Sugar babys

[i'va biggen]

One SB wanna be told me " I can have several SD'S" . It is why I stick to a few select providers now

[Guest022016]

Originally Posted by Mizzou82

Aren't there agreements where you still provide but lock up so many sessions, nights out, or whatever a month for a lower rate than by the hour?

Absolutely, however, that's where it ends...at the end of the session...I see a few a couple times/mo in a date/overnight setting but they pay allotted time and we go about our business til next time. my mission is to save as much as possible and as quick as possible not just get my monthly bills paid and it seems that's what the typical sd pays plus a little extra but I like my financial security I get by myself and my loyal patrons. if i lose one out of x amt of clients not an end of the world catastrophe.. refer to royamcr below as to why it's not the best idea from a providers perspective. Ultimately, it's up to the people in the arrangement but it simply doesn't make sense in my head to jump into SB/SD arrangement unless one or both parties intend on being dishonest and see ppl utr, which that spells trouble so I avoid. I guess i think of consequences prior to making such a big decision and hurt feelings and lots of drama seems inevitable in this situation. I'm not saying that how it works all the time but I've heard more horror stories than success stories so let's be realistic. I'm not in the business to be "committed" so to speak, otherwise, I'd just get married....and no thanks to that.

The only success story I've heard is a local client helped a college girl til she graduated and moved. They are still friends but she was never a legit provider which I think is the only way from a man's perspective that it would work. Soooo, scout your local coffee shop's for those coed cuties


And after all that, I don't even know if I answered what you wanted. Lol.


Aaaannndd, I have mommy makeover scheduled for june...we can do a prepaid arrangement to take that cost of my hands...I'll make it up to whomever wants to pay, I SWEAR! Lol...see how that works? Seems risky.

Originally Posted by royamcr

I That's called putting all your eggs in one basket... If a SD loses a SB, its not that big of deal, life goes on. If a SB loses a SD, that's her living going away so it is a big deal.

[sherm]

I can't begin to know exactly what the original poster was asking for.... However, I didn't necessarily read that he was looking for a currently active provider to be his SB. I've been able to work through a few of these situations in the past. Good candidates are school teachers and other under employed hotties that like the extras that a SD provides without the risk of being exposed.

[Savannah Moon]

Policies, Rules, Regulations. . Where the..... and who the ... LOL.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by Savannah Moon

Policies, Rules, Regulations ...

Unfortunately, yes.

Rule1: Close the door.
Rule 2: See rule 1.

[LoveWomen]

Originally Posted by Olivia Belle

Did these relationships come from a meeting a provider or from a sb site?

I wonder if age has a role to play in it? Maybe your sb's were too young to value their SD

These have mostly been by word-of-mouth, friends-of-friends introductions.
(Most have not been Providers, but had considered it before our introduction)

Girls come to me with financial needs, we discuss, I offer advice and experience, they offer charm, beauty and affection.

If chemistry develops, negotiations and arrangement ensue.

Next step is the SB enjoys her new found financial security, develops the confidence and self-esteem that we both want her to develop.

Finally, the SB finds a ghetto-tatted boy, laying on his mom's basement couch, no job nor prospects, playing video games, and getting high.

Away she drops, right back to where she was to before.

I try to follow the Dan Savage "Campground Rule" of May/December Romance.

The older man should always leave the younger woman in a Better Condition that when he found her.

Better Condition:
Higher Self-esteem/self-respect,
More ambition,
Legal issues resolved,
Better educational future,
More connected family ties, (with both parents and children),
Sobriety, (that can be a toughie)
Maturity,
and a more advanced vision of their potential.


Sometimes it works and I feel good about the SB's progress and prospects.

When it fails, at least the SB has had a glimpse of what a better life could be.

This may sound controlling or demanding, but No,
I have learned I can Not nor will not tell a SB what to do nor what not to do.

But listen to what they want for themselves,
help them achieve their own goals,
remind them to stay on task, and
pick them up when they fail.

OP's Second question, Too Young?

Yeah, probably so. The oldest has been 24...

She once said to me "I'll bet I'm the youngest woman you have dated..."
I smiled and said, "Sorry, you are the Oldest..."


OP's Original Question; Being seen in Public?

A Crucial Issue, NO PDA.
I learned early in my "career" That really freaks the civilian population out.

Many times I have been called "Dad" especially by checkout clerks at clothing stores.

I wink, smile and reply: "No, ..Daddie".

Young clerks eyes widen and their mind expands as they glance back and forth between the distinguished Gentleman and the well-dressed young hottie with fresh hair and nails.

[JayceeRivers]

OP,

I have had many good experiences. Several semi monogamous SD/SB relationships that retained the friendships when they ended.

I have never cared about the perception of those that looked on with disdain. In fact, if I found people spending a little too much time looking and whispering I loved to play the game "lets give them something to talk about" For instance, Walking by the looky loo's and stopping to give a very non platonic kiss to my older gentleman before saying, quite loudly, "This restaurant is amazing! You should consider bringing your wife here on your anniversary." Of course my SD at the time was not married. Still, we enjoyed a good laugh and the expressions that were priceless. Another game we would play is he would give me the money for the meal in advance. Then we would go into a 5 star restaurant and order freely, when the waiter came with the check I would take it and pay with the money he gave me. That one always received some interesting and quite entertaining looks.

