Disrespect

[Guest013121]

I'm beginning to wonder if the men on this site have more issues than the women on here. Let me explain... It seems lately we have more men taking personal jabs at the ladies than we do bickering bitches. It makes me wonder how they treat their wives or daughters. Why are men calling providers fat?..ugly?..old?..stupid?.. Why are they trying to out ladies?? Why is this??..

I'll tell you why. Because IMO those men treat the women in their RL like shit! We are no different to them. In fact I think most men that are this hateful towards women in a woman's professional environment, should be deemed dangerous. I can't imagine any man in my RL calling me fat or gross. But it's certainly acceptable here!!

Take whats been said to Jessika...and Shayla...Savannah...Myself and many others. No man in RL would ever speak to a woman that way and not get back-handed! Oh but on eccie they can. Eccie gives these revolting fuckers more power and I'm fucking sick of it. Sure, I've been rude and poked jabs before and sometimes in fun...other times to be nasty. But I'm a bitch. I'm programmed that way (doesn't make it right but I am)... It's in our nature to be somewhat catty towards other females... Ok, maybe that last part isn't true for all ladies.... but I'm sure most can relate.

But seriously, what is going on?? My dns list is so damned long I can't even remember the names on it anymore...I have to physically check. And to the men who always treat us ladies with respect, you are phenomenal men and we truly value having you in the hobby. Is there a difference in how you gentlemen treat the ladies in your life (respect-wise)? Whether it be on a professional level or an intimate level or other... I think we need to discuss this topic and find some resolution... Sure we are all pretty thick-skinned in this hobby and can handle it, but does anybody know what that does to a lady?..To be called names based on how others see them?? To be publicly humiliated?? This job depends on our looks first and foremost, so when I get called fat and gross, it stays with me all day and has me down in the dumps,...as it does most ladies. Even the most confident will have those slicing words in the back of her mind all day... We are sensitive creatures, and we certainly don't deserve to be disrespected this way.

Let's discuss this please.

Thanks!

[whatstheplay]

Trust me, I'm not suggesting that I subscribe to any of this, but you say....

But it's certainly acceptable here!!

Take what happened to Jessika...and Shayla.

That's because there is no personal interaction with the other person when all you have to do is stroke a few key and hit ENTER. I don't believe most people would air their feelings towards someone else unless it was absolutely necessary. So, to do so in this faceless and feelingless environment is easy.

I guess my position is, it's not necessary to comment on everything, especially if it doesn't directly or adversely affect you. That's my 2 cents!

[QUOTE]Sure, I've been rude and poked jabs before and sometimes in fun...other times to be nasty. But I'm a bitch. I'm programmed that way./QUOTE]

This statement doesn't really help you're case IMO because it allows the guys that you are addressing to use the same defense

BTW, you may be a bitch (you said it...not me), but you're quite a sexy bitch!!

[DallasRain]

I try to stay as drama free as I can....Being an older provider who may not be the "prettiest,skinniest,youngest, most desirable" gal here,I have to work even harder to maintain my reputation...so I have learned to "pick my battles wisely".......I believe it is much more fun when we all get along...after all,we are all here to make money & have fun,right???

quote--to the men who always treat us ladies with respect, you are phenomenal men and we truly value having you in the hobby.
DITTO--THANKS!!


BTW--Gemma I think you are sexy as hell!!!

[love2fishfork]

If you look at the guy from Austin who recently got banned, he had 16000 posts. That tells me that he has no life outside of ECCIE and ECCIE is his/her social life. That's pretty sad.

A smart provider once told that there are two kinds of hobbyists.
1. Those who have no trouble finding a RW woman (maybe married or have a girlfriend) and hobby for variety.
2. Those who can't find a RW woman and hobby out of necessity.

I now find that there is actually a third kind.

3. Those who can't find a RW woman, and providers don't want to see him either (I won't name names but I can think of a few).

You girls have Infoshare and the powder room. You should talk about these guys with each other and black list them. It does no good to argue with them as that just fuels the fire.

[DallasRain]

lol Fish babe...

I have almost 50,000 posts....but I CAN say that out of all of them there are VERY few "drama or whine" posts!! And my life is Eccie..,,...that may sound "sad",but to me it is "fun" to be a part of this community..it is my way of spicing up my "otherwise normal" life!!.....lol!

I agree with yall...some people just get on this board to stir trouble and make themselves feel like a worthy person....you never know who is sitting behind the keyboard and what they are about.

I was raised in Texas by a VERY christian family...I was taught that "you look for the best in people and treat them accordingly".....my momma rold me that there is usually at least ONE good thing about every person! So I try to live my life by those inspirations.

[BirdogKC60]

Sadly Gem, so many people in todays world are just mean and hateful. I think it gives them some sense of power that they don't really have unless we allow it. I can't relate to anyone that attacks a woman's looks her or in RL. We all have our preferences and a certain type that flips our switch so why not just use the boards to find what we want instead of needing to attack woman with traits we aren't looking for? Call me crazy but I'm a big believer in treating people the way I want to be treated.....ALL people!

[old door builder]

My parents always told me if you don't have anything nice to say keep it to yourself. Treat the ladies with respect and you will be rewarded. Hell Yea be nice and have fun, that's what this hobby is about!!

[Lena Duvall]

We all have different strategies for dealing with conflict and hostility. For me, sometimes I engage, and other times I note particularly egregious commentary and just add a malicious hobbyist to my ignore list. A respectful "No" review or criticism is one thing. But a lot of what I see is some hobbyists disrespecting and devaluing women that they have never and admittedly would never see BCD. When I see it, I always think fair enough! You don't think fat, old, ugly, *insert other insults* women are desirable. But lines are definitely crossed when people assume that a woman's perceived lack of sexiness or attractiveness therefore means that that woman should shut her mouth, stay in her place, and cower in silence on the public coed forums. From time to time, I do cringe when I think about how some of these dudes treat people in general, and women especially, in their personal lives. But I try not to waste my precious thoughts...

[FrankieP]

I've never found there to be any great benefit to tearing a woman down. On this board or in real life. So I don't understand why some of the men on here feel the need to do so. All it does is make them look bad. Maybe they aren't bright enough to see the results of their actions.

[Savannah Moon]

I have had , since the very beginning, so called men criticize the the way I look
This is me
I am 5'1
I weigh 115 lbs
I have a solid body...I always have except for the 4 times I was pregnant & I got up to 170 lbs & gave birth to 4... 8lb baby boys
Who are now men...MEN...
And I swear they are respectful!!!
They know better
Back on track
Excellent reviews.. never ran review specials
And you call me ugly
Old.. jealous
Are you fucking kidding me
I've been in my 20's. I rocked it!!!!
And I maintain a body @ 46 yrs old ( w/out any procedures ) better than MOST 20 YR OLDS
Why in the FUCK would I be JEALOUS????
AYFKM????
And I do talk
I love people...
So why would you kick dirt
I'm Native American (Granddaughter of Chief.. therfore ROYALTY)
& French (from Royalty as well)
And I have watched many of you degrade women on here for 5.5 years!!
Did your mothers not teach you RESPECT
When I pipe up it is 97% standing up against disrespectful BS
I have 5 brothers 4 sons
I am a Tomboy Girlie Girl
I LOVE the way I look
QUIT DEVALUING THE WOMEN ON HERE!!!
THANK YOU GEMMA!!!
I LOVE that LADY.. I love all the women who put their selves out there ... with standards
Who give each of you men a part of their spirit every time you make a connection
And you WONDER..why things aren't like they used to be
REALLY. ..almost amusing.. how dare you complain
If you want things to be the way they used to be you have to maintain them not take them for granted

[DallasRain]

Yep I told my son and son-in-law that they better treat their lady like a lady...or else there would be hell to pay from this Texas bred momma! My SO treats me like a lady 100% and as his queen...so therefore I expect it from them!

Men who belittle wome or talk trash about them are NOT the kinda guy i wanna be with!
There ARE some awesome sweet guys here {like the ones posting here} and kuddos to them! They rock!

And on my soapbox now:
Asshole gents
We women have enough to deal with in this life/hobby...we just wanna make money,be happy & have fun....................there is someone for everyone,so if you don't like what ya see,move on to another provider!!
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and ladies...yall are beautiful!!....yall rock your skin you are in!!

[old door builder]

Amen Savannah!! All you ladies rock! Now it's time for sleep and dreaming about the ladies I have met on here!!

[noleftturn]

I have encountered these types throughout my entire working life. They use your services and think because they are providing money to you to do the service they own you, for without them you could not survive. Most have some cash in their pockets so they feel like a big man. I have found it is not the cash but the way you treat others that truly makes you a big man. Whether I am dressed in a suit or old bibs I treat others the same way, with respect. In return I expect to be treated the same way, with respect. When I walk into a room NO ONE in that room is better than me as a person. I did not say I was the best just that no one was better. Give respect and earn respect, period. Don't demand it because that will just make it worse.

[old-tyme-racer]

For me there are days and times that I just keep my thoughts and words to my self, I have met some very nice people in person and just in PM's and chat. I have noticed that the respect factor has went to heck in many cases, I have to say the way some of the ladies have been treated in the past 6 months, is really bad. I have comments I would like to say about some members, both Female and Male, but it is not worth wasting my time because my fellow members have already posted it. There are some real sincere members on this board, I could name their names, but they know who they are.

[old-tyme-racer]

Originally Posted by old door builder

My parents always told me if you don't have anything nice to say keep it to yourself. Treat the ladies with respect and you will be rewarded. Hell Yea be nice and have fun, that's what this hobby is about!!

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