the courtesy to tell them. Bottom line is being persistent is your friend. Keep contacting them until they tell you to stop contacting them or finally agree to meet you, and always keep that list of potential other girls in your hip pocket.

nkdwhtguy · 10-12-2016, 10:00 PM

"Keep contacting them until they tell you to stop contacting them or finally agree to meet you, and always keep that list of potential other girls in your hip pocket."

Good advice. I wasn't sure if contacting them more than a couple of times was making a pest of myself.

Jjsunday · 10-12-2016, 10:47 PM

Cp that was some really good advise!

I do some of what CP does but not all.

Most of the time if I am contacting someone for the first time I wont text. I will PM them here or on P411. The reason is for what CP said the number of text's a girl gets in a day. I know the girls that have seen me have me locked in there phones and I will text them if I want to see them .But the ones I have not seen don't have me locked in so I don't want my number getting lost in there and going no where.

If you text someone that your numbers not locked in and they don't know who you are then if she is busy the number will some of the time will fall in the cracks.

the reason I am saying that if she get 4 more text's before she looks at her phone and then she see's Cplam-JJ-(850-xxx-xxxx this being you )and john doe

who do think she going to call back???? the guy or guys she knows.

but if you PM her here or P411 it may take her a day maybe two to get back with you or she may jump right back with a PM she may be online and see it. But if not she maybe busying with life and don't log on for a day or two.

so just give her time maybe a day or so If I don't hear back I will just put her on the back burner and get up with someone else. There is always someone else so no worries about that.but the bad thing is if I really want to see the one girl and I don't hear back I am disapointed but still it not the end of the world.

Dick BadCock · 10-12-2016, 11:37 PM

What they said, but it comes down to what makes you comfortable. If you feel that you have given them enough time to get back to you then feel free to move on to the next name on the list.

Maybe I'm wrong but I would think if they dilly dally in getting back to you and then see you saw someone else and reviewed them, they might just remember to contact you back quicker next time.

SaltyDog71 · 10-12-2016, 11:58 PM

When you contact a girl, introduce yourself, be polite, and fairly specific on what you are searching for. Keep it cordial but not drawn out. Long messages that they take as fishing trips get deleted fairly quick. Give them some leeway on time. Ask to see them at a certain time, but say you are flexible by this much. Like Cpalm says after 24 hours I will send them another message, it they don't reply the second time I move on and find someone who will. Every girl runs their biz different, some are real pro's others don't seem to care if they ever see you at all.

The Grey Monster · 10-13-2016, 02:47 PM

24hrs--no way,,1 hour text or phone call, 3 hours email, if they prefer a pm then they should be checking it--3 hrs pm

Now after first contact it should be 30 minutes and the day of 10 minutes

virgben · 10-13-2016, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Dick BadCock

What they said, but it comes down to what makes you comfortable. If you feel that you have given them enough time to get back to you then feel free to move on to the next name on the list.

Maybe I'm wrong but I would think if they dilly dally in getting back to you and then see you saw someone else and reviewed them, they might just remember to contact you back quicker next time.

I agree completely!

virgben · 10-13-2016, 03:53 PM

Carefully read their profile and their preferred method of contact. If it is by pm or email, give them about 24 hours or so. Again, depends on you comfort zone. If their preferred contact is by phone, then introduce yourself, where you got their number from and try to catch their attention in some way with your texts or voice mail. Worked fro me when I first started. Hope this helps.

nkdwhtguy · 10-13-2016, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by virgben

Carefully read their profile and their preferred method of contact. If it is by pm or email, give them about 24 hours or so. Again, depends on you comfort zone. If their preferred contact is by phone, then introduce yourself, where you got their number from and try to catch their attention in some way with your texts or voice mail. Worked fro me when I first started. Hope this helps.

I guess it also depends on just how badly you want to see the provider. I've never had a problem with any of the awesome women I've seen, they've been great, always responding within 24 hours...but there's just one that I can't get to pm/text me back. Wish we would have gotten some of the ladies' views. But, yeah, I'm moving on. I need to see some of my regulars who know how to treat a guy right.

virgben · 10-13-2016, 07:41 PM

Do we all know who this provider might be?

nkdwhtguy · 10-13-2016, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by virgben

Do we all know who this provider might be?

I Would rather not say.

Cpalmson · 10-13-2016, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by virgben

Do we all know who this provider might be?

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Originally Posted by nkdwhtguy

I Would rather not say.

I'm guessing it could be one of two local providers. One lacks in TCB skills, and the other seems to be a bit stuck on herself and makes up her own mind on who to see without giving any feedback.

Jjsunday · 10-13-2016, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Cpalmson

I'm guessing it could be one of two local providers. One lacks in TCB skills, and the other seems to be a bit stuck on herself and makes up her own mind on who to see without giving any feedback.

Those two came to mind when I read this but I really think it's the 2nd one.Just got a gut feeling.

The Grey Monster · 10-14-2016, 08:26 PM

Couple of hours at most on first contact--for example let's say you have arrived in town this evening (a Wednesday and Friday is your free time) having got settled down and you realized that you can see someone Friday, you contact the chick at 730---the next morning Thursday by 9am with no contact back there is no way that we should have to continue to wait on a response from a girl. It's time to contact several other providers, and come 3pm that day and you have several no responses also then it's most likely over for Friday evening.

Let's say it's Wednesday and you have Friday late afternoon free so you contact a girl Wednesday evening and then come Thursday evening you are still dry, your a fool--but then Friday at 3am in the god damn morning she text you back "hey",,,this happens all the time--she's interested in money right then, girl don't give a shit about your original Friday evening request, but you think she does and you continue to think that your special--

Back to the first Wednesday contact (if your still keeping up with me) she should have contacted you within a few hours and said "yes" Friday is good, call me Friday.

A guy sets the terms--if you wait on her to set the terms then you are a fool--

I have seen plenty of girls on this site and BP, the ones that deserve good reviews respond immediately. Couple of hours at most. These so called "unicorn chicks" that come and go,,,you guys end up being a spokesperson for them because you feel special and rewarded for your efforts. She only continues to see you now because she found out that you have a voice here, and that seldom makes you a regular either--so if someone tells you 24 hours is acceptable (especially a moderator) that's a WK, don't expect the same service from that whore at all.