style of sex

[travis13131]

When I am in the real world it will dictate the style of sex we will have. It can be hard, or slow, crazy, kinky. I get the vibes by hanging out with the woman for hours. My question is, yes I have my fetishes and probably should just say them, but how do you dictate the type of sex you have with a provider.

For instance, I would NEVER pull on a woman's hair. Although have done it once in my life during sex. Would never do that with a provider thinking she would be afraid I am being too forceful

So were are the boundaries....Is it communication? Providers, What do you prefer for the hobbies to enjoy the experience to it's potential?

[knotty man]

Never Never NEVER, shit at her incall !!

[travis13131]

knotty man HA HA HA YOU ROCK!!! Shit at her incall. That made me pee a bit

[Secret_Amore]

communication is key.

for example if a guy wanted to pull on my hair i'm ok with that but pretty sure most guys don't because like you think it you make me feel uncomfortable or since i have extensions don't wanna pull out my hair which is a reasonable caution. some extensions I wear you really can't pull on them but other ones you can pull and tug to your hearts content. No worries mate

[travis13131]

Secret_Amore Appreciate the feedback. Very informative

[Centaur]

Originally Posted by travis13131

For instance, I would NEVER pull on a woman's hair. Although have done it once in my life during sex. Would never do that with a provider thinking she would be afraid I am being too forceful

IMHO that's something you should only ever do upon request, whether with a pro or a civvie. I've had both request it, though not many, and even then I start gently and only gradually increase tension until she seems satisfied. Like irrumatio, it's a matter of trust, and trust can be found at the intersection of openness, chemistry and self-restraint.

I think you and Secret Amore hit the nail on the head. Communication is key with anyone. The difference with a pro is that there's usually less time to find out what mutual activities and styles you both enjoy, unless for some reason you already know each other. On the other hand, there's also not nearly as much build-up. You both know why you're there. It's a sure thing. Being open with each other has a much lower chance of killing the mood, so you can navigate a little more freely. It's a different experience for sure. Not better or worse, just different, even from NSA sex with a civvie.

[fun2come]

TRUST and Communication !
The Safe word is the Safe word, just as a NO should be in the RW.

[travis13131]

I hear you guys...What about something as simple as letting the woman ride you, and lay
there like a piece of wood. I am not talking about just one fetish

[fun2come]

You talking Luge now. I am a huge Fan of that.

Luge: Lie on your back, steer just a little, and enjoy the ride to the finish line.

[travis13131]

fun2come

[fun2come]

But be very CAREFUL:

[travis13131]

HA HA HA but would hate her to be thinking this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rv6v5yBlmVk

[douglas_m]

Hey guys, there is an easy controllable way to "put tension on hair".
The simplest method is to first ask her to pull your hair, and respond in kind.

Do NOT follow what you see in the porno movies. This leads to hair loss and whiplash. Violent hair pulling is a symptom of sexual abuse.

Place your hand near her skull and grab a handful of hair. Then slowly make a tight fist for about 2 seconds. Then let up and move to a new location on her scalp. If you are able to, experiment on yourself first to find the right amount of tug. The idea is to release endorphins, and blood circulation without causing any tissue damage.

Please err on the side of caution.

[Guest032117]

Originally Posted by douglas_m

Hey guys, there is an easy controllable way to "put tension on hair".
The simplest method is to first ask her to pull your hair, and respond in kind.

Do NOT follow what you see in the porno movies. This leads to hair loss and whiplash. Violent hair pulling is a symptom of sexual abuse.

Place your hand near her skull and grab a handful of hair. Then slowly make a tight fist for about 2 seconds. Then let up and move to a new location on her scalp. If you are able to, experiment on yourself first to find the right amount of tug. The idea is to release endorphins, and blood circulation without causing any tissue damage.

Please err on the side of caution.

THIS^^^!!!

[Risn2TheOccasion]

Originally Posted by knotty man

Never Never NEVER, shit at her incall !!

LOL. Seems like I remember an entire thread devoted to this in the old ASPD days started by one MonicaFox.