I agree with the OP as a fellow black man it's pretty frustrating.
I live in Miami and I have hell finding a decent black provider who sees black men, but I kinda think alot of this thinking is from their "personal" experiences which I simply cannot change no matter how hard I try.
I also agree with the provider who stated we simply have to deal with it and move on. We're not gonna change anyone's mindset anytime soon so why beat a dead horse?
Atlanta is probably the best spot to go for the number of blacks in the city but it's a high crime area as well so I expect a good amount of NBA policies..
I also think areas with less crime may have less NBA policies, for example "Colorado"
I'm still looking for a slim black provider down here and most are tatooed up drug users (backpage)