When A Provider Wants To Get To Know A Hobbyist ... How Much Convo Is Really Necessary To Be Comfortable With Performing A Session? A Question Asked ... By A "voice" That Cries Out In The Wilderness = )

[Johanna]

Originally Posted by anita

It just makes the whole thing not mechanical

Exactly my take on it. I always start by offering refreshments and getting acquainted for 5-10 min. Not kissing until after 45 min convo seems excessive to say the least. The lady shouldn't impose her wants over his wishes.

It would be a different story if he talked because he wanted to. Not every guy feels comfortable jumping right in: some are nervous, just came from work, stressed or whatever and need a little time to unwind first. As always, this is up to him, but it is important for us to be sensitive to their need to feel comfortable also. I had a client talk for 2 hours before he made up his mind to give me a tour of his bedroom, and a handful of others who truly come over just for company and conversation.

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by Johanna

Exactly my take on it. I always start by offering refreshments and getting acquainted for 5-10 min.

That is reasonable for both parties. And I say both parties, because admit it or not, I suspect that many guests are a bit nervous on a first meeting also and want to get a "feel" for the environment and attitude of the hostess.

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by SpiceItUp

My feeling about the OP is that he's entitled not to share her name obviously. I just think he's doing a disservice to the rest of us. I said before and I'll say again, there are ways to say anything you want that will either not provoke a negative response or will make obvious any agenda-driven opposition that arises. I honestly believe that and we've seen it many times before. Either way, it's his choice to make and he's made it...

Here are some examples of that "funny" (humorous?) posting you mentioned?

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1295290

A pretty good reason in and of itself for not posting a "no" review ....

.... the tone is the "community" doing a disservice to the poster. It's not humor!

[nikkivikkisix]

For me I do the chit chat within the first few minutes, sometimes the gentleman needs an ear more than an Amazing blow job,and if that's the case I play with the stick while he tells me his troubles, If I'm in a talking mood at least I strip and encourage touching and such until I am ready to get down to business. If I haven't seen a fellow before,I tend to talk more than normal but just to get a feel for what they want,I don't ask about the weather I ask what kind of porn you like!��

[drax1]

Originally Posted by LexusLover

Here are some examples of that "funny" (humorous?) posting you mentioned?

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1295290

A pretty good reason in and of itself for not posting a "no" review ....

.... the tone is the "community" doing a disservice to the poster. It's not humor!

I have to say she really is fugly. You can pick up a skank like that in any honky tonk in Houston. Why someone would pay for that makes me really question their judgement anyhow. Yuk!

[Guest120216]

Originally Posted by TheAntichrist666

In a way I understand, Providers are seeing strangers all the time ...

But when does too much Convo go overboard and ruins a session?

Ya'll have conversations... ??


I just walk in, she nods, I nod and all clothes go flying off. Only real question I ever ask is, "do you swallow...?"

[Guest030816]

Originally Posted by charcoal

Ya'll have conversations... ??
Only real question I ever ask is, "do you swallow...?"

Exactly, if I want conversation I can always go to the bar or even the strip club. I'm there for the naked fun. Which crudely put, involves having my dick inside of her, mouth or pussy. If she's wanting to talk, then she's avoiding the reason I'm there, the reason I'm paying her. To much talk equals bad service. Resting between rounds its one thing, but to spend the majority of the session talking defeats the whole purpose of being a SERVICE provider. That would make you more of a therapist or counselor. Who make considerably less than $400/hr.

[Guest021817-2]

Ha!

[pootie tang79]

When I started hobbying I met this girl from OK she was super hot but took her time and talk to me for about 45 min she told me don't worry baby I'm not charging you for this. This made my session intense I could really appreciate her doing this. I wish she came down more often.

[JustMeCLTXGG]

Originally Posted by charcoal

Ya'll have conversations... ??

yes

Originally Posted by charcoal

I just walk in, she nods, I nod and all clothes go flying off. Only real question I ever ask is, "do you swallow...?"

I understand this though and I believe some girls have gotten accustomed to it.

Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

Exactly, if I want conversation I can always go to the bar or even the strip club......Who make considerably less than $400/hr.

some of those SC girls do. and some aren't there to talk either. had one offer me an hour of unlimited dances (as many as could be done in an hour) for 300. my first thought was, wannabe hooka I'm an eccie member. lol I sure wouldn't spend 300 to be teased. hindsight I should have told her if she wanted that much an hour to give me a call outside the club.

Originally Posted by pootie tang79

When I started hobbying I met this girl from OK she was super hot but took her time and talk to me for about 45 min she told me don't worry baby I'm not charging you for this. This made my session intense I could really appreciate her doing this. I wish she came down more often.

that sounds like one first class provider to me!

[WolfWhistle]

Originally Posted by TheAntichrist666

In a way I understand, Providers are seeing strangers all the time ...

But when does too much Convo go overboard and ruins a session?


Let me share a negative experience I had recently:

Last week I had a 1 hour session with a Provider, we had never met before, it was my first time with her. I get there we greet each other, I place her white envelope with donation on table nearby, and I jump into her shower. I dry myself and come, and I lay next to her. I want to kiss her and she moves away from me.
She tells me that she doesn't kiss anyone she doesn't know and I'm like "What? Oh Really?" (Aren't you Providers banging "strangers" all the time?) She then tells me that I need to talk to her about myself, what I do for a living, how was my day, am I from Houston?, what is the temperature outside?, how was traffic?... the multitude of questions floods the place like the great Deluge ... I lose my hard-on and Mr. Happy goes to sleep out of boredom or just outright disappointment.
Now that she is done with her polygraph examination of my life, she begins talking to me about herself, her life, how awesome and popular she is ... and I'm there just feeling overwhelmed and just wishing to get away from her and deeply regretting the whole thing . So then she then finally returns my kiss and says now I feel comfortable with you. I look at the clock and I see that I have less than 15 minutes ... and I'm shaking my head, I cover my face with one of my hands and I mentally yell at myself for being such a dumb ass and wasting my time with this chick.
It takes me about 20-30 minutes to cum and I'm not enjoying this session. So finally me and her start having a session and I'm having trouble concentrating and cumming knowing I have less than 15 minutes, I don't like feeling rushed, and to make matters worse ... I had less than 2 minutes before the end of the hourly session and she keeps telling me to hurry my ass up and cum for her, because her next appointment is 15 minutes away. So now I'm straining and I cannot cum ... I just can't = ( She begins yelling at me because I didn't cum, I got up and said "Fu#@ it!" I have had enough of this immature rip off Provider.
I didn't care how hot or beautiful she was or how awesome her hundreds of positive reviews were, I just wanted to get away from her, I was crying with rage and disgust. I began putting on my clothes quickly and I began walking towards the door ... and she followed me. She stopped me before I could get away from her and she begged me not to write a "No" review on her, to give her a second chance and she was going to give me a big discount on our second session. I told her that I don't write "No" reviews because I will not be giving her any free publicity, I will "NOT" grant her those 15 seconds of fame she wants so badly. I told her that when a Provider wrongs me like she just did, I just don't see them at all, I don't even acknowledge, neither recognize, and I will even deny their very own existence, so I turned around and I left.
I then stopped by a friendly AMP where I'm a regular at and a beautiful Asian lady took good care of me there. She knew why I was there and she made me stress free. I thanked this wonderful goddess, I gave her a big tip, and I drove back home happy as though nothing had happened.




Will I see this Provider again? ... No

Did she value my money and my time? ... No

Did she take care of the needs of the hobbyist? ... No


Did I respect her wishes to get to know me a little more? ... Yes

Did I answer all of her questions? ... Yes

Did I behave as civil as possible? ... Yes and as much as I could only bear

I save my talking after I climax. There really isn't a need for more than nice introduction pleasantries with well-reviewed providers.

[Guest030816]

Originally Posted by TheAntichrist666

In a way I understand, Providers are seeing strangers all the time ...

But when does too much Convo go overboard and ruins a session?

These girls see strangers every day, I agree. And unless she sees you as a repeat customer I doubt that she really wants to heat your life story. Like I said, a GOOD PROVIDER understands a man's needs, and knows why we're there.
Granted I've always had a better session when there's some kind of chemistry connection, but to waste the majority of the session in chit chat is just avoiding the reason FOR the session.
One of my best encounters was when I text the lady and told her I wanted to kiss her as soon as she walked in, no small talk just wanted to make out and start peeling each others clothes off. She went for it and the session was excellent! Now she's my ATF and I'm looking forward to seeing her tomorrow! YeeHaw baby!!!
Yeah it's YMMV all over the place, and in the pay for play world I have no problem with my end of the P, but I damn sure want to Play for my $$$$. The difference between a GOOD PROVIDER and the other, is the good ones want to play also!!! Maybe not so much for their enjoyment, but they always want to make sure you are satisfied before parting ways.

[matterm69]

She didn't want to know you. She just wants the money ( ..... ). Nothing new it has happened to me as well - just scratch her off the list and move on. But you should put a review of her so the rest of use don't suffer as well.

[letsplai]

I'm giving them 150-200-250 to have sex with them not to talk (conversation) . these escorts want to get out easy, make the money with the minimum sex possible.

[Jemma Martin]

You and I have never had a problem with over sharing. It all depends on the provider.