Apparently I need help w/ etiquette

[FinnedAgain]

This is something I need help on because I'm confused. I contacted a couple providers from BP, something I usually don't do. I prefer to use this site but saw a couple that caught my eye on there. But when I call and ask about what is offered and donations I get hung up on.

I understand providers don't like to talk about things on the phone. I get that. But if you don't have that info in your post how am I supposed to know? As the saying goes, I was born in the night but it wasn't last night. I'm not going to schedule an appointment and know nothing about what I'm in for.

Am I missing something? Are there secret words I don't know? I'm not a seasoned veteran by any means but I've been in & out of this hobby for several years. I usually start off with a text but not everyone responds to them which is fine. What approach should I have when calling to get this info? I'm beginning to think my approach should just be in the opposite direction! Thanks.

[notswilson]

assume that the provider assumes you're a cop. now assume that hearing you ask "what services do you provide" pretty much confirms that.

now assume that you're not a cop. assume instead that you're an upstanding citizen wanting to make sure that THEY'RE not a cop. how would the questions differ?

[Skaven69]

My approach has been: "Hi <ad name>. This is <name>, I was wondering if you'd like to hang out for awhile."

Usually from that point on she directs the conversation and gives the pertinent information.

[FinnedAgain]

Thanks that does help. But what if she doesn't direct the conversation from there? I've had a few that trying to get any info was like pulling teeth. And the last thing I want to do is arrange a meeting if I'm not going to be interested in the first place. Thanks.

[Guest030114]

Before you contact the provider, check their ad to see if they require references. If so, give the provider your references and they should feel more comfortable in discussing their services and their fees for their time. Early in my hobbying career, I used the phrase "What should I bring to our meeting to compensate for your time?" That seemed to ease the tension of initial contact.

[LeilaniBebe]

If there is dead air on the other end the girl is most likely nervous or trying to hear whats going on in the background on your end.

When you feel like there is an awkward pause just compliment the girl about what made you call her. This always seem to break the ice for me.

If you do have references offer them to her if she doesn't ask right away. When I know you do have them it releases a little tension. Then allow her some time to go and verify you with said references.

Once I feel that you are safe & verified, I will answer any questions that you have. Of course this is from my perspective, I don't know what other girls are like on the phone.

[Eldoradorobb]

I ask if this is the person who posted the add or a friend/agent.
Next I ask what info do you need and how do you want me to convey that info.
Next Iask if they have been reviewed and where so I can screen them and let them know that you are just as concerned as they are for being safe.
If they have a problem with the business like approach I use then it just won't work out. It is after all a business and we are the clients.. they need to respect us as we should respect them..

I have had problems in the past even with 411 girls just flaking at the last second.. I can't figure it out but I have never died or went to jail for missing an appointment.. I just gave up on BP girls who aren't listed/reviewed anywhere else

[JD Barleycorn]

I'll give you a word of warning. A few years ago I answered an ad on BP. Exotic, Hawaian girl looking for a good time. I set up a meeting for later in the evening at a local motel in Lenexa. An hour later I got word of the death of a young person in my family. I spend the day running back and forth across the stateline. By the end of the day I was exhausted in so many ways (it was a damned hot day). Anyway, I called to cancel and did. I got called back later and then the third degree started. What did you want to do? I could do more to get you to come here? I'm sorry but we could still have a good time? Are you interested in multiple pops? I can give you a discount because of your problems. Anyway, bed was more inviting than pussy. Read the next day about the big prostitution sting at the Motel Six. Watch your back.

Let me add, this was a cop and not some lovely provider that we have on the site.

[Stiffy008]

So what I am reading from the above two statements, it would be a good idea to stay away from BP.
True or False
How could I research a provider.

[BigDeal]

Agree with above poster...stay use sites like the one we are on or TER....etc etc

I got tired of the never know what your gonna get from BP...and never looked back

[jaybee]

i see the p411 girls.... only 1 bad experance