I've had lots of waitresses flirt with me. Never been laid by one... At least not off the clock! lol Flirting is part of the waitress' job. That's how they earn tips.
I've known a few providers who would date a civilian guy if they thought he was hot, or they might even boink a regular Joe if she was horny enough and he happened to be in the right place at the right time.
However, this is the exception.
Most of the providers I've known rarely date men off the clock. They might do it at first, but if they stay in the hobby for any length of time, the envelop becomes an important part of the foreplay.
I alluded to something similar in
another thread but I'm not sure how many people understood... Or cared! lol
If you're flirting with waitresses, you're probably just a lonely man. That's okay... There are quite a few of us here.