How to discuss an appointment??

[hittingcoach]

Due to a recent medical complication, my hobbying has slowed down considerably. I still like to see providers, but am kind of specific on what I want. What's a good way to approach this when seeing a new provider prior to the appointment?

[guest042413-2]

What is it you want?

[hittingcoach]

Full service is currently off the menu, so I like slow teasing, maybe a bitchy domme just HJ or BBBJ. It's all about the lingerie and seductive attitude. Kind of ruins the fun when you have to explain everything at the door.

[AlbanyBlonde]

Just be upfront about your expectations. The Provider, can make a decision from there.
Usually when a gent is looking for something specific, they discuss it in the initial email.

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by hittingcoach

Due to a recent medical complication, my hobbying has slowed down considerably. I still like to see providers, but am kind of specific on what I want. What's a good way to approach this when seeing a new provider prior to the appointment?

This is a great question. I would suggest:

1. Write your reviews with the notations of "I really like ___, ___, and ___, so I was very pleased that said provider was cool with them. <--- Make sure this part in not in the men's only section!!

2. When you contact a provider, refer her to your review links and note that you hope she reads them so she can get a feel for you. *Follow up that she did.

3. Discuss it with your ATF(s) and have them reference that with discretion while supplying a reference.

4. Search the provider activities for a lady who suits you, and when contacting her, tell her which reviews you thought were great. Link to them, and write something like "This gentleman and I seem to be in the same ballpark as far as wishes come true."

Good luck!
Happy Hobbying!!

Originally Posted by AlbanyBlonde

Just be upfront about your expectations. The Provider, can make a decision from there.
Usually when a gent is looking for something specific, they discuss it in the initial email.

If visiting with someone after discussing services, that can lead to an arrest. When reading through busts, they almost always say "agreed to perform for money."

Note that all states have their own laws for dominatrix. However that's not what we the OP is looking for singularly.

[Lexxxy]

Just tell her how incredibly hot you are and be like "Listen woman! I want ____!"*giggles*
All joking aside (but not really jyoking because you're HAWT), I would stick to VP or whatever this site calls us so you know she is a professional Lady. Just discuss it how a diabetic with a pump would. "_______is the situation, I need this and that and be careful because of my medical condition."
Discussing things is important beforehand. Medical conditions, what you hate, what you love, if you have a fence post in your pants and need her to have mags, fetishes (dont just show up with a duffle bag full of your furry get up), things that are a must.
Sorry to hijack but communication is extremely important between 2 safe individuals.

I'm sure any day now I'm going to get slammed with a shitty review half my fault half his fault due to a lack of communication. He wrote and just gave ref's and what time he wanted to see me I contacted them they gave no info other than he is all business and safe. We set it up and I didnt hear from him again until he's at my door. He pulls away when I try to kiss him and he says no kissing any sets of lips or touching each others butts then got completely nude and got on my bed. I go to do my awesome oral he says he doesn't like wasting time on oral because he just prefers sex. Then he told me to strip nude and lotion in front of him then do cg because that is the only thing he likes. I was a totally turned off uncomfortable robot, my flower is usually dripping with dew and I'm going nuts moaning and groaning when it's time for sex but I was dried up for the first time in my life and awkward.
1 Kissing is important to me to get ME going plus it forms an instant connection. Without it I robot.
2 I dress up just as much for me as I do for a Gent. It turns ME on and I'm ticklish as all hell the fishnets and nightie help with it. Getting naked is so boring, a turn off for me, and I can't stop giggling or squirming naked.
3 I am very tight and angled so cg is very uncomfortable and if not done extremely slow for only a short period of time I tear and bleed all over like I was stabbed. The only way I can discribe it is like when the dentist says "you're going to feel some pressure and a pinch" while shoving a huge needle into your jaw muscle or putting a fork in your mouth and ramming it into the side of your cheek as hard as you can. It sucks.
So I got naked, got lube out, warned him I may bleed, did cg as fast as possible just to get it over with because it was so painful, and after I offered him a shower to clean the blood off.
I gave him half of the donation back and apologized like crazy. My jaw hit the floor when he asked if I could see him again sometime. I came right out and explained everything and politely declined, he said to contact him if I change my mind.
Communication communication communication! If he would have explained his wants,needs, and rules ahead of time I would have declined so he could have found a better girl to suit his needs. Instead we both wasted our time, he got me in my F game, I tore myself, and I didn't get my full donation because I wouldn't be able to sleep at night knowing I didn't do a very good job I would have felt like a scam artist if I took it all.

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by hittingcoach

Full service is currently off the menu, so I like slow teasing, maybe a bitchy domme just HJ or BBBJ. It's all about the lingerie and seductive attitude. Kind of ruins the fun when you have to explain everything at the door.

Additionally, you might want to add in communication or a signature line at your email that you are a "lover of slow teasing, lingerie and seductive attitude."

As for me, personally, I get turned off when people discuss lingerie. I would be turned ON by the "lover of slow teasing and seductive attitude."

xx
Liz

[AlbanyBlonde]

In every situation i have encountered, the gent will include several reputable References, along with his request. There is also never any discussion of money, but hey, thanks again for your unsolicited advice.

[SweetElizabeth]

Originally Posted by AlbanyBlonde

In every situation i have encountered, the gent will include several reputable References, along with his request. There is also never any discussion of money, but hey, thanks again for your unsolicited advice.

As for unsolicited advise, this an escort client community information exchange. Hopefully my post will help someone, whether it be a man or a woman.

My post was not meant as a bash to you, only as a response to what you shared.

:-)

[Guest091813]

i really dont discuss activities with gents...i kinda go with the flow with them and let them lead..whatever he is comfortable with...if your not a full service guy..im sure you wont have an issue with any lady you visit without even having to go into that conversation...
'or see a rep lady and then use her as a ref..and just ask if she will let the lady know what you are comfortable with..I have done that for gents in the past..takes the awkwardness out of the situation for you and her...

[AlbanyBlonde]

If someone wants something that is not listed on the menu (fetishes, Greek, role-play, ect...), it has been my experience that the gentleman will discuss it upfront. Other then that, if someone asks, I refer them to My Showcase and Reviews.

[Tatiana M.]

I've had men with special needs and circumstances contact me. In the inicial email if they are usually a little vague, I ask them to be more specific....If someone is looking for something specific, or has specific needs, I would like to know exactly what it is. If I don't know, then how do I know if I'm the right lady for them? So I would prefer a gent to be upfront if he has special needs. OP, when you contact the provider just be upfront, it's just what I prefer anyways.

[stuckinsyracuse]

If the lingerie is the important part stress that. Ask if she could wear this or that. Nothing illicit there. Once in the room you can mention those BCD activities to take it slow and teasing?

Like a lot of things I'd decide what's important to you and communicate that part. As AB said the provider can then take it or leave it and as long as you handle it relatively tactfully I think most VP will accommodate. Given those circumstances I'd especially stick to VPs