Threesomes and unicorns

[Slick Incocknito]

So this isn't really a thread looking for a provider that would be interested in engaging in a threesome, but rather a thread looking for suggestions.

I recently started dating a girl who's had a g/f before and is pretty into girls. She asked if I had ever had a threesome and I lied and told her no (which wasn't really a lie, the only real threesome that I would count was with two providers). She said she's had one before and I jokingly told her it was unfair that only she's had one. Anyways, she said she would definitely be down for a threeway but it can't be with anyone that we know.

So any suggestions on how to get this ball rolling? We talked about going to TMZ but I haven't really been pushing the idea. She's kind of dropped the idea and I don't want to seem too eager and constantly bring up the subject. Even if we did go to a place like TMZ, are there even single girls there looking to join a couple? Seems like there would be a lot more couples looking for that unicorn than unicorns looking for couples.

We're in our late twenties, attractive, in great shape and I like to think that my game is pretty good, but only when it comes to approaching single ladies. Any other suggestions on places to go besides TMZ? Any ideas how I could approach the subject again without seeming to eager. I don't want to keep bringing it up, so when I do bring it up, I kind of want to throw some feasible ideas, not just hypotheticals.

[tbone77494]

If you want to keep her as your girlfriend afterwards, let her choose the girl.
Lucky bastard.

[Slick Incocknito]

Yeah, I've been kind of waiting for her to choose a girl, but I've been waiting a while now. I think she needs some sort of nudge.

[Mojo1972]

Make the search of sub-forums your friend.
Are you a deviant fucktard? If so, might I suggest looking in provider ads, the weekend lineup & the stripper review discussion forums with search word "Stripper."

Find someone that you are into & that you think your girl would be into.
Make contact with stripper and ask if she's down for a couple's 3 way.
If she says yes, tell her you need to know where she works because you want your girl to think she picked out a stripper for OTC session and you do not want her to find out about ECCIE.

If she's down with that, go to the club when stripper is working and ask your girl, "What about her? I think she's hot." If your girl says, "OK", excuse yourself and go talk to stripper to confirm preapproved meeting time and tell your girl, "Well that was easy, you've got a good eye."

or ya could tell her to put up a CL/BP ad rof

[SpiceItUp]

Originally Posted by Slick Incocknito

We're in our late twenties, attractive, in great shape...

In the swinger community they are called Unicorns for a reason. Also, if you go to TMZ you won't find very many unicorns and most of the people there, um, let's just say they do not fall into your demographic, to put it politely

I had a bi girlfriend once who I would go to strip clubs with and we found a few that way. Even when we didn't find one it was still fun! Let her drive the bus as far as selection goes is my advice, just be an enthusiastic but not pushy motivator. Keep her feeling sexy and excited about the prospect and she'll be less likely to think you're using her imop.

[CarolineDavenport]

Now, I get that I'm a different breed, but here's what would work for me to make me feel sexy and get me in that tigress mood.

Plan the whole afternoon/evening. Take her shopping for a new sexy dress and heels. Tell her you want her to pick something that makes her feel like the knockout bombshell she is. Then take her to a nice, early dinner, nothing too heavy since a full belly makes you sleepy, not sexy. :P Then take her to your planned target environment and tell her that you just want to watch her flirt and have fun with other ladies. Don't even demand to be part of it, just tell her you like the idea of watching her feel like the sexiest woman in the room and going after whichever lady catches her eye. She can pull you in if she finds someone she likes and wants a threeway. She will feel like it's all about her, like you're trying to fulfill one of HER fantasies, not just yours. Women are much more likely to explore things like this when we feel like the ball is completely in our court, no pressure. You're just providing opportunity, not demanding results.

That would turn me on and get me raring to go. But maybe it's just me.

[Slick Incocknito]

Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

Women are much more likely to explore things like this when we feel like the ball is completely in our court, no pressure. You're just providing opportunity, not demanding results.

Now there's some awesome input. Thanks spice, yours is good too. I think I'm going to take Ms. Davenports advice and just say that I want to watch her with another girl cause that would be hella sexy. Then I'll just bank on the two girls getting each other so roused up that they'll want some D thrown into the action.

[Guest030816]

I've had a few RW threesomes, every time my GF picked the girl. Once was her friend, once was my sister's friend (awkward) and once was a hot bartender at our local watering hole. If she's bi, then she knows how to get the ball rolling.
You basically have to put her in a "target rich" environment. Like Caroline stated, shopping/dinner, to get her in hunter mode, then hit a club or strip club. If she's feeling sexy, let nature take its course. Just set the mood and let her do all the work.

[FoxyNC]

How very funny. I never knew about the "unicorn" label within this culture.
(Thankyou btw for the in-depth explanation...)

I always seem to end up in a very mixed (ethnic) crowd in my current area, and somehow end up being the "token" white girl. (Whether it be around my black friends, Latino's, Arabic, or Asian friends.... Funny, I am realizing how diverse my friends are here.) And it's always someone in THEIR crowd who stares me down, and I always have joked with my friends that they are staring "like I am a fucking Unicorn."
My friends always laugh (they get it) and I have even joked about getting a T-Shirt.... Guess if I wore it there would be some folks who would take it a whole different way I never would have even suspected..... LOL LOL
Shoot, maybe I will STILL get the T-Shirt. Cause now it's twice as funny to me!

Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

Plan the whole afternoon/evening. Take her shopping for a new sexy dress and heels. Tell her you want her to pick something that makes her feel like the knockout bombshell she is. Then take her to a nice, early dinner, nothing too heavy since a full belly makes you sleepy, not sexy. :P Then take her to your planned target environment and tell her that you just want to watch her flirt and have fun with other ladies. Don't even demand to be part of it, just tell her you like the idea of watching her feel like the sexiest woman in the room and going after whichever lady catches her eye. She can pull you in if she finds someone she likes and wants a threeway. She will feel like it's all about her, like you're trying to fulfill one of HER fantasies, not just yours. Women are much more likely to explore things like this when we feel like the ball is completely in our court, no pressure. You're just providing opportunity, not demanding results.

That would turn me on and get me raring to go. But maybe it's just me.

It is not just you. I think you most eloquently explained it and gave a away a smidge much on the female psyche!! LOL! Shhhhh quit telling our secrets! (I kid, I kid!) I have always heard one sex complaining of thier failure to understand the other sex... I do not see how any male could misinterpret your fine explanation.

I am the type, I am game for almost anything, when sincerely encouraged in good fun and allowed the reigns-
however, I am a foot dragger whenever I feel as though I am being coherced, forced, begged, or otherwise attempted to be motivated towards something I haver no control or say-so in.... Call me paranoid or hard headed or even a control-freak.... but I think all women are a bit prone to that- considering how WE have been dealt with men (or most of us have, I know I have..)
Having control of the situation turns it from being "his idea" or "his thing" into "OUR thing".... or mine.. lol Instead of red light or yellow... it turns green when we are allowed the freedom AND control.

[wily]

Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

Now, I get that I'm a different breed, but here's what would work for me to make me feel sexy and get me in that tigress mood.

meow