Never let the worlds perceptions dictate who you like, and who you desire to spend time with. If you enjoy your older mans (potential sugar daddies) attentions and company, enjoy it to it's fullest.
Always give something new a try. You will never know if the shoe fits, unless you try it on.

[Mizzou82]

Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

OP,

I have had many good experiences. Several semi monogamous SD/SB relationships that retained the friendships when they ended.

I have never cared about the perception of those that looked on with disdain. In fact, if I found people spending a little too much time looking and whispering I loved to play the game "lets give them something to talk about" For instance, Walking by the looky loo's and stopping to give a very non platonic kiss to my older gentleman before saying, quite loudly, "This restaurant is amazing! You should consider bringing your wife here on your anniversary." Of course my SD at the time was not married. Still, we enjoyed a good laugh and the expressions that were priceless. Another game we would play is he would give me the money for the meal in advance. Then we would go into a 5 star restaurant and order freely, when the waiter came with the check I would take it and pay with the money he gave me. That one always received some interesting and quite entertaining looks.

Never let the worlds perceptions dictate who you like, and who you desire to spend time with. If you enjoy your older mans (potential sugar daddies) attentions and company, enjoy it to it's fullest.
Always give something new a try. You will never know if the shoe fits, unless you try it on.

If I were a wealthy man I would just give you my PIN number and wait for your call anytime you were available lol I like your style.

[golard]

I think it all boils down to the age old divide: How much money can I get for this one pussy vs. how much pussy can I get for my money.

[Guest013121]

Wtf

[Mizzou82]

Originally Posted by golard

I think it all boils down to the age old divide: How much money can I get for this one pussy vs. how much pussy can I get for my money.

never been in a SD/SB relationship, but I don't think that is it at all. If I did get into one, it would be as much for companionship as BCD.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

Wtf

Agree.

I'm going to modify my above rules:
1, Close the door, unless in the kitchen.
2. Bonus gifts for Oatmeal Chocolate Chip cookies.
3. No other rules allowed.

[JackJohnson]

Originally Posted by Olivia Belle

I'm sure there is an online site for this but I wanted to know how common is it. For both men and women, how do you feel about being seen with an older man in public and men how do you think people perceive you with such a younger woman. Are there any sugar baby relationships that are current, anyone care to share their experience good bad money spent?
I understand the concept so I don't need an explanation of that just wanted to maybe hear some stories.

I am thinking about doing this.

I don't know about it from a "sugar baby" perspective but I live with a woman who is 25, which is over half my age, but not by much. I look younger and she looks a bit older so generally we are fine. The biggest thing she's had to handle are

1) douchebag bro's who are convinced she's with me because of some perceived mega-wealth and think that because of that, they can hit on her "on the sly" (and not so subtle) or press up on her in a crowded bar because she must just want them once they grab her ass or something. Their theory is she must be physically needy, since I'm older... which is funny.

2) The occasional "daughter" reference, which are almost always made by someone who is serving, or carding or whatnot. Half of those are just honest mistakes - I take them as a compliment, the other half are people thinking they can make a snide remark... again.. on the sly... You can let those go generally, but if you want to just be mean, you can zero tip a server if they get too snide... they probably deserve it.

She handles both extremely well, and since I'm a blunt person, a quick confrontation will usually settle things. Doing such isn't for the feint of will. Mostly its because I'm comfortable with who I am, and I could really care less what they think. Meh, people will always find a reason to judge you. Let their envy make you laugh

Now all the other inherent sugar baby problems... good luck with that... the age thing is really the least of your worries.

Hope that helps... good luck... I got some tootsie pops if you really crave the sugar... lol

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by Olivia Belle

I'm sure there is an online site for this but I wanted to know how common is it. For both men and women, how do you feel about being seen with an older man in public and men how do you think people perceive you with such a younger woman. Are there any sugar baby relationships that are current, anyone care to share their experience good bad money spent?
I understand the concept so I don't need an explanation of that just wanted to maybe hear some stories.

I am thinking about doing this.

It all depends on how the young woman acts. I have been in public with two granddaughters (daughters & stepdaughters) kissing me as they leave to go home. No one has ever seemed to notice, even with the side hugs and cheek kisses. It is about how you give off the physical clues. Everyone has always seemed to recognize the relationship as family.

I regularly take young ladies who work for me to lunch, and the physical clues are absent, they are not my family. But at my regular restaurants they always seem to pick up what is family and who is a customer or employee.

How do you preset yourself?

JR

[Olivia Belle]

Originally Posted by WhiteGentleman

Bluetiger, you're going to start up with a girlfriend of your previous SB who was too much drama? That should be interesting. What could possibly go wrong? Keep us informed.

Originally Posted by bluetiger

Just got out from a sd/SB relationship ......it was good while it lasted , we are still friends , I just couldn't deal with her " real " life ....to much drama for me. But I will get back into,another one pretty soon ....one of her friends that know about me already got in touch with me
As long as you know what you get yourself into it can be really fun !

Yes I'm VERY interested in how this turns out!