References checked.... not checked....does anyone do it?

[nineninanine]

Interesting topic. For me, if things don't work out (for whatever reason) I just move on. If they really catch my interest, then I'll try again months or even years later to see what happens.

If they're interested- great. If not - that's ok, it's their choice. I just keep window shopping until I find 1 I like, then I repeat often til I get bored or find a new interest- then move on. I will say, I think p411 helps. I have a pretty good amount of recent okays so that probably helps. As Frankie says, you can see who views your profile, so you can tell which girls check and which ones don't. Seeing that they checked has a somewhat calming effect.

To be honest, over the years, I'll bet I've only been asked 4-5 times (directly) for references. I would guess (some) of these ladies are smart enough to do their own research similar to how we do ours, and a lot of the reference checks are done in the background

Then again, I would guess that some have access to all parts of this board (and others) and can find out a little bit more by ready ROS and other comments.

It's all part of the fun.

[nineninanine]

Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

In many other cases high profile or high traffic ladies who receive the reference check either lose the email and never see it due to the flooding of her inbox (I totally made a pun there.) She may have had a busy day and the poor reference request was drowned.

Outstanding! Very funny!

[royamcr]

Would love to flood your outbox.

Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

I can honestly say I have returned an answer to every reference request I have received (exceptions only if somehow it went to my spam folder, I rarely check that)

HOWEVER, I am always honest with the provider. If I have not seen the gentleman in question in a year + I am going to inform her. I will likely mention (if I remember him) if he was polite, thoughtful, on time, or abused my lack of clock watching. Among any other variable I can recall.

I always wish to give the provider in question as much information as I have or can that does not breach into overly personal information. (His real information for instance, anything overly intimate unless it was a problem.)

There are many times a provider will forget to send off references, or simply received a bad return. To avoid causing trouble for the ladies that she quarried she may simply say "They have not gotten back to me)

In many other cases high profile or high traffic ladies who receive the reference check either lose the email and never see it due to the flooding of her inbox (I totally made a pun there.) She may have had a busy day and the poor reference request was drowned. Sometimes reference requests get sent to spam. Sometimes the sender does not realize they have not gone through. Other times a provider will shrug off the reference request as "not important" and forget it exists. Or simply not remember the client at all.

There is a very delicate balance we have to manage being providers. Not every one of us are blessed with eidetic memories (I am certainly not) We have to be able to remember our clients and basic information or RECORD the information. Holding on to the information in written (or typed) form is dangerous to the client. So the balance is knowing how much to hold onto and how much to wipe. Full wipes highly recommend at least one a year. How does this effect the client? If he was not memorable or amidst a slew of other clients in that day/week some 6 months ago, she is not likely to remember him and less likely to remember him in any great detail. Assuming she wiped her information to protect this client and others, she has nothing to refer to. Thus.... she cannot help the reference checker or client in question.

I hope this helps give some alternate views and possible explanations. Good luck big deal! I am sure with your charisma and gentlemanly thoughtfulness you will have no problems getting appointments.

[GinaXXX]

Originally Posted by BigDeal

Ok so I gave up my 411 a couple of years ago when Gina raised rates...

Check your email.

Always,
Gina

[algrace]

Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

... Holding on to the information in written (or typed) form is dangerous to the client. So the balance is knowing how much to hold onto and how much to wipe. Full wipes highly recommend at least one a year. How does this effect the client? If he was not memorable or amidst a slew of other clients in that day/week some 6 months ago, she is not likely to remember him and less likely to remember him in any great detail. Assuming she wiped her information to protect this client and others, she has nothing to refer to. Thus.... she cannot help the reference checker or client in question.

I hope this helps give some alternate views and possible explanations. Good luck big deal! I am sure with your charisma and gentlemanly thoughtfulness you will have no problems getting appointments.

+1

Sometimes clearing the cache and restarting the browser is a surefire bet for the one needing screened, too. Keep using the big head fellas.