Is Provider Out and Hooker In? What the what?

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by python54

get with the program and join society....not the scum fringe.

If you choose to be part of a "society" that is governed by the irrational response to the spoken word, be my guest...I choose to not be part of it...the "scum" part being debatable as to which is which...

Originally Posted by python54

By the way......I've said my peace and will not engage in any troll-dom. I feel sorry for them and I don't wish to spend more time explaining why it's better to walk on the sidewalk instead of crawling in the gutter.

For someone who places so much stock in the offensiveness of words, I assumed you'd at least know how to spell them. I do not need your pity, and the fact that you are compelled to feel that about me says a lot about how much you're victimizing yourself...hope that works out for you...

P.S.-How do those points taste?

[Solitaire]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

When did they stop teaching "sticks and stones"?

When cops started shooting people based on label. People loose their lives, freedoms, and livelihoods over labels. We stop teaching things when we realize they are not true. Names can hurt you.

[costa rica]

Double standard. They can refer to us as hookers, but if a guy was to give a provider a compliment then she reply's with a, "Well thank you trick " I'm pretty sure they would feel some type of way... lets me honest. If providers are Whores then so are the clients.

[James1588]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

I am a Polyamorous Woman, who engages and interacts with men, and who actually has the audacity to believe that if a man wants the privilege of my time and energy (companionship), well, then he needs to invest in it.

Because, as it is always thrown in our face - It really is for the children. They are my priority. And because of that, my time and energy are sacred. I have mouths to feed and heads to roof.

There's many things I can be doing with any particular block of my time. I could be gardening to feed my family the healthiest food available. I could be making us a home-cooked nutritious meal. I could be educating them or myself (or both) in one of our varied shared interests. I could be engaging in one of my other businesses. I could simply be snuggled with them on the couch watching TV. Or I could be spending time with a gentlemen.

Each of those activities inherently gives back to me as much as it takes from me, except for the last. For the last option to be equitable, I have to structure it to be so. And so I do.

I know my value. And it's not the amount of the donation. That $ amount is simply what it would take to break me away from any of those other activities listed. And often enough, those other activities win out.

I know my label. I am a woman plain and simple. And I am no different than any other woman on the planet, regardless of what holy and sacred names society applies to "those women" to separate how they go about the male/female interaction from how I go about it. Some are content with just dinner... I can cook my own dinner, probably better.

Some ladies, recognizing that we are indeed all the same, have chosen to embrace derogatory labels, as an exercise of empowerment. There was a discussion recently among the ladies, and I'll end this post sharing my own thoughts here ...

This may well be the best thing I've ever read here.

In fact, it occurs to me that this thread has offered both the very good and the hideously bad. I thought it was going to be merely repetitive of other threads about the same thing. Instead, we got an amazing contrast. Excellent.

[James1588]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

... I know my value. And it's not the amount of the donation. That $ amount is simply what it would take to break me away from any of those other activities listed. And often enough, those other activities win out. ...

I should have been more specific: this is the part of Solitaire's post that really got my attention. It's a very concise refutation of a commonplace bit of stupidity that is seen here all the time: that a working woman "sells herself" for X dollars. Nothing could be farther from the truth. What she sells, on a conditional basis, is a certain amount of her time. The vast majority of us do that, too, usually with some corporate entity as our client. The value of her time is the number of dollars needed to make it worth her while to forego the other uses of her time that are available to her. The "value" of her? As with any of us: incalculable, unquantifiable, basically infinite. She said that in fewer words. My hat's off.

[SneakyCancer]

Case close, leave the trash comments where they belong and may be take it a step further.....don't see clowns that view this as a place for social status.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

P.S.-How do those points taste?

They are awfully good dipped in salsa.

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

When cops started shooting people based on label. People loose their lives, freedoms, and livelihoods over labels. We stop teaching things when we realize they are not true. Names can hurt you.

That's nothing new, labels have been around since humans learned we weren't all the same color. Learn how to stop letting words hurt you and you'll be a better person. People call me names all the time, doesn't mean shit.

[countrycurious]

Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

you can say that all that you want, but... its not always true.

some people use the word "bitch" as an endearing term. how would you feel if someone called your mom a bitch, your wife a bitch, your daughter a bitch...
one time? whatever.. but if your daughter dated a person who referred to his significant other as a "bitch" eventually you would get sick of it. who wouldnt.

obviously words matter, or we wouldnt have a big issue referred to as "bullying."
xoxo

If someone refered to my mother, daughter, or wife as a bitch repeatedly i would prrobably blow their pinky toe off and feed them to the pigs. men should treat women with respect.

Yes some women and men do not deserve respect and are treated acordingly. It is a choice to associate with people who dont respect themselves and or act in such a way as to not deserve respect. Let alone the time of day.

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

... Names can hurt you.

Not me. Apparently you. 'Tis shame.

[dj8rocks]

I have never referred to the ladies as hookers, tramps, whores or any other form of insulting stereotypical name tags. To me, they are a companion for my allotted time slot. I have always and will continue to treat my companions as a human being, just as I wish for them to treat me as a human being. My work life and my personal life don't allow time for me to date in RL, so this is my option for having a companion when my time allows. My experience thus far has been spectacular with verified companions, and I believe it is simply because I treat them as I wish to be treated. Sure I am paying them to be there, so in reality, I am no better or worse as a human because of my choice to interact in this lifestyle. 95% of my encounters are outcall, and I have had several companions just hang out with me after said allotted time slot. A few as much as 4 hours past the time slot, in their words " if it's ok, I would like to hang out with you for a while longer because you are cool to hang out with" I have never asked for that, neither have I ever denied that to them. Sometimes intimacy occurs after, sometimes not, and either is appreciated by me. Just my thoughts, treat the ladies like a human, and more often than not it is a very rewarding experience, both mentally and physically. dj8

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

When cops started shooting people based on label.

Show me a case where a cop has shot someone based on a label...I'm curious...

Originally Posted by Solitaire

Names can hurt you.

Only if you allow them to hurt you...no one else has that power...

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by costa rica

Double standard. They can refer to us as hookers, but if a guy was to give a provider a compliment then she reply's with a, "Well thank you trick " I'm pretty sure they would feel some type of way... lets me honest. If providers are Whores then so are the clients.

There's no double standard at all...we're tricks, johns, hobbyists...just as you're whores, hookers, providers...they're all exactly the same...

You're the one who is attributing something derogatory to the word "trick"...why is that?

[universalenergy]

[Fancylady]

Originally Posted by Kelly TNT

Ive been in this business a long time so call me old school. But, I've never heard er... Read so many "Gentlemen" (hmmmm.... Nope, that doesn't sound right) use the term Hooker as they do now. Call me crazy but, the last time I checked.... That was a negative terminology.

Someone referred to me as a "Hook" in a thread once ....at the same time he was paying me a compliment. Client: "Yeah, I emailed that Hook. She was really cool. I may have to hit that.".




Ummmmmm Thank you?


So, is being thought of or referred to as a Provider just a thing of the past? Because if so.... I prefer Hot Slut over Hooker.. Just sayin.


~Kelly TNT

Doesn't matter how long you been in the business.What level prostitutes.Call it whatever.Prostitutes are ladies exchanged services for money. Prostitutes are illegal business.That's why clients and prostitutes have to worry about police.