my SO and i have been regular members of colette since shortly after it opened. there have been quite a few changes in not only the decor but most importantly, the clientele. as someone mentioned it is a bit more 'vanilla' than jasmine (charter members), which is why jasmine 'came to be'. as far as discreet? no f'n way. the fact that anyone who pays a membership is allowed to join (they are not very selective, just want the money) means that there a many people there to 'see the freaks' then run back and tell their bridge club, work buddies, etc. colette is NO big secret outside of the swinging lifestyle. you can be seen by someone you know without you seeing them. it doesn't take long for word to get out.
yes, your luck may be smiling, but single guys are charged exorbitant membership fees and outrageous door fees, your first night will cost you what a decent provider will cost and it's not a guarantee you will see any action.
tuna, it is not so much a 'late night place' per se. it opens at 9 and closes at 2 during the week and 4 saturday and sunday. newbie nights depend on what you're looking for. the club tends to be a sausage fest every night except saturday (tho unattached single males do somehow wind up there). if you're going with the intent to 'just watch' then any night is good. but don't be surprised if you're given the cold shoulder when someone engages you in conversation and they're made aware of that fact. if you say nothing, it is ASSUMED, anything goes. make your intents known to anyone seeking something beyond conversation. when everyone is piled up naked on a mattress is NOT the time to speak up.
a little fyi, and definitely not meant to offend anyone but fellas, i know quite a few ladies who are escorts that are members with their SO of colette. BUT! if you are going to take one of the other beautiful ladies as your 'date' make sure you are both 'somewhat' close in age. again, i am NOT trying to offend anyone, just trying to make your experience enjoyable. swingers are very savvy AND suspicious. a 60 something gent with a 21 yr old date screams 'she's a paid date'. 9 times out of 10 the lady ends up finding something to get into and the gent is left sitting alone at the bar. have seen it happen on more than one occasion.
the club is what you make it, but just like all other 'lifestyle' clubs, contrary to popular belief, it is NOT a free-for-all. RESPECT, just as in life, goes a long way in a swing club.