My first time with potential pain

[PFCffff]

Hoping to get some advice....and maybe tips on what to expect from you more experienced players.....

I have a provider I've been seeing for some time, now. We're very comfortable with each other, so no trust issues. So far, I've only seen her for her cute & cuddly GFE services. But she does advertise services like BDSM.

So, I've set up a multi hour role playing session: shes the jilted wife, I'm the husband that has been "whoring around", she's found my hobby stash and used it to hire a professional lady to come and service me. The two of them are going to subject me to a multi-hour hobby version of "good cop....bad cop."


I've specified no restrictions other than no severe pain. This is my first time with a session like this. What should I expect? Watch out for? Ask for?



LOL.....I'm totally fucked...aren't I?

[Tom Terrific]

Yes

[Willen]

Look, who knows what 'totally fucked' means.

Establish a safety word/system. Discuss with her in advance what your limits are, as best you understand them now. Then explore.

[Cpalmson]

You really can't say no restrictions except no severe pain. That is too subjective of a requirement. I know you don't want to spoil the fantasy, but you should at least discuss the activities in a very broad sense. For example, will there be restraints? How do you define humiliation? You also have to set your threshold for pain and what does that really mean. When I contemplate any intense session, I let the provider know that I'm into stuff as long as there are no discernible marks left-- i.e. no hickeys, scratch marks, or even odors from oils or perfumes. You also need to develop trust with a safety word.

[DallasRain]

just remember "ouch" is not a safe word!!!