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Old 02-12-2015, 07:22 PM   #16
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I think that's awsome, although I never exspect it... I give more of myself and extra time to those who continue to see me on a regular basis.. I'm a connector and if there's a connection I would rather see the same guys then the first guy who is ready to throw $ my way.. my regulars always get first dibs of my play time, wich is normally very minimal .. I do care about those I see and I tend to catch feelings although I think ik when to draw the line..
are u sure the line doesn't move?

Ive heard that man ytimes from providers and boys and the line moves
And then things are moving in and sharing same bed but then provider wants more and boy gets scared and things get awkard fast.

I think its a rocky road to go down if u catch feelings and then maybe he starts seeing another girl on here and then u get upset and then he gets upset, so on and so on and so on.
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Old 02-12-2015, 07:28 PM   #17
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This may have to do with the type of provider I most enjoy(not typically girl next door type - sorry Trisha!) but I simply don't understand this kind of relationship.

I have given gifts to providers who I've known for a long time, in the same way I give my long term doctor or barber a gift for the holidays. They're people who make my life easier/more enjoyable.

I've paid providers, been given good service and left(w/ repeat visits).

OR

Dated a provider/former provider and stopped paying all together.

Its difficult for me to imagine paying with money, and also with my affection. To have a relationship where you wonder if your fun is based on the $$$ in your pocket.

If you're looking for emotional support, I'd suggest dating someone.

If you're looking for quality service with no strings attached(most of the time), I'd suggest seeing a provider.
Heres the way I look at it, as I have dated , im not married and no so at this time but I go on dates now and then.

I meet the provider I know whats coming theres an exchange and theres an ending .

With a date no exchange no plan u talk theres no pre existing condition of her faking her way through anything or any topic u know the end game shes getting paid to do what youre gonna do.

The girl on the date may make u work for it, which sometimes after some dates its really good, ive found the longer u wait the better it is when it happens. But of course if youre like me and don't want all the bs that comes with that after the long term planning and what u doing tonight all that bs, then u turn to the provider.
You go u fuck u pay u leave.
That's the way I see it, when im ready to settle down and I find the girl I wanna marry this hobby thing is gone, kaput, good bye, but still young and listening to all the marrie d guys on here( I already have a negative opinion of marriage) damn they have made me even more doubtful about doing that one day.

Carry on nice thread.
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Old 02-12-2015, 09:08 PM   #18
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I personally like to develop a bond and friendship with someone and care about them. I need to like them personally to be attracted to them physically if that makes any sense. Someone with an attitude I don't find attractive.

Although I can't say I give gifts too often... I have given roses on occasion. What I have done more than once is help them out in times of need... paid their rent when they were getting eviction notices (helped a few with that).... helped with down payments on vehicles ... given gifts near christmas so they could buy presents for their kids.

One thing I do enjoy, and have only done it once, is taking someone out for dinner. I enjoy good company but I always struggle with "am I getting too emotionally" involved?
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Old 02-13-2015, 02:14 PM   #19
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I think the RE experience is wonderful. Yet I once had a mod mistake that abbreviated experience and announce it was the Rape experience lol. It really messed up my emails lol.
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Old 02-15-2015, 07:22 AM   #20
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Each person on both sides has thier own take on why they do this and what they are looking for. For me while I an always looking for a new potential, I do not like the first meeting with a provider. I consider it an investment in trying to see if she can become one of my regulars. if I am going to see someone 2-3 times a month, then there better be a connection and mutual likeability becomes important. Intimacy extends beyond just the physical presence and becomes on some level a mutual friendship. I rationalize this as a paid mistress. or as stated here the relationship experience. For the very few regulars I see, we usually text and are in contact weekly. usually this leads to our setting our time for the next date. Everything being said in the end the basic expectation is both parties need there main reason to be met, remove that from the equation on either side and it fails. So for me if means Release period, for her is means economic enhancement. take one away for either side of the equation and you will get radio silence very quickly.
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Each person on both sides has thier own take on why they do this and what they are looking for. For me while I an always looking for a new potential, I do not like the first meeting with a provider. I consider it an investment in trying to see if she can become one of my regulars. if I am going to see someone 2-3 times a month, then there better be a connection and mutual likeability becomes important. Intimacy extends beyond just the physical presence and becomes on some level a mutual friendship. I rationalize this as a paid mistress. or as stated here the relationship experience. For the very few regulars I see, we usually text and are in contact weekly. usually this leads to our setting our time for the next date. Everything being said in the end the basic expectation is both parties need there main reason to be met, remove that from the equation on either side and it fails. So for me if means Release period, for her is means economic enhancement. take one away for either side of the equation and you will get radio silence very quickly.
Yep, that's it!!!!!!!!! in a nutshell
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Old 02-15-2015, 09:54 AM   #22
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^^ yes that's the diff between "this" and a real relationship!!!
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Old 02-15-2015, 10:07 AM   #23
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^^ yes that's the diff between "this" and a real relationship!!!
yes, u done good trish.

U done real good.
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Old 02-15-2015, 10:42 AM   #24
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I enjoy my relationship experience with my ATF! Yes I sent her a,Valentines present and will get her a birthday, Christmas present and just every once in awhile send her flowers.
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I enjoy my relationship experience with my ATF! Yes I sent her a,Valentines present and will get her a birthday, Christmas present and just every once in awhile send her flowers.
That's really sweet, she is a very lucky girl.. : )
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I will agree she's lucky. I've done that a few times myself.
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I will agree she's lucky. I've done that a few times myself.
But only for my ATF.
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Old 02-15-2015, 08:57 PM   #28
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Heres the way I look at it, as I have dated , im not married and no so at this time but I go on dates now and then.

I meet the provider I know whats coming theres an exchange and theres an ending .

With a date no exchange no plan u talk theres no pre existing condition of her faking her way through anything or any topic u know the end game shes getting paid to do what youre gonna do.

The girl on the date may make u work for it, which sometimes after some dates its really good, ive found the longer u wait the better it is when it happens. But of course if youre like me and don't want all the bs that comes with that after the long term planning and what u doing tonight all that bs, then u turn to the provider.
You go u fuck u pay u leave.
That's the way I see it, when im ready to settle down and I find the girl I wanna marry this hobby thing is gone, kaput, good bye, but still young and listening to all the marrie d guys on here( I already have a negative opinion of marriage) damn they have made me even more doubtful about doing that one day.

Carry on nice thread.
I agree. I'm not married either. Although at this point I only plan to marry if the wife is also into girls and therefore is more inclined to let some joint hobbying slide.

I'm just addicted to new pussy man.
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Old 02-16-2015, 03:16 AM   #29
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It's rare to find a woman you can have a relationship with in the real world.

In this hobby world, the "relationship" is colored by her access to your wallet.

Some may be better than others at making you think you are more to them than a wallet.

Acting is a good skill to have in this industry.
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Old 02-16-2015, 04:55 PM   #30
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It's rare to find a woman you can have a relationship with in the real world.

In this hobby world, the "relationship" is colored by her access to your wallet.

Some may be better than others at making you think you are more to them than a wallet.

Acting is a good skill to have in this industry.
That must be why they keep checking up on my health as of late.
make sure the wallet filler lives
